For example, I work with someone I don't like. I haven't told her I don't like her.
Is it ok for me to pretend like I like her so as not to hurt her feelings?
Would this be bearing false witness?
2006-10-25 06:55:47 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Sure. There are many good times to lie. Yes, it is being a false witness, but that's not a bad thing. Of course, there are times that are more appropriate and less appropriate for lying.
You have a brain. You know the pros and cons of lying. Ultimately, it's your character by which people judge you. Don't default to what people try to spoon-feed you from old books.
2006-10-25 06:57:11 · answer #1 · answered by nondescript 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the best example: someone at work asks you what you think of the lovely new dress she bought yesterday. As far as you're concerned she looks like a rancid old prostitute in it. Do you tell her or do you lie? I'd always lie because the truth would be hurtful and it would just be my opinion and I could be wrong, or the majority of other people could find her beautiful in that dress. Hurting someone's feelings and making them miserable for the sake of the truth is not worth it and the good deed would be to lie. Not all lies are bad, and sparing someone's feelings surely is not a bad thing?
2006-10-25 07:02:45 · answer #2 · answered by John P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the ten commandments were written as guidelines and should be followed with the best intent. Nothing is black and white in life or in the dealings of life. As a general rule truth is most always best. However, with saying that I need to point out that the intent of the heart and the motives is what is judged. As for your friend this is not a case of lying just because you didn't go out of your way to tell you don't like. As for bearing false witness........your way off on understanding what that means.
2006-10-25 07:13:16 · answer #3 · answered by maybe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question, but lying to someone should only be done as a last resort, not 1st.
You don't have to tell this person anything regarding your feelings toward her, just let your actions speak for you.
Furthermore, you can protect her feelings by respecting her instead of lying to her, since we are all called to do that to our neighbors, whether we like them or not.
As a Christian, I believe that loving someone doesn't necessarily include liking them, since Jesus told us to love even our enemies.
2006-10-25 10:17:52 · answer #4 · answered by STILL standing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My handle that's this...mendacity is undesirable using fact it slanders somebody, falsely accuses, etc. It creates harm to a distinctive. despite the fact that, the "white lie" that we would desire to do to get via in society is okay considering that's certainly helping and not hurting. God hates it as quickly as we injury one yet another. Telling him his cakes are marvelous is an outstanding component.
2016-11-25 20:15:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling her the truth can't possibly bring about any good. Lie to spare her feelings. Lie to spare anyone's feelings. What is there to gain by hurting another?
2006-10-25 06:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is work, you do not need to be spreading your personal attitudes (people you don't like) at work. It is totally unprofessional. You might find the supervisors don't like you if you are like that !
You also do not need to feign being friendly
What you DO need to do is behave with courtesy and be professional. Save that left over high school drama for your own living room.
2006-10-25 07:00:31 · answer #7 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea thats a mess but u shouldnt lie to them cause one day there going to annoy u to far and ur going to go crazy and then really hurt her feelings, just go in an area were nobody will hear you and not make a fool of her and tell her nicely and say that u dont mean in a mean way.
2006-10-25 06:59:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like her, you don't like her. You don't have to pretend you like her. Why can't you just be civil to her at work? When you talk to her keep it strictly work related. You need to get over why you don't like her. I think hating someone for no good reason is worse than being nice to her because you have to work together.
2006-10-25 07:00:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that would be fine. I have had to act like I like someone many times just to make things go smoothly at work. I do that everytime I go to my mom's house. Her husband is a jerk, but if I don't give him a hug it will look bad. yuck
2006-10-25 07:17:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋