I pose this quiestion because I am married and I would like for my wife to take my last name; not only because it is what is done when you are married but because I have been with her for 4 yrs during the birth of her first child thats not mine, Two that are mine & helping her take care of her lil brother. Her first child doesn't have my last name but I want him to because I have been thier signs day one of him being in her and having him, so I have been fighting for that as well. I have been thier even signs her farther decided to leave. I have helped take on the responsibility of helping with her brother signs he was 11 to now he is 16 even though she states that hey I should not have because she did not ask me to But !I feel that if I am with you and we live together than I do not have to be told to do this as a man I do it automaticly. i mean it should not be hard to take a mans name for family sake ! If she is that in love with her farthers name then she should have been with him
2006-10-25 06:03:41 · 14 answers · asked by eternalgorilla 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, if you have a crappy last name like "bagina" or something I don't think you can blame her.
Or if you have a last name that rhymes with her first name that would make her name like "Julia Guliet" or something I wouldn't blame her either.
2006-10-25 06:08:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over this.
If she has not taken your name by now, she's not going to.
And really, it should not be such a big deal.
she married you and has a family with you, so she obviously loves you--isn't that enough?
People, your friends, family--they know you're a couple, that you are married, so why are you putting such a big importance on the last name issue?
There are more important issues in life than this--enjoy her, enjoy your family and let go of the resentment/anger you feel because of this.
Her not taking your last name, has nothing to do with being in love with her maiden name, it's just that some people like to keep their names mostly due to not having to go to all the hassle of having all your paperwork re-issued with a new name.
There is no law that says the woman must take her husbands' name.
2006-10-25 06:21:49 · answer #2 · answered by irelandflippy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her call is her call... that is her own decision. some women human beings experience you may want to take their husband's very last call, others do not care both way and do it without giving it a lot idea, yet others are connected to their start call and want to save it. you are able to exhibit your decision to her, in spite of the indisputable fact that the ultimate decision is hers, and hers in basic terms. in case you want a "relations call", why do not you're taking hers? I see, you'll not in any respect attempt this. nicely, it is your own decision, too. each and each and every of you may want to make this decision for yoruselves, yet not for the different human being. And please do not throw decrease back in her face that you "stayed such as her" by this or that. You made a decision to stay, and so that you probably did. i'm particular she has submit with diverse crap from you by the years, too - so that you should be even the following. all the more effective reason now to not wreck your relationship by technique of attempting to be controlling; %. your battles properly. P.S. My father and mom have different very last names, they have been married for over 33 years. Their names have not in any respect been an difficulty.
2016-12-05 05:28:50 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about you change your last name to hers? That makes as much sense. Why are you so fixated on such a minor detail? Personally I changed my name when I got married but mostly because my maiden name was impossible to pronounce. In modern US culture it is up to the people involved. Some women change their name and some do not.
2006-10-25 06:08:59 · answer #4 · answered by WendyD1999 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the issue here?
A name is just a name, same woman, same relationship, same everything... the only thing different will be what is written on her passport and how she signs her cheques - don't leave or not get married to somone over an issue as petty as this one.
2006-10-25 06:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by HP 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her not taking your name is just a personal choice and some women prefer not to but as for your children, I think they should have your last name.
2006-10-25 06:08:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you, I guess I'm just old fashioned. Usually women who keep their former names or hyphenate their last names are feminists trying to make a statement. In your case I would talk it over with her,and decided how important it is to you. One more thing though, if you are going to post things like this you should check your spelling.
2006-10-25 06:25:42 · answer #7 · answered by tropicgirl 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to grow up and let it go. A woman does NOT have to take your last name and it's her choice. It's also not a slap in your face if she doesn't.
Be a man, instead of a baby.
2006-10-25 07:07:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most times woman keep their name esp if she was married before with children, it is easier on the kids,
name is a name, ,doesn't mean squat, it is the person behind the name that we love,
2006-10-25 06:08:28 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is something that you will have to work out between the two of you. It is equally important probably to both of you. Just don't forget what really matters.
2006-10-25 06:06:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jamie A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋