How can i get my mind cleared of thoughts of my last girlfriend? she's really haunting my mind. please help me

Question

Its been weeks now since she came back from her mommies place. She'd stayed for over 4 weeks without even a call. Now she's back all she does is to avoid me and keep the distance between us. I want play according to her rules and forget about her. I'll mind my business while she minds hers. But the problem is that i really love her then. Don't know about now, but i know i still feel something for her. Pictures and memories of us together keep haunting me day and night. especially, when am alone. Please could someone help me with some advice. i really need to get rid of these thoughts...

Answer 1

tell her how you feel

Answer 2

Mayn, i realy feel what you sayin mayn. I had the exact same experience with my first lady (a.k.a. trick). I'm talkin bout the losing contact for a week cuz she was at her grandmama house and everything. You just gon have to move on. When one door closes, another opens. Any kind of contact you try to make with her, just stop it. Throw away her phone number and her relatives numbers. Lose all contact with her, and go from there.
Truth is, you're never gonna forget her, and you'll always miss the time you guyz shared, but you're becoming a man now, and a man won't let a thing like this keep him down. You gotta deal with it. My experience made me a man. I still miss that girl, but it ain't holdin me back no more.

This experience is going to play a very important role in you becoming the man you are meant to be. You play the cards you're dealt. This is your battle soldier. March!!!

Answer 3

ok that stuff is neva easy! i kno u say u still luv dis grl, but sometimes u cant 4get bout sum1 til u fall 4 sum1 else. i kno its hard bc u luv her but obviously she didnt really luv u or she would b u w/ now! but if u really want 2 4get bout her, then ur best bet is 2 find sum1 new, or 2 jus stay busy all the time. try not 2 b alone alot. like if u have 2 go sumwhere, then call sum boyz 2 go w/ u. ask sum1 u trust who is a grl 2 stay da nite w/ u, that way u'll have ur mind on her instead of ur ex. well best of luck, bc i kno that shyt sucks.

Answer 4

Unfortunately, it is going to take time. We can't automatically cut out memories and people out of our minds because we want to get over them. The heart never forgets. But while it never forgets, we do find new ways/people to love. Keep your head up. It will get better.

Answer 5

Maybe you should have a talk with her. Don't waste time playing her game. Sit her down and ask her what's going on. Do a clean breakup and move on if you have to. One way to get over a break up is to find someone better.

Answer 6

You are lovesick. That sucks I think we have all been through that. Get rid of all the things that remind you of her, and put your focus and motivation into something else (car, family, job, friends) in time, you will feel better although you may never forget her, you will find somebody better....don't pass up the chance!

Answer 7

You just need to leave that gurl alone....because obviously she don't have the feeling that she used to for you....she need to be a women and let you know something....instead of ignoring you.

Answer 8

well...did you guys have a closure to your relationship? if not then that might be the problem. you guys need to talk about where you guys stand in terms as friends or more than that. And then you guys should talk about what went wrong with your relationship.

Answer 9

Get rid of the pics. Put them away. I had to do that when my ex fiance and I split. She is moving on, so should you.

Answer 10

a just keep your head up and try to think of something that you use to drem about

Answer 11

i think you should just move on and see other people. from your Question it seems like she's not feeling you.