He is 2 years and half, if I don't give him what he wants, he gets angry and tries to hit anything in front of him. I really don't know what to do with him, can someone give me an idea please?
2006-10-25 06:33:37 · 12 answers · asked by fattoumi 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Spank the crap outta him.
2006-10-25 06:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My nephew was the same way often throwing temper tantrums or screaming untill we gave in to him. One day when I was babysitting I had, had enough I decided to let him scream all day if needed. I put him in his room and told him that it was ok to scream, but not in my ears. I explained that it hurt. He didn't seem to care and began screaming directly in my face, so when my temper started to boil up I scrame back directly into his face. He stopped screaming immediatley and apologized. I think it takes someone to show them exactly how it feels, until then they really don't grasp the idea. I am not saying to hit your son, but maybe he needs to be isolated in his room, that way if he does destroy anything it is his own. He will stop after he realizes that it isn't going to do any good to hit.
2006-10-25 06:45:19 · answer #2 · answered by jackiemontgomer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep structure and schedules. Make a written schedule as to exactly how his day is to go. Chart it and follow it, you will all benefit from it.
If you give in it will only get worse. And he will get bigger and stronger and more stubborn.
Children need structure and the parents MUST always be in agreement. Make yourselves agree on how to reasonably handle your child. If you do not agree, a small child can sense this and drive a wedge between you and overpower both of you.
If he is behaving badly he can go to his room. Not a room full of toys.
My daughter always had to leave my presence if she behaved badly. She learned quickly I wouldn't keep her near me if she behaved badly. So she got over it very quickly.
2006-10-25 08:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the age. Both of my brothers went through it. They throw tantrums if they don't get what they want.
What you have to make sure you do is stay strong and consistent and don't let up! Don't let him walk all over you because it'll just get worse as he gets older.
I did the same thing as a toddler, and what my mom would do is put me in my room and let me scream it out, then she would ask me if I was calm, then let me out again. Kids gotta learn who's boss, and that they can't get everything they want (unless of course they work for it, but that's a lesson learned later in life).
2006-10-25 06:35:38 · answer #4 · answered by red_rose6886 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
teach him kindness
by example
when he acts up
slow down
when he slows down
return to normal
he may need proffessional help
I am NOT recomending prescription medication of any type
the psycologists will go there without hesitation
try taking him to a serene place such as a garden
Ther Zen /Center of Los Angeles is an option
have a cup of tea there
talk to some Budhist's about your issue
2006-10-25 06:40:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son's brain is expanding, his emotional range is expanding, his view of himself is growing. It's a wonderful thing. He gets angry now when he can't get what he wants because he has finally figured out that there is a choice, that life doesn't have to be exactly what's happening.
What he's doing is normal and you can even rejoice in his development - the important thing is for you to teach him how to channel his emotions.
Something that works wonderfully is giving him his desire in imagination. When he says - i don't want this lunch, i want french fries, you say "Oh, I know, I wish i could give you a mountain of french fries. So many french fries we could dive off a mountain of them into a pool of ketchup." Then, he gets that you understand his feelings and empathize, while you are sticking to rules. He'll be more open, since you are - at least in imagination.
Another thing to do is teach him to use his words. Say - oh, you are very angry about this. or, you are so sad to have to stop this.
Always say - hitting is wrong. (and don't ever hit him!)
Another important thing is to prepare him for transitions. It's hard for kids to stop something fun they're doing, as it is hard for you. Be sympathetic to the fact that he has virutally no control over his life. Give him choices where you can, in fact. Have as few rules as possible, in fact, and stick to them. And, prepare for transitions - when you are getting ready to stop him from playing with something or at a playground, say - in ten minutes we have to leave. then, in five minutes, we have to leave. then, we're going now. wave bye bye to the playground, wave bye=bye to your toys, whatever.
The key thing is to understand he is expressing his new understanding of the world and he needs you to teach him how to manage his feelings, how to meet his needs and wants as often as possible without hurting others and while meeting the rules of his household.
The book "how to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk' is fabulous for learning how to approach helping kids develop self-control.
2006-10-25 06:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus On The Family with Dr. James Dobson, is great in all aspects of raising children.
2006-10-25 07:45:32 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uh, MOTHER!... let that child fall out on occasion (sometimes they bump their heads and won't fall out again!) that's my favorite. but, othertimes you may need to actually DISCIPLINE your CHILD! that is a very vulnerable age and can set the tone for the many years to come. don't frighten your child, but do put enough respectful fear in him that he begins to learn who is in charge of him, not the other way around. newborns run the show, NOT toddlers! this won't happen overnight; so be diligent and consistent in your plan. (spare the rod, spoil the child) good luck!
2006-10-25 06:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by christian.renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
know what.. he is training you to give him what he wants.. NEVER NEVER give in... if you say NO once.. do NOT give in.. he knows that if he acts up eventually you will cave in - this is a testing phase and beleive me if you give in now you will have HELL on your hands when he is a teenager... my sister works with parents who have problem teens
often the parents let them have their way as kids becuase it was "easier" then the kids grow up and are outragously impossible to say NO to.. so the parents tell my sister to "fix" the problem they created....
you are doing your son NO favors by giving him what he wants
EVERYBODY must learn that sometimes you do not get what you want... learning this is very important.. or he will be one messed up adult
2006-10-25 06:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by CF_ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 2 just remember who the parent is and who the child is and who is training who
2006-10-25 06:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by norsmen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop giving in to him
2006-10-25 06:40:58 · answer #11 · answered by autumn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋