My ex-boyfriend has been having an affair for the last six years with a married woman who is his boss. Is it illegal for me to tell her husband? I've already called and told him about it, and was then threatened by my ex and his mistress with a civil suit for harassment (though I did not contact either of them). Her husband wants details. If I provide them, is this harassment toward him, his wife or my ex?
--I should have mentioned: the affair is why we broke up a few days ago, after about 14 months of living together. I'm not mad anymore, but I have great empathy for the husband, as my ex and his mistress are constantly going back and forth about her leaving her husband for myex. Husband and I kind of in the same situation--I'd want to know the truth, and am giving him the same opportunity to take control of the outcome, instead of being the fool.
2006-10-25 05:51:20 · 11 answers · asked by Miss Cobra Town 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
they can't sue you as u did not contact them
but please do yourself a favor before you become the evil bitter ex you have now informed the partner which may or may not have been the right thing i am not judging but i will say now that he is also aware start to build your life and let them go
you have nothing to gain from this and are doing this because you are hurt which is understandable for sure, but be thankful that you were just a girlfriend unlike the other part of the equation he is married to the woman no matter what it sucks
but find happiness and don't get sucked into there drama
2006-10-25 06:05:07 · answer #1 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can give the boss all the details as long as you are not in any way contacting the two that are having the affair. Let them file a civil suit, they can file for just about anything that they want, but they will have to expose themselves to do it. Give the guy the info and let him do what he wants with it. Don't worry about them, they are just trying to use intimidation to shut you up.
2006-10-25 05:58:50 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not harassment. If he asks and you feel like sharing it's communication. This is how most affairs are uncovered (and by hiring a P.I. which isn't illegal or harassment either). I wouldn't hunt her husband down to tell him, but if he approaches you about the situation you have every right to tell him what you know (as long as its the truth).
2006-10-25 06:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♪ TrickNice ♪♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I 'm not a lawyer, but I know harassment isn't telling another person some information. They may be trying to scare you with slander, or libel. That's always possible. BUT, slander and/ or libel has to be false. If everything you say is true, then eff those people. And I doubt they are going to go off suing you for that, it just would embarrass the two of them more.
2006-10-25 05:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by TheOneVersion2.0 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, they cant sue you for that, they just saying that to scare you so you wont tell. I dont blame you for wanting to tell the husband. He has a right to know. After all its his wife. But you do what you feel is right. Let them try and bring a case against you,, it wont hold up in court, and plus then everyone will know what them 2 have been doing. So nest time they say they are going to sue you tell to go for it.
2006-10-25 05:56:55 · answer #5 · answered by sparky_butt 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can not be sued for telling the husband about the affair. Just stick to the facts as you know them. I'd tell him anything and everything he wanted to know.
2006-10-25 06:05:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you don't get into the defamation of character category you fine. If you have details and or can get them without impedeing on them or to the point of stalking then your fine. They probably wouldn't be so upset if it wasn't true. But be sure that you know that they are going to throw the jealous card out on you
2006-10-25 05:55:28 · answer #7 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the wife and ex can't press charges. But if the husband really wants to know he needs to be doing the contacting otherwise let it go...
2006-10-25 05:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by num1accent01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think only he can decide if its harassment or not and seeing as how you only contacted HIM not either of them i dont think they have a legit reason for tryna pull any suit
give him the details and then report back to me so i can be nosey and see what he sayz when you give him the details haha
2006-10-25 05:55:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a sad revenge tactic you are still angry there is no easy way to say this excpt but out and move on with your life. The husband can do his own dirty work and you are setting your self up to be sued count on it.
2006-10-25 05:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by yahoo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋