Help from former alcoholics!!!!?

Question

I am looking for advice from former alcoholics who were in the military.
My brother is a marine and has been back from Iraq for about a year now. Since he has been back he has started drinking heavily, I would say almost everyday. Pretty much when he drinks he just keeps going until he passes out. That’s the first problem. The second one is his temper gets really bad when he is drunk. Since he’s been back he’s attacked my moms BF, knocked the teeth out of our sister’s friend, gotten into a bar fights, and the other night he attacked our cousin. All of these fights were not provoked; he just took something the wrong way and went nuts. When he gets angry like this he seems to transform into another person. He doesn't recognize anyone, he seems to snap. The next day he says he does not remember what happened.
I am looking for advice from any one who knows someone like this or themselves was like this. How can we help him? How did you take care of the problem? I appreciate any advice.

Answer 1

I was like this, just never in the military, by my example he will tell you he's gonna stop numerous times go into detoxes and rehabs then start drinking agan as soon as he's out! I didn't stop until I was 41 yrs old I stopped because I became tired of that life! I stopped in dec 1995 and haven't gone back! Sure there are times I feel like having a drink (I ain't never had 1 drink) but I remember the jails, prison, bars & other places I ended up drunk and it goes away! I wish ya luck with your bro the way he's acting he may not be around too long!

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Answer 2

He definetly needs some inpatient care. One so he can detox and two so he can get extra counseling. If he is acting like this though it will be noticed by his commanding officers. He more than likely will have a hearing and be pretty much told to go inpatient. It would be better if you and your family could get him to go on his own before that happens. I know there are quite a few guys in my husband's company that are going through the same thing and the ones that went voluntarily no one thinks bad about. However ones of my husband's guys let it get way out of control and the chain of command had to get the wheels rolling and force him to get help and even though he's a good soldier it seems like he will have a problem going forward in his career b/c of the things he did while drinking. Good luck and I really hope your brother gets help before he does anymore damage to himself and those around him.

Answer 3

it really is in all likelihood something to pressure about. Alcoholism is a real challenge around the realm. The recidivism cost is between seventy 5% and ninety%. at present there's no remedy for the ailment. If he stop eating there became more effective than in all chance a reason. Social issues, criminal issues, marital issues, and/or issues at artwork through eating. If a majority of those issues were occurring 10 years in the past, then there's a superb opportunity they'll commence back. It received't take position straight away. he will have confident everyone (himself lined) that it really is less than administration and proceed to drink more effective typically, till the topic matters finally resurface.

Answer 4

I'm not military, so can only emphasize,it has to come from him.Gentle persuasion to go to A.A. If you go along for the ride,and the promise of a drink later.BABY steps and patience its a long road to recovery.His aggression might go away if he's away from the military environment,but then that's another dilemma,your health or your job.Not all heavy drinkers who get into rows are alcoholics.We have all tried this one change his tipple to, a different beer,or maybe cider, stay off the spirits.

Answer 5

My dad was like that.He was a career U.S Marine.And he drank like that until about 2 years before he died.
Like any other addiction,you can't help him until HE is ready.
Many people,especially wives,think that they can nag someone into sobriety.That usually has the opposite effect.
My dad was so bad, that the rest of the family had no other option but to tell him not to come back unless he sobered up.

Answer 6

Buddy
Sounds like Post traumatic stress disorder.
He is using the alchohol to self medicate.

Is he still on active duty? If he is contact his C/O and express your concern. If not you and your family will have o band together and confront him (while he is sober) in a polite but firm way. If you arent capable of doing that, then you need a crisis intervention counselor to help. Call dept of social services they will help

He needs to seek medical ateention or it will only get worse, someone is gonna get hurt, or worse.... he culd end up killing someone, or himself

Good luck

Answer 7

The main thing about alcoholics is that they will not quit drinking until they are ready to.

All of the AA meetings and de-tox treatment centers will not be able to help until the person wants the help.

If you can... it would be best to get him to talk to a psychologist if you can.

Does he at least acknowledge that he does have a problem?

Answer 8

In the Army ther eis the Army Substance abuse program that soldiers can self refer or get reffered to. I am sure the marines have something like it. Look into it and see what they have. call the community service center on the marine Base They can help you out or call his commander so they can refer him for treatment

Answer 9

hey...first of please get your brother some counciling through the service he was in, its sounds like post war sydrome, i think thats what its called...he has seen a lot of bad **** there and i know what its like to be that way when i was younger, i drank like he did, but after ditching my car in the middle of nowwhere and finding myself in my friends house, drinking lots of coffee, i seeked councilng and well back then we didnt have aa...but i kicked the habit, but the first step is get him help and they will help just keep on thier butts...good luck...,,ummnnn okay a post note, have him talk to other marines, i had a friend who was a marine, and they are brothers ill tell you this, you cant imange the horrors he saw and he wont talk to you about it, im sure...don told me, its a memory you want to forget, but cant, the reason he blacks out is our guys are trained to be the elite of the elite and its like a switch is turned on,,,as i said get him some councling...good luck

Answer 10

He needs help , even if he says he don't want it .
Next time he goes off swinging have him arrested , talk oto the Judge about some mandatory care , as he is sick .