Your motherly advise?

Question

Im 18 years old, 19 in a few months and I have a two month old baby girl. In a few weeks I will be moving out of state, away from my mother into my own house. Im terrified of being on my own but I know I have to because of my daughter. I will be going to school part time and working part time to get by. Everything is prettymuch set up and Im there as of 3 wks. Any advise? house advise? baby advise? Please dont lecture me on my mistakes I've obviously heard enough of that already!! Thanx

Yes I graduated highschool on time when I say school, i mean college

Answer 1

sounds like to me you have things in order... have you got a sitter set up through the school you will be attending? Alot of schools offer this, I didn't know if you were aware of that or not,... Good Luck making a good life for you and your baby.

Answer 2

You go, girl! I can totally relate! I was a single Mom to TWO small children while I attended college. It takes courage, determination and faith. You are already setting your little girl up for a great life just by showing her how to be a strong woman and by showing her that an education is very important. My first bit of advice would be to get to know your new neighbors. Find out if there are other single Mom's in your area. Get in touch with your school advisor and ask about parent groups. Joining a study group might help, too. the only bit of mom advice I have is to tell your daughter every day that you love her. My last advice would be to make sure that you take a little time for yourself every once in a while. Stress will be your worst enemy. Good luck in the future. Keep us all posted. The cyber world is rooting for you!

Answer 3

Human life is so complex… we can only understand this whenever we pass through such difficult situations.

Whatever had to happen with you, it has already happened. You would not get any thing meaningful by getting frightened with the changed situation. Just accept it and find out ways to tackle various problems tactfully… without going out of breath.

Now you have to manage things one by one… you cannot handle the entire burden at a time…

Arrange all the needful for your survival… food, shelter and basic needs.
Find out a day care centre where you can put your child while you go for your job. Do not get terrified with the changed situation. Anyways, one day you had to live on your own. Think that the time has come a bit earlier.

Take care… and have faith in God…

Answer 4

First of all congratulations on your child. It is a wondeful experience being a parent. there are mistakes, but out of your mistake came a blessing. No child could ever be considered a mistake.

Just make sure you keep to your budget so you don't run into any money problems. Tried to avoid using credit cards to pay your expenses. Always put your daughter first before any man & you will do fine.

Just remember to kiss her everyday and tell her how much you love her.

Keep in touch with your mom by phone and/or letters. Ask her advise (even when you don't plan on using it) just so you can keep in close contact.

Good luck.

Answer 5

I would take the time to find some single parents groups or mommy and me groups, so I could make some friends in the area that also have children so I could get the connections for referrals for sitters. It really does sound like you have most of everything lined up. You chose a hard road in life, but you sound like you're trying to do the right thing no matter how difficult it is. For you and your child - I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 6

Congrats on going to college. My advice is to just hang in there. Times will be tough sometimes but you can do it. I went back to college when my first son was 3 months old. I also worked part time and I went to school full time. I did have help from his dad so I didn't do it all by myself. Just don't stress to much. I think you will be surprised at how well you can mange on your own. You just have to establish some type of schedule that works for you and your baby. Don't be afraid to get help if you need it. There are many programs that can help moms who are going to school. Many locally and many state programs. They can help you with childcare expenses, food, medical care, etc. Any help you can get will eliminate your daily stress and help you better a better mom and student. Just remember, that the help is only temporary so you don't have to stay on it forever. Just let it help you while you are in school. Good Luck. Danielle

Answer 7

Well first good for you that you are moving out on your own!!!! I am not gonna lie and say that it will be easy. It may be hard, but remember to make a budget and stick to it. Try to always pay your bills on time. Keep a schedule and stick too it. Try to make freinds, someone to help you along the way. Maybe go to a parenting class. Just take one day at a time. Everyhting will be fine. Keep in touch with your mom and Love your child with all your heart and remember her needs come before yours okay. I am a mom of 2 daughters 14 and 7 and I know. Pray and Thank God for everything you have. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 8

I have been there kid so I know how scary it can be to face the world alone with the gift you have been given to take care of. My number one advise is to always remember that you were trusted enough by the universe to raise your girl. Find a support system of other mother's like yourself! Call home with good news every once in awhile and don't let every Joe schmo tell you how to live your life! You are a work in progress...Good luck lady!

Answer 9

Well congratulations on your little girl. I would say you are already on the right track with getting out on your own. My best advice would be to look at it realistically. It's going to be tough and you will have hard days but if you believe you can do it then you can. House advice don't worry about it being perfectly neat and clean and don't spend time when you could be resting, like when your baby is asleep, rushing around trying to do everything. Take at least 5 minutes everyday just for yourself...trust me you'll need them. And as far as that baby love her, hold her and kiss her everyday and everything else will work itself out one way or another.

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Answer 10

It is great that you are venturing out on your own and taking care of your child. A baby is never a mistake and it sounds like you are doing g your best to take care of her. I became a mother at 22 so I can relate. I would just say to concentrate on your school work so that way you can make a good life for the two of you. Scrimp and save and budget now so you can have a good life later. Always put your daughter first, ahead of everyone else and be a good example to her. Hope this helps!

Answer 11

My advise to you is to put your baby ahead of everything else, stay in school, better your carrer, and keep your head up you can do this. Maybe take parenting classes with your child. Baby signs is a class I recommend, you can go online to register (its free) Get together with other moms on the weekend. There are so many resources out there for teen mothers. Go to your local church or public resource center to find out more info. Keep in touch with your family, surround yourself and your child with positive reinforcement. Dont stress too much, life is not always perfect, we make the best of what we have. Being a mom is the most important job in the world, it can be hard at times but we all get through it somehow. You are smart and have a great road ahead of you. Good luck and take care. Your little girl looks up to you. Just remember that.