Ive been dating this girl for a little while now, weve been out four times already. Since date one, shes been trying to seduce me. I on the other hand, just want to take things slow and get to know her. I dont see her a "gf" material for now. Im not that type that just can sleep around with anyone. The furthest ive gone with her is Third base, and thats it for me at this point. Last weekend was a different story, after clubbing I invited her over to my place to get something to eat. I made it perfectly clear that is all my intention, she said ok. At my place she begins to seduce me, and i ended up in bed with her. We were going through the ropes of making love, I decided it was too fast, and I stopped and told her that I should take her home. Do you think i pissed her off? what should I do now? she has called me, to ask "how I was doing", through my voicemail? I didnt return her call. So its been 4 days since I last talked to her. Is it going to be weird from now on?
2006-10-25 05:27:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Probably...and if you don't see her as girlfriend material, you should probably tell her that your intentions aren't to get serious with her.
2006-10-25 05:30:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Clearly she wasn't pissed b/c she called you back. I'm sure after 4 days of you not returning her call, she's a little upset. If you didn't want to sleep with her, you shouldn't have. Once you started, it was too late to turn back. I'm surprised she is still wasting her time with you. If you make it weird, it will be weird from now on. If you explain why you want to take things slow and why you felt like things were moving too fast, then things should be fine. If she's not worth the time or the emotion of that discussion, you shouldn't be seeing her anyway. Also, if you tell her you want to take things slow and get to know her, etc., she's probably going to think it's b/c you want this relationship to be really serious. Be careful that you make it clear to her that you want to go slow b/c you're not interested in a relationship right now and you're not the type to just sleep around
2006-10-25 12:34:24 · answer #2 · answered by Jan S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didnt want her as girlfriend material but you did all things a couple do when theyre dating. Point blank you where wrong and sending false signals to her. You said you didnt want to sleep with her but then you went to third base and then finally had sex with her. Yes I am sure she was pissed anyone would. Why are you doing this to a friend? I am sure things will be different. You are being so cruel to this woman. You wanted her to come over after the club to eat breakfast yeah right and you happen to have have breakfast at your place. What happen to Ihop? She wants you for more than a friend and you know that.You use her when you need her then you fake the old I dont want you as a girlfriend? She should have been the one not calling you and ignoring your calls.
2006-10-25 12:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by justturning40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, what are you doing?? You say she isn't gf material, so what are you going out on dates for? A platonic relationship is fine, but then don't cross the lines. She obviously thinks you are bf material and you have a laxing shot of willpower. She's going to think you will break down sooner or later, I think you will too, by the way.
Lay the ground rules, and when she breaks them, and she will, you don't go to first base, let alone 3rd, you break off the date. From there you both decide if this relationship can work. I say it can't.
2006-10-25 12:35:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's going to be weird from now on because you have been avoiding her. You should have been straight up with her after the bedroom incedent happened. Now you should just cut your losses and end everything with her. If you don't want to do that then I would prepare myself for a heart to heart conversation with her. Tell her everything that you really feel and tell her that her being so forward is not something you are used to and her perfer to take things at a slow pace. Other than that you shouldn't have gone home with her. Was she not good in bed? Are you REALLY attracted to her?
2006-10-25 13:07:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It probably will be a little weird but just tell her how you feel you dont like going that fast, but why are you still dating her if you dont see her as girlfriend material? To me thats a little strange why put yourself in that position if she seems to want more but you dont? Anyways if you wanna keep her as a "friend" call her and tell her sorry and tell her how you feel. Good luck!
2006-10-25 12:58:24 · answer #6 · answered by roxygurl1307 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was not good first you got up after you starting making love and said you wanted to take her home and then you dont answer her calls i would be pissed and very upset thats not the way you handle things and you should stop acting like a third grader and tell her whats on your mind instead of making her fill like sh!t .
2006-10-25 12:35:03 · answer #7 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like her call her now before too much time has passed. You need to talk to her and tell her what you're telling us. That you do like her but you'd like to take it slow. If she doesn't understand then so be it, she's not the right one for you. I'd rather wait for a guy then to think he throws it around to everyone.
2006-10-25 12:32:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it will be weird if at this point she will even talk to you. You should have called her back. I am sure you hurt her feelings, most guys do want sex. She is no doubt feeling rejected. Wouldn't you?
2006-10-25 12:34:45 · answer #9 · answered by Bev 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She likes you man suck it and see just shag her this i 2006 are you going to wait till you get married to have a bunk up and if she want's sex and you don't thats not a good match.
Good luck
2006-10-25 12:34:16 · answer #10 · answered by Alex aka 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋