My gay uncle in law is 50 years old, he has never had a girlfriend or been out on a date with a woman.
My husband and I thought he was gay and we googled his email and found out he belonged to several famous gay social clubs with his pictures on the websites. He is openly gay to everyone but the family. We never said anything to the family.
He has a male “friend” that has lived in his one bedroom apartment for the past 2 years. They even wear wedding rings on their left hands, but taken them off when they visit the family.
They are gay and out of the closet with their friends, but why do they avoid saying their gay to the family? I know my uncle in law knows we all know he is gay, but he dances around the subject and has never officially said it.
The family (except me and my husband) are very old school Catholic, but they have said they know he was born this way.
Why hasn’t he come out of the closet yet to his family? No one has said anything to him about it.
2006-10-25 05:31:45 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You just answered your own question.
Cause the family is catholic.. that's the reason, in the catholic world, he is a very bad sinner, you just don't do something like that.
2006-10-25 05:35:48 · answer #1 · answered by Jas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's scared about what his family is going to say about him when they find the truth about how he really is.
His whole family is catholic and he is most likely afraid that his family won't accept him for who he is.
What you should do to make him come out of the closet is you and your husband should talk to him and his "friend" alone... just you four and talk to him about telling his family and tell him that you and your husband will be there for him every step of the way and if your uncle will allow it talk to the rest of your family and tell them that they must accept him for who he is and there's nothing they can do or say to change him.
2006-10-25 05:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY brother is the same way..to his friends he is gay and to the family he is straight. Many of my gay friends have seen him at the clubs dancing around and buying other men drinks...I am sure he is not there for the music!!
2006-10-25 06:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not have to come out of the closet, if he does not want to, remember this is his business! He knows the stigma that comes with being gay, and he just does not want to deal with it. The family knows in their own way, but they are in denial, because this is their flash and blood. So except him, for who he is. not what he is!
2006-10-25 05:38:26 · answer #4 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes not ready, and doesnt think his family will treat him the same way- let him be how he is because when he is ready he will tell everyone, not before, dont push him into doing it before hes ready. Just because you and your hubby might accept him doesnt mean the others will- religious people often say one thing and mean another so dont push the issue.
If you want approach him in private and say uncle such and such, We know about your sexual orientation and just wanted to let you know that we approve of it and accept you just the way you are, and i just wanted to let you know that. And that nothing will change because of it.
2006-10-25 05:36:25 · answer #5 · answered by cats4ever2k1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't do it at the reunion b/c of so many family members around, unless you get a chance to talk to him in private. but a close family member like yerr uncle would be a good person to talk to about it. maybe you can call him up on the fone or something. good luck!
2016-05-22 13:01:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
catholic family will never accept him because he's gay, that's why he's in the closet when it comes to family.
2006-10-25 05:37:46 · answer #7 · answered by venus11224 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its really no one's business. Like, he doesn't ask you who you are having sex with does he? But I do understand your question. He probably does not feel safe or doesnt want to deal with everyone talking about him. I dont blame him, cuz if it were me, I'd be the same way. Especially with my family the way they are. I just keep my biz to myself.
2006-10-25 05:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For whatever the reason, he is not ready or does not want to and you guys should respect that. He will come out to you all if and when he is ready.
2006-10-25 05:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rove or O'Reilly?
2006-10-25 05:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by Taco 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋