I need advise 20-35 yrs old please answer!?

Question

i am 26, im dating a 24 yr old.
we have been dating for 3 mths and i need advise before things get more serious!
his parents are very old fashion, keep this in mind.
his cousin and i are best friends, i was married (not anymore) and i have a 7yrs old boy. now my bf want to take things to the next level (marriage), yes its soon but we known each other for the longest, anyway his parent WILL disapprove of me, it will cause a big problem, i don't like drama! I'm willing to let him go and just be friends (like if thats possible after lovin someone) because i know his family (cousins, aunties and his brothers, not his mom and dad). i don't know what to do . should i break up with him?
i talk to him about it well he doesn't care!
please give me any advise u have

Answer 1

I feel you on this one, I have been in the same situation b4 but it was his sista because his parents have passed away so his sista tries to take over the mother role, regardless of what anyones said about you and your relationship with their son. If you love this man and this man loves you and he is treating you as his queen, please forget what others are going to say, you don't have to deal with those people and if they really care about their son then it shouldn't be a problem of whom he dates or marry. If he is happy and you are by all means be happy and move on with your future with him. Even though you have been married b4 and have a child that isn't his, you may be the best one for their son. Don't worry about their disapprovement you just continue to prove to your man that you are a good woman and you is going treat him as your prince. Don't break your relationship when it is full of happiness over no disapprovement of his parents. Love him and show them you love him and no matter what they disapprove you going be in his life as long as he loves you. Keep ya head up and don't take no mess off anyway because you deserve respect also. Love your man girl!!!!! I hope the best for you and him cause this can be stressful and full of drama.

Answer 2

well this would be a hard dicisson to make, but its a choice that you and your bf have to make together. You two are both adults. Once you marry its a life that the two of you will live not his family. If you guys love each other then thats all that counts. Your son is also a factor in this. He is 7yrs old, so you do have to take his feelings in this into concideration as well. Is his father in the picture? Does your son like your bf? Do they get along? Only these are questions you can answer. Never let family get in between your lives. Hopefully one day they wiil come to realize that you guys love each other. And being his family loves your bf they should get over the fact of why they dont approve of this. Unless you have done something to disrespect them, they should not have such a hold on him. Good luck.

Answer 3

When you love someone, there are always sacrifices. There will be no relationship you encounter where things are totally perfect and you never feel sad, frustrated, or confused. Sometimes things happen like this, and you can't let adversity drown you and keep you away from the things you want.

Remember too that while family is important, you are interested in this boy and not his mother. You can't put what other people think of you ahead of your own happiness.

I think you should wait it out. I think that you should put these marriage plans on hold for at least a year and wait to tell his friends and family your plans for matrimony. Meet thim as his girlfriend and let them get to know you before dropping the daughter in law on them.

Answer 4

How do you know his parents will disapprove? because you already have a baby? Just keep in mind that you aren't marrying his parents. He loves you regardless of the child and him wanting to marry you dispite what his parents think should tell you that he is really committed to being with you. You have to learn to trust yourself and don't worry about what others think. I know that they are his parents and that they are very traditional in their ways but you aren't marrying his parents again you are marrying him. He seems to love you and to throw love away like what the two of you seem to have would be crazy in my opinion. The bible says: A man that finds a wife finds a good thing. Also, something to this effct: once that wife is found that man must leave his parents and cleave to his wife or something like that. He seems to be willing to be with you so don't be a fool and throw away your blessing from God. I hope it all works out for you and CONGRATULATIONS

Answer 5

You can't make everyone like you or approve of you. And if you are in love with him then his parents shouldn't matter. You are going to marry him not his parents. I understand how you always want your partners parents to like and welcome you into the family but don't let them come in between you and the one you love. And if his parents opinions of you really made any difference then he wouldn't have stayed with you for this long. So if he doesn't care what his own parents think then why should you?

I should know because my brother is about to marry a white girl and my mom doesn't approve of it. She feels that everyone should marry their own race. But do you think that is going to stop my brother? Trust me eventually my mom will come around and so will your partners parents.

Answer 6

Obviously he knew about your son and still wants to marry you. So if you love each other who cares about his family? They'd eventually have to accept you if you're a good person. Just know that you'll have some tension between you from it. I'd say give it a little more time in your relationship first. His family may warm to the idea more if they get to know you first.

Answer 7

You're marrying the man , not his parent's. No don't break up over cold feet. You sound so doubtful, like not sure you want this . Don't make excuses . If your love is true and strong ,his family can not hold out on their son's happiness, even loving you and your's.

Answer 8

I think you should not worry about that yet and that should not be so serious with a 24 year old yet. He is to young to tie down, and he will cheat on you! Even if he thinks he is ready, sorry hon, he's not. Are you ready? and if your not ready 4 that kind of thing then it doesn't matter what his parents or your think..... when your young " d^$k is d**k like meet on bone, f**K it suck it or leave it alone.

Answer 9

Follow you heart. Who cares what other people think, it you life and his. If he wants to marry you and you accept, then go for it, because if you decide to just push this thing to the left and let him go, you might later on regret the decision you made, when there could have been another way to approach the situation.

Answer 10

I can tell you, it's very hard to be with someone when the family, either one, doesn't approve. I was in a marriage like that and it only lasted 2 years....that doesn't mean it'll happen to you guys, but, it's very hard to keep everything going smoothly, when so many are constantly complaining about everything you do...