Hypothetical example: Let's say you are in a bookstore that has a café.You see someone that you find attractive. (or perhaps you are the person someone else, in there, finds attractive)
Would you approach them, make some chit chat and invite them to join you for a drink in the café?
More importantly: If you're on the receiving end of the invitation, would you accept?
I call this "spontaneous" dating or "instant" dating. No, I do not mean "speed dating" That's totally different altogether.
I just used a bookstore as an example. The places for opportunity are endless.
Has anyone ever asked you for an instant date? Did you accept?
Have you ever asked anyone for an instant date? How did it go?
2006-10-25 06:16:48 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would casually stroll by with my coffee, and notice what they are reading. I would ask them about it and how do they like it? Judging from their response, I would either proceed or not. It they acted friendly like they wanted to talk about it, I would remain standing and talk and only sit if asked. I wouldn't even consider the idea of "dating" at that point, but I would consider it "testing the waters" and the "evaluation stage" and then decide whether or not I wanted to proceed.
2006-10-25 06:20:36 · answer #1 · answered by galacticsleigh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been asked on an instant date and well, it went pretty well. This is a date of opportunity. It's alsmost hard to say no when the coffee shop is right there and you have books and music to go to if it doesn't work out.
I have also said no to these instant dates because I got freaked out by the guy. It's easier to say yes if you approach the person about a book or something in the area rather than... "HEY... wanna get a drink?"
2006-10-25 13:22:30 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly_girl83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was single, yeah, I'd go on an instant date if I had time. The only thing that would suck about getting approached like that would be if I thought a connection might be made with the guy but then I didn't have time to go on the date or had to leave. The excuses that could very well be genuine for not going on the date might be taken as blowing him off. As far as asking someone on a insta-date... no. I don't think I'd have the guts.
2006-10-25 13:20:26 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why yes! I am glad when there is an instant connection to someone. It feels good to know that people are attracted to you and don't know an ounce of information about you. Hey if you feel like it go for the one night stand with the much needed protection of course. Hey I know that's the real question of the hour anyway!
2006-10-25 13:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by KimmeD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, happens all the time. I ask guys like this, and I love it when they ask me (assuming they are respectful about it). Am currently seeing a couple of guys, one i met at a maccas drive through, another at a food place and a third i saw in the uni cafe. My ex of over a year i met at a take away outlet. Why it is always food places, i dunno, i guess i must eat a lot, lol! Oh, and I also dated a guy i met at a service station. 4 out of 5 of these guys turned out to be really nice people. I'm all for it!
2006-10-25 13:23:39 · answer #5 · answered by Elle W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was at a B&N and saw an attractive woman reading a book. I went to the information desk and asked for some related authors, went and picked one out and took it to her. I told her that I noticed she was reading so-and-so and thought she might enjoy this one. She was impressed and asked me to sit with her. We talked for a while (I admitted I had no clue about either author, more brownie points for honestly), I asked her to join me for dinner and she agreed (said anyone as creative as me deserved her time, lol). We ended up dating for a while; it was a great way to meet her.
2006-10-25 13:26:05 · answer #6 · answered by Rick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, I accepted his invitation. It was fun and I think things that are split second decisions are the most exciting because you don't have time to think about it, well if your like me anyways. And i've asked as well and that went just as good, it's a great way to meet new people and have fun when your in a quick hurry.
2006-10-25 13:28:38 · answer #7 · answered by sexton 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It has happened to me, but never anything I have pursue myself. I guess I am too shy.
I met my husband with one of these little spontaneous chatter chats. I was at the Detroit Ho Down and I had just taken a photo with my mother, my husband, whom I have never met before, walked up to me and asked if he could have a picture taken with me cause I am so beautiful. So I did, he gave me his number and we hooked up, only to marry 4 weeks later!!! Amazing, now it's been 9 1/2 years of marriage and we have two children.
2006-10-25 13:20:56 · answer #8 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a friend that did and it turn out ok. They are still dating
2006-10-25 13:21:15 · answer #9 · answered by Pumpkin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends
2006-10-25 13:19:44 · answer #10 · answered by sexy_tommygir_123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋