ok, when me an my ex were going out i promised that when she moved to kansas i would go visit her during cristmas... but since we broke up i'm not sure if i want to go... but i always try to keep my promises... if i dont go then that would be the first promise i didnt keep in about a year... i know i must sound anoying... but i dont know what to do... should i stay or should i go?
2006-10-25 06:07:37 · 13 answers · asked by Paris, je t'aime 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First let me say , WOW ! You are one special person to even
think that way. If it is possible without interrupting other obligations GO. I see it will make you feel better.I wish you happy holidays.
2006-10-25 06:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by gwhiz1052 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
when you promised her you guys were still together, rite? But now you guys broke up then it's totally different story. You guys are not couple anymore, you can do whatever you want. If you don't feel like going, then why should you go? So that's why I don't like to make promise for future, who knows future? Things can come up, or feelings changed...now you learned this lesson so don't easily make promises. Well to you questions, follow your heart, if you think you will have fun in Kansas for xmas, then go. If not, stay.
2006-10-25 13:15:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lucy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well 1st of all I dont think you should go because your going to bumbed out that your there which really wont be fun for her or you. I would suggest you be honest say ya know since we broke up I really dont think I should come visit and that you are trying to mive on with your life in Kansas. Also why would you wanna go and chill with her during the holidays thats time for couples. I say break free now cut the string and I'm a chic so please take my advice and dont lead this girl on.
2006-10-25 13:12:49 · answer #3 · answered by CaSeY LyNe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on. You two split up and no longer have obligations. Don't go. Move on with your llife and don't carry old bagage from your past. Baggage contaminates future relationships. Even if you do go, you will resent her for feeling obligated to her after you split up. You are not responsible for her feelings and do not owe her anything.
2006-10-25 13:19:09 · answer #4 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go. Just because she is yr ex does not give you the right to break a promise. You have an obligation to be a man of your word.
2006-10-25 13:09:52 · answer #5 · answered by Convuluted and excluded 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
stay.
u 2 split up.
long way 2 go 2 bug the hell outta of each other 4 Xmas.
but if ur still in doubt, toss a coin.
2006-10-25 13:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
After a break-up all promises no longer apply.
2006-10-25 13:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go. You want to go, or you wouldn't be stressing about it. So go. Don't mix up extra issues like keeping promises or whatever. You're not dating this girl anymore, so you don't owe her anything. If you want to go, then go. If you want to stay, then stay. Just make a decision and stop deliberating.
2006-10-25 13:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Beardog 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
why is she a ex if you still worrie seeing her at x-mas if you are friends and you have a good time with her then by all means go but if you are going just to be a good guy find some one else to spend x-mas with
2006-10-25 13:12:06 · answer #9 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you talked to her about it. Since you two broke up, SHE may not want you to visit her either.
2006-10-25 13:10:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ashley L 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋