They have slept with us since they were born. They are now 3 an 1. They are getting too big to sleep with us and we need to have our privacy. I have tried to put them in their own beds but they usually wake up terrified and end up sleeping with us. Any suggestions?
2006-10-25 05:42:31 · 19 answers · asked by andrea R 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Put them in their own beds and lie down on the floor next to them so they know you're there. Sneak out when they're nearly asleep. Try different kiddie night lights. Some friends of ours went so far as to install a Dutch door on the kid's bedroom and kept the bottom half locked. He cried to get out and they let him stay in there. Eventually, he fell asleep on the floor and finally just stayed in bed. Nightmares are one thing, but don't give in to their whining and crying.
2006-10-25 05:48:11 · answer #1 · answered by Bestie 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
lol, as long as you dont ask a question about the ferber method or the no cry method you should be okay! I'm dealing with the same problem with my 11 month old. not easy let me tell you. Me and my husband dont totaly see eye to eye on it either. Today I am trying to let him cry for just a few minutes, go in a reassure him that i'm there and i love him then I stand outside the door. We are making progress this way, its just taking him a long time to go to sleep. there is progress though, when I walk into the room he lays ight down and I dont have to say a word. It took only 2 trips in for his nap he's taking right now!! Its hard to say what will work for you though. Every one keeps telling me buy this book buy that book. Instad I have kind of found a hapy medium between methods I've been told about. My son does have a night light and I dont close the door. The dutch door idea was great. They cant get out but there is still that openess so a child doesnt feel trapped or abandoned. Keep with it whatever you decide. I know I need sleep and my son out of the bed too so dont feel alone with this! And I dont care what people say, a little crying in a child is okay, it wont kill them as long as it isnt for like hours at a time. then I'd be concerned : ) And just in case it gets too tuff to stick with... I know a family whose 9 year old still sleeps in their bedroom!! Talk about no privacy!
2006-10-25 06:03:46 · answer #2 · answered by htmama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two things you can try either get two toddlers beds and put them in your room that way you will have your own space at your bed or also you can try put both of them in their own room in their beds with a nigth light an a monitor so you can hear them , but the process will be little by little starting with the oldest make sure he is asleep first in your bed then when you are sure he is 100 % sleep move hi to his bed and do the same with the other one , it will take time but that way they will be moving out little by little.. GOOD luck with the new change !!!!!
2006-10-25 05:59:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put a cool new sleeping bag(s) beside you bed for them. Tell them they are old enough now for special bedding etc..Then every couple days move it slowly inching it towards their rooms, like down the hallway etc. Maybe even putting a fun night light near them to feel safe. Always rewarding them for a successful night not being in your bed. Eventually the sleeping bag moves on their bed and they graduate with maybe NEW FUN bedding or another treat/reward. Get the idea? Or a baby moniter in their room and let them know that if they get really scared you will hear them and YOU WILL GO TO THEM to comfort briefly. But they are not to leave their bed.
2006-10-25 06:06:38 · answer #4 · answered by Stac 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I slept with all 3 of my children since their first breath, my daughter is 15 she was out of my bed at 3 yrs old.
My son is 11 he moved outta my bed when he was 4 yrs old.
All my children have their own rooms by the way...i don't think at any given time anyone is in their right room lol at least it feels that way
The two older kids sometime make beds on the floor and watch tv together or my 11yr old will lay a mattress down next to my daughters bed and sleep in her room. He leaves the room when she needs to change into her pj's or whatever so there isn't anything like that going on.
Sometimes when they are sick they will sleep with me not offen but a few times.
Then there is my Son the baby of the family, he is
4yr old he still sleeps with me, i make a bed for him next to my bed and let him sleep there most nights (when my husband and i need some alone time) but sometimes in the middle of the night he'll be right back in my bed
All children are differrent IF you don't mind your children in your bed don't push them out of the NEST so soon they know when they feel safe enuf to move out
They grow up so dang fast enjoy it while they are still young
For my Four yr old i'm thinking of decorating it in Bob The Builder maybe he'll want to sleep in his own room then FINGERS CROSSED
i love my kids but i'm ready to sleep in my king size bed with just my husband and i AFTER 3 kids lol
2006-10-25 06:39:19 · answer #5 · answered by Majenta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lock your child in a room, that seems quite cruel.
It may take a week or so and maybe 70 times of putting your child back in to their own bed in one night but you can do it.
The only thing you need to do is be firm about your decision and stick to it. There's no point in doing this half hearted as that will cause too much stress on you and the kids.
It will work, be calm, positive and look forward to your privacy!
2006-10-25 06:03:14 · answer #6 · answered by by eck lass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe let them decorate the room and get something like one of those revolving night lights that make things all over the wall. I slept with my son until he fell asleep...then I always would slowly crawl out of the bed. I think it is important to get them in thier own room as soon as you can because the older they are and the more aware of your bed the harder to break. My best friend has a child that is 3 and she still cant break him. As he gets older it is getting harder and harder. You can even make a big girl/boy chart and reward them for each night they sleep alone. When they get up at night you need to also take them back to their room....don't let them keep getting in bed with you......that gives them mixed signals. It is a hard processes but just talk to them and explain that they are big now and take it slow.
2006-10-25 05:55:57 · answer #7 · answered by dazedconfused_1998 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My kids are older now and still sneak into our room. I've given up on sending them back. I did however make a bed on the floor, so when they came in, they didn't climb into bed with us. I figure as long as they go to bed in their own room, I don't mind so much if they come in to my room later. One son has already out grown it. They all will eventually. Just try to make sure they start off in their own bed first.
2006-10-25 06:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is simple: You never let a child sleep with you.. When they turn one you put them in a toddler bed or if you have a convertible crib you keep the baby in their. How will you and your husband ever have an intimate relationship with your two kids in between the sheets.
2006-10-25 06:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them they are big boys/girls now and that they have to sleep in a big boys/girls bed..try and get them excited about sleeping in a new bed... make a big thing out of it.. give them a night light or leave the landing light on with the bedroom door open..so they can see that nothing will harm them.. praise them if they manage to sleep the night in their own bed.. buy them something they like.. a bit like a bribe... hope things work out for u
2006-10-25 05:53:54 · answer #10 · answered by karen b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋