okay i am dating someone and i've been with him for a little over 2 years, and it's going ok, but there is this guy that i met and i have this thing for him and he has a thing for me. he is married. he asked me out on a date and i said yeah but let me get back to you. i know what i'm doing is wrong but you can't help it when you have a connection with someone right? someone help me out i need to know if i should do it or not and if what i am doing is really wrong.please help me
2006-10-25 06:47:54 · 21 answers · asked by michelle w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop being selfish and think of the other people you would be hurting in this situation! Your boyfriend, his wife.. and if he has kids his kids! If you can honestly do that you are a selfish horrible person. Sorry to rude but i cant even believe you'd think about it.
2006-10-25 06:56:34 · answer #1 · answered by roxygurl1307 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It a moral thing now, and your wrong if you go out on a date with a married man, look at it this way, If you were married would you appreciate your husband going behide your back asking women out for a date? No matter how right it may seem at the moment, in the end what hides in the dark must come into the light. Really think about this before you do it!
2006-10-25 14:00:08 · answer #2 · answered by Step 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only asaking you out because he lacks integrity and he is reinventing himself for you because he is too chicken and dishonest to turn to his wife to fulfill his unmet needs. He isn't really interested in you. He just needs to you serve his own ego, so he can feel sexy and saught after. You could be anybody.
How can you even consider or respect a man like that? What would you feel like if you were in his wife's shoes? How do you think your bf feels about your interest in this married guy? You know you shouldn't go there, that's why you are asking on yahoo answers. Before you do anything questionable, put yourself in someone else's shoes.
Maybe it's your ego. Maybe you need to boost your own ego by distracting a married guy's attention away from his wife. Maybe you need to "one-up" another woman to feel more desirable and sexy yourself.
You can never gain more self esteem by bringing someone else down. It doesn't work like that. You have to build yourself up with your own accomplishments.
Ask yourself what you would do if the roles were reversed. Ask yourself what your parents would think of you if you did something. If it's something you have to hide from others, or you question doing, then you know it is wrong.
I know you are going to do whatever you want. You will find a way to justify it to yourself. Eventually, you will have to face it, and you will have yourself to live with. I hope this happens to you when you are married some day......
2006-10-25 14:00:56 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. Even though there is an attraction you are in a relationship and he is married. We can get a thing for somebody else even though we're in a relationship already but we can help acting on it. It's not fair to the other person/s (your boyfriend, his wife) who are trusting you and him to the do the right thing. If this attraction is so strong then it is better to end the other relationships first. Besides were can dating this guy go anyway. Your both with other people. Sounds like a recipe for a lot of bad emotions like guilt not to mention having to sneak around and lie.
2006-10-25 13:57:49 · answer #4 · answered by hotsweetcoffee 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have always believed that we are the makers of our own destiny. Whether or not what you're doing is wrong is beside the point.
Cease the day!!!
You will never know what might have been if you didn't try. If you leave the other in favor of the married guy and he turns out not quite what you expected, charge it to experience.
You are responsible for your own happines and happiness, I believe, is something we should search for on our own, not relying on what society tells us what is wrong for us or not.
2006-10-25 14:04:41 · answer #5 · answered by Nelson M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are choosing to date a married one over a single man you've been with a while, you already have a problem. You would consider being a homewrecker and date a man who if he divorced his wife and married you , would do the same to you. I think you know the answer to your question, or you enjoy heartache and pain over love and security.
2006-10-25 13:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by mainah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do people keep coming on here asking whether or not it's OK to get with a married person?
Honestly, what do you think we're going to say, "yeah don't feel guilty have a great affair"?
Get real!!!!
Of course it's not OK.
2006-10-25 13:55:53 · answer #7 · answered by Ben R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You already know the answer to this one. The fact that you asked attested to that fact. You never want a man to leave someone for you. He should divorce his wife, then approach you. That shows a lot about his character (or lack thereof) as a man.
2006-10-25 14:11:34 · answer #8 · answered by godhainder 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you go you will be a home wrecker, cheater, and an evil person. You should leave the married man alone. Let him wreck is own life without you.
2006-10-25 13:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get involved with a married man. Because KARMA. What goes around comes around. Consider that..
2006-10-25 13:54:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋