2006-10-25 05:28:34 · 55 answers · asked by tanyasiv 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sure
2006-10-25 05:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by ♫Pavic♫ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people think it is wrong, and some think it is fine. I personally think it depends on the couple and when you are moving in. If you do it after a month that's too early, I feel that after 6 months is a good time to even consider it. Also you should think about is this is a serious relationship or just a fling. If it's just a fling, or if you are not sure about the other person don't live together. Another thing if you are in a troubled relationship don't do it to "save the relationship" chances are it will just make it worse.
Well that's my 2 cents!
2006-10-25 05:38:54 · answer #2 · answered by prin_avie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How else are you supposed to know what the other person is like. You have to give it a test run if you are serious about living together. This way you can make sure that is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Most would disagree with me, but I think, seeing as how sex is a major part of any marriage, that premarital sex is a must as well. Once you get married you cannot just decide that you do not like the person in bed and leave them. You have to make sure. Most marriages contain a serious amount of sexual slackness. One person might realize after marriage that they are not sexually attracted to that person and it is my belief that those marriages will always end in divorce. I estimate I will recieve 6 thumb downs for this comment.
2006-10-25 05:32:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, no no no no no!
i also believe that sex before marriage is wrong. just because society says it's more convienient doesn't mean it's right. and just because 'it feels so right' doesn't mean it's right. dicipline yourself! i think the whole living together before marriage thing is probably largly responsible for the disgustingly high divorce rate in this country.
stop giving yourself away til you decide that 'this' is the right guy. people think that they can sleep with their 'better half' until they find the right person, but think about it - you are with the first guy, you been dating for whatever the going rate is right now before sex and decide the time is right.
you are giving yourself to that person. you can't take it back, this person has come to a point where they are sharing a a deep part of your soul and you can never 'unshare' that. so 6 months later you break up. a year later you are with another guy and have the same situation, you have now shared your soul with 2 different people. again you break up. now you are with guy number 3 and you finally decide to get married. wouldn't you like to say to the now love of your life that you are giving him everypart of you? but you can't because you already gave yourself away 2 other times.
now you weren't really 'sleeping around' and 2 guys before marriage is probably a pretty low number these days, but it comes back to the gift that you could give your future spouse. the gift that is you, whole, undefiled, never shared with another human being.
wow! how do you like that! the guys are all comparing you to a car! now that is a relationship!
2006-10-25 05:44:35 · answer #4 · answered by onlylove41 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO!!! cuz i think that when u want 2 b 2gether with someone is 4ever and if u get 2gether before marriage ur not responsable enough in the relationship because your not commited and the 2 persons need to have commitment and be with each other all the time in the good and bad times, i think that if u get together before you`re married somone can just walk out on the other person cuz they doesn`t feel the commitment they`ll have if they are married.
2006-10-25 05:33:55 · answer #5 · answered by CHIKA 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I have done it before. But statistically people who dont move in together before getting married have a higher rate in staying together. I've thought about it and I think that it is better to wait until your married to move in together. I think without actually knowing it, it does complicate things. I would say no and my last marriage did end in divorce. But that wasnt the reason I just think that you have a better chance with the marriage if you didnt.
2006-10-25 05:44:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is necessary. My wife and I lived together first and it gave us a chance to get to know how each other lives. It also helps you get used to a couple sharing finances. Paying the bills can be a marriage breaker.
It sounds silly at first, but which way the toilet paper roll goes actually can make a difference. You need to identify each other's pet peeves and make sure that you both can adapt.
Couples who get married without living together often fight over the little things and big things alike.
Take care,
Troy
2006-10-25 05:41:34 · answer #7 · answered by tiuliucci 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally I do. My parnets don't believe in it. (i come from a christain home) I feel that is the only way to really know the other peron. Yes you can talk fequently, have alot a dates but its not the same.You are going or thinking about marrying this person and spending the rest of you life with them, in the same house share all most everything. They might be messy, or really nice, they might like to have peace and quiet all the time or have fun every now and then.So in order to really know that person and what you might possible be getting into i feel you need to live with him/her. OH and remember you cant change a person if they aren't what you want.
2006-10-25 05:37:55 · answer #8 · answered by Ronnita W 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
YES If you don't live together how are you gonna know those things he does that drive you crazy like never washing up or cutting his toenails in bed?
If you don't live together first then how would you know if you can stand living with him?
While dating you're both still making an effort, it is always best to see each other being slobby & normal rather than all glammed up all the time.
2006-10-25 05:33:29 · answer #9 · answered by madamspud 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Personally, I don't believe in living together OR marriage. But enough about me. There's a statistic out there that shows couples who live together before marrying have a higher risk of divorce. I wouldn't recommend it.
2006-10-25 05:42:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
most definitely, there's all kinds of things you might find out about that person and their habits that you didn't know before if you move in with them. Maybe you'll find out that you really drive each other crazy with your little habits if you spend that much time together and don't get to leave and go back to your own place. I think divorce is a horrible thing and to be avoided, so I most definitely think it a wise decision to try living together before you make such a serious and long committment to each other.
2006-10-25 05:36:29 · answer #11 · answered by Julie 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋