2006-10-25 05:48:15 · 13 answers · asked by Lexie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend and i have been together for only 3 MONTHS and my family does not like him. He is big on being around the family so i took him to my cousins b-day party and b4 my aunt even met him she yells out "What does he want to meet me for, if she is not marrying him then why should I talk to him?" and rudly says hi to him which made him feel out of place. Then when i introduced him to my father my father would not even speak to him. He would say hi, try to spark a conversation and my father would not pay him any attention. Then my mom does not know what she wants. One minute she likes him and later she doesnt. What am I to do?
All I want to do is keep my family and boy friend happy but it hurts me that they can not get along.
This is making my head hurt. All of this in juse 3 months is it worth it?
2006-10-25 06:17:42 · update #1
He has made me happier that my last boyfriends have in this short time, and he has not even asked about sex. I know he is not with no other female because I am always with.
I am just so tired!!!
2006-10-25 06:21:25 · update #2
Is your family making an effort? Is your boyfriend making an effort? If either is no, find out why, and then figure it out from there.
2006-10-25 05:50:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-16 09:47:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your family what they do not like about him. Listen to their answers and do not defend him. Do the same thing with him.
A real man who appreciates you in his life would try to build rapport with your family and befriend them. They are your family and he should accept them as part of your life. He should try to earn their respect. Maybe that's why they don't care for him.
Does he try to isolate you from them and control you? I ask this, because guys who have control issues try to isolate their girlfriends from friends and family, and all those who love and appreciate them. They do this in attempt to get their girl to make them the center of their world, so they can be dominant and in control of her, and therefore, feel more powerful and manly. This is a classic sign of abuse to come......
2006-10-25 05:55:21 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. My husband did not get along with my mother for years finally i told them both to grow up, what ever problems they have/had with eachother it's between them stop putting me in the middle. if you plan on having a future with this guy make it work let them work out the problem and be there to help and love them both hope this helps:)
2006-10-25 05:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by mina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey there are so many fish in the sea but you only get one family. Normally families are only looking out for the best and they are slightly removed from the situation so they might have a better view. Go find yourself someone who likes your family and visa versa...good luck
2006-10-25 05:51:40 · answer #5 · answered by kane_rosebud 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Make a family dinner and have all parties there to discuss their issues. And find out why they don't get along. But if that don't work keep them seperate, and don't force the issue. Just see each one seperate!
2006-10-25 05:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It would depend on "why" they are not getting along...if it is because he is mistreating you, then they are right in not accepting him....if it is because they dont really know him, then we need to spend more time going that. It just depends.
You need to look at the whole situation objectively....which can be hard if you really care for this guy.
2006-10-25 05:52:56 · answer #7 · answered by tpoke24 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First it depends on how serious the relationship is. If you are not sure of your feelings then it should not matter. But if you are in love and could see yourself with him forever then you have to find some common ground.
2006-10-25 05:52:32 · answer #8 · answered by Heather M 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Find out why they do not get along. Your family may see something in the man that they do not trust. You have to go with your instincts.
2006-10-25 05:52:14 · answer #9 · answered by hsp_goddess 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What CAN you do. If they cant behave while in the same room then you should spend time with each entity separately and try not to push the issue.
2006-10-25 05:51:10 · answer #10 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋