i am with my boyfriend a while now. we go to the same college and see eachother everyday. the problem is my ex boyfriend also goes there and i think he has told everybody that im a bit of a w.h.o.r.e . , because my boyfriend said it to me the other day. i denied it strongly but i dont want him thinking that i am when im not. it is so difficult to make things work out properly between us when people are saying things. i mean he is a nice boyfiend and treats me with respect but i am insecure and always seem to pick little fights with him. what should i do? thanks guys
2006-10-25 06:15:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Respects you but calls you a w.h.o.r.e. You don't know what respect means do you. First of all even if you were fighting with him, he still ment it. Why would he say something unless he really feels that way about you. But if you love him then you should just give him the cold shoulder because it will make him feel guilty.
2006-10-25 06:24:59 · answer #1 · answered by milky 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you should say that if your ex has been saying such things about you, then it should be very clear to everybody who hears them exactly why he is your ex. That is a very unkind, childish and yes- un-gentlemanly thing to do! The person spreading these lies is proving to the world exactly what kind of person he is every time he spreads these slurs.
Anybody who knows you better will treat this insulting talk with the contempt it deserves and ignore it entirely. Anybody who believes it is probably not your friend anyway and their opinion should mean very little to you. Do not feel the need to defend yourself on this matter, because you have done nothing wrong.
Appraoch your college and tell them that this behaviour is a form of verbal abuse and bullying and ask them to do something about it It may help if you can list times and dates or give reports of when this person said these things or behaved otherwise inappropriately towards you.
As for your fights with your boyfriend, I think that you need to allow for the stress that you have been placed under of late. Also remember, that this boyfriend of yours is not your ex, he has given you no reason to be angry with him. It is possible that you are taking out your frustrations on him and that is not entirely fair. Talk to him about what make syou angry when you feel the need to snipe at him, resist it and talk instead.
Don't allow this bullying ex of yours to win, every time you argue with your boyfriend he is doing just that!
i wish you well
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2006-10-25 13:24:30 · answer #2 · answered by lady_sephie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend loves you enough, he will know you are not a w.h.o.r.e so i would not worry about it. if he still thinks you are one after what has been said, he is not the right person for you. keep your head held high and forget this ex as he is not worth bothering about. enjoy life to the full
2006-10-25 13:25:04 · answer #3 · answered by bond29 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss with him, let him understand that u're not a whore. Let him know trhat ur ex bf is just making that up so that u guys can break up. Let him know how u feel about the whole situation. I'm sure that he'll understand and respect u more for that.
2006-10-25 13:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by teemah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
completely ignore this ex boyfriend he is jealous and bitter because yu are with someone else and does not sound nice, if he talks about it make no big deal about it, if you take too much notice of what people say aobut you people think it is true, if you ignore it no one takes no notice and it soon blows over. people will be talking about something or someone else before long.
2006-10-25 13:59:59 · answer #5 · answered by guysmithdenise 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really cares about you he will take no notice what your ex has been saying about you.
Sounds like your ex is jelous because he hates to see you happy with your new guy.
Just ignore, him and enjoy your time with new man.
2006-10-25 13:20:37 · answer #6 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront the ex with the new boyfriend.. Keep it a united front. you need to say "we understand you may have feelings for me, (her), however, we will not listen to you badmouth her/me and we will not listen to any more of your attemtps to break us up"
2006-10-25 13:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your man not to listen to all that rubbish. tell your male frends to go and beat up your ex bf, then let them rape him 5 times!! hard
2006-10-25 14:00:57 · answer #8 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him, if he loves you, he should't be listening to all that rubbish!!!!
2006-10-25 13:26:27 · answer #9 · answered by tanja 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋