i've dated my girl for 4 years but have been postponing it until we're both ready as far as money goes. Now that our careers are good- we're not getting along so great- i think she's waiting for me to say it. What romatic ways would you suggest yourmant o propose to you? ladies only!
2006-10-25 07:06:34 · 14 answers · asked by joey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If you are not getting along so great, now is NOT the time to propose. Figure out what is wrong with the relationship and work on fixing it before you EVER consider marriage.
2006-10-25 07:08:37 · answer #1 · answered by kja63 7 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I agree that you should figure out what's going on now. Don't guess at what you think it might be, just communicate and find out and resolve it. Why aren't you getting along? It sounds like you bnoth have come to a point where you both know who you are and have ended all that discovering myself stuff. You want to make sure that you are both on the same page. I've been dating my boyfriend for about four years and we both know we'll eventually get there but we need some more time to get it together. If I start talking about a friend or relative's upcoming wedding he'll says omething like " Have you thought about what you would want on your big day?" or something. Same for other friends who have looked at engagement rings. If she isn't talking about it then maybe she's not ready. And even if she is talking about it she'll give you clues if she is or isn't ready. Like "Oh no, I haven't really thought about it--it seems so far away!"
If you are both ready then do something thats personal to you as a couple. Think about the things you both like or where you met. Try to do something untraditional, you'll both be telling the story many times. Maybe you could work with one of her friends to see if she said anything about how she would want to be proposed to.
Good Luck!
2006-10-25 14:21:20 · answer #2 · answered by red_shoes_lady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like maybe things aren't going so great because maybe she has given up on you asking and therefore thinks the relationship is going nowhere. 4 years! I wouldn't have waited around that long!
About ways to do it. I'm not really into the cheesy big public displays, you know like on the jumbotron at the hockey game, or at a restaurant. I think it'd be nice in a romantic and intimate way. Like, prepare dinner for her, just the two of you. Or when you're just cuddling on the couch. Or go somewhere pretty for a walk, somewhere private.
Personally I think the whole traditional surprise, big, grand thing is cheesy. She's not winning a prize. Marriage should be taken seriously and so should the decision to get married.
2006-10-25 14:16:31 · answer #3 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the relationship is rocky do not propose to her until you know why it is rocky. What way to propose depends on the person. What does she like what do you do together. If you go out dancing then sneak up to the band/ DJ which ever and ask them to ask.......... Give them a note stating what you want to say and ask her in front of everybody. make sure you bring the ring. If you are at the mall you can go to customer service and have it said over the loud speaker. put it on the radio and make sure you are both at home listening to the radio when it is on. ask before hand what time to expect it aired. There are so many ways you can do it. Just don't do it close to a holiday or a birthday it isn't that special to us. good luck with your decision and let me be one of the firsts to ~~congratulate you~~ ~~CoNgRaTs~~
2006-10-25 14:23:34 · answer #4 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, for me, I would like to be proposed to while having a picnic at a nice park (nicely prepared by you) on a beautiful, sunny day, preferably during the late spring or early summer.
2006-10-25 14:09:53 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are so many ways. You have to think of something that relates to your relationship.
Try lighting up a room with candles and flowers.
Or walking down the beach and pretend to find a seashell and tell her to open it.
Or placing it in a champagne glass.
2006-10-25 14:09:54 · answer #6 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take her out to a nice restaurant, go back to your place &
put on some nice slow music, ask her to dance w/ you
while you are dancing to your favorite song ask her to marry you. good luck & it's ABOUT time, she must be a
great lady to wait that long .
2006-10-25 14:15:16 · answer #7 · answered by start 6-22-06 summer time Mom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take her to a nice romantic restaurant where you have to dress up, then when she is not expecting it, like when she turns away, get down on your knee and pop the question.
2006-10-25 14:10:37 · answer #8 · answered by Clints_wench 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well take her out to dinner then just go out where it just the two of you under the stars and ask her to marry you then afterwards if she says yes which im sure she will go celebrate w/some ice cream!!!
2006-10-25 14:08:49 · answer #9 · answered by SexyAmby 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I don't have any romantic suggestions, but I can tell you asking someone to marry you when you aren't getting alone very well is NOT a good time to do it.
2006-10-25 14:14:03 · answer #10 · answered by aint_no_stoppin_us 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋