my bf is very controlling and has a bad temper he goes through mood swings constantly.. just this morning we fought please help me
2006-10-25 05:53:46 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
YOU cannot control HIM. You can only decide how you want to react to his behaviors. Frankly, life is too damned short to put up with manipulative crap, and I would leave him.
2006-10-25 05:56:08 · answer #1 · answered by essentiallysolo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A controlling bf with a bad temper huh? That is abuse just waiting to happen. It might not happen before you are married, but the moment you are married guys like that consider you to be "thiers" and that it's thier "job" to keep you in line. Which usually means abuse. It already seems like he's using emotional abuse even before ya'll are married.
Men like this never change, and it only gets worse the more comfortable they get around you. Please leave him. For your sake. I would hate to think that you would want that for your life. No man is worth that. I have been through that before, and I know it's hard to walk away because you "love him so much." Believe me, you will find someone who will treat you a lot better. It was two years after my emotionally abusive relationship that I was able to find someone, but when I did, he is awesome. Treats me like a princess, obviously I married him...lol.
You can't let a man control your life, you will get stuck in that and then be exposing children to the same drama in the future. No one should put up with that. Get out while you are still free and before he lays a hand on you.
The only other alternative you have is to go to relationship counseling, but he will probably not agree, and it doesn't always work.
Whatever you choose, good luck to you.
2006-10-25 06:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Laura 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run Very Fast!!! I married a controlling man and was stuck for the next 25 years. I went through hell. I first accepted the control for love and caring. Boy was I ever wrong. Don't waste another second on this guy. You will need to help yourself now and get away from him. There are lots of guys out there who would treat you like a queen.
2006-10-25 05:58:05 · answer #3 · answered by bramblerock 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bad temper, a control freak, constant mood swings, and fighting already.
Sounds like criminal domestic violence waiting to happen.
Get some space for yourself and set some well defined boundaries immediately -- or free yourself of this spoiled brat.
2006-10-25 05:58:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about his controlling behavior and bad temper. if you don't like him and his bad temper and he doesn't change after the talk, just leave. You are free to do whatever the hell you want. That's the beauty of life. If you want anymore advice, email me.
2006-10-25 06:02:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sorry to hear this but, you are still so young don't let some one change who you are he liked you for the person you were and it sounds like he is just trying to unsure that your feeling of self worth gets damaged just enough so you don't go any where ! move on sister your young and lover come and go in this life ! It maybe hard but , it's never worth giving up your self for another!
2016-03-28 07:17:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advise is wait till he is asleep then quietly tie him to the bed, at this point get a frying pan or baseball bat, something simular and proceed to beat ther hell out of him, once u r through and feel better and believe me u will feel better pack your stuff and leave him for good , not only will this help u it may prevent this from happening to someone else in the furture
2006-10-25 09:11:28 · answer #7 · answered by cgf2us 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get him off the drugs. Unless he is bipolar he shouldn't be having moodswings. Oh, and one little hint here......You can't control your boyfriend. Give it up. This is a common mistake with woman and men thinking that they can change their partner. It DOESN"T WORK! Best advice you can get is to stop drugs or leave him.
2006-10-25 06:02:06 · answer #8 · answered by Andrew B. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend is abusive you need to leave him immediately, or if you feel threatened by him.
If you think he has a problem that can be helped, maybe you could try to talk to him. But he might not be open to your concerns.
2006-10-25 05:58:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him now!
Don't ever get involved with someone who is jealous or controlling.
This is not how you want your future to be. Trust me, it will be if you don't move on. It will probably get worse.
Please, sever your relationship with him and I am sure you will meet someone else who will treat you nicely and will really love you. This guy doesn't.
2006-10-25 05:59:06 · answer #10 · answered by Agent99 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋