I'm in a really tight financial bond right now. My rent is sky high, daycare is killing my pockets, and I'm just going through so much. I allowed a young lady to move in with me about a year ago, she's my brother's ex-girlfriend, I was nothing but good to her, but in the end I'm the one that got stabbed in the back. (It's a long story) Anyhow, she moved out this morning, and now the portion of the rent she was paying, it falls back on me. I can't afford it guys.
Now, my question is I'm planning a wedding for September of '07. Instead of us waiting until September of 07 should we go ahead and get married now, and we move in together to save on expenses, or should I look for a cheaper apartment?
The reason I posted this question in religion is because we are born-again Christians, and I need some Holy advice. Thanks
2006-10-25 05:27:33 · 10 answers · asked by me 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I would look for a cheaper place and lay everything at God's feet. He has ways of making everything work out. I would still wait on the wedding because there is time to decide if you are ready for it or not. Have you attended marriage counceling? You know they make you take tests to drive a car but they do not make you take any sort of class on how to make a marriage work or how to raise a child. I think the other two are more important than the driving thing...you can always get a cab.
2006-10-25 05:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am confused. This girl you allowed to move in with you, is this the person you are marring? If she isn't why was she living there?
As a Christian you are to avoid the appearance of evil. The second thing I would ask is , are you a faithful tither? The Book
of Malachi says that if you are then God will open the windows of Heaven and pour out a blessing that your barns cannot hold.
This means one tenth off the top before anything else given with a cheerful heart.
The last thing I would ask is if you and this lady friend have truly
sought the LORD on whether this marriage is pleasing to HIM
and what HIS timing is. Remember not to get ahead of GOD.
May the Blessing of the LORD be upon you as you search. One last thing, what you make happen for others GOD will make happen for you. So find someone to bless in some way.
2006-10-25 05:49:51 · answer #2 · answered by softspot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were waiting until Sept 07 because you were planning something big and need a year then get a new roommate or move to a cheaper place or something. A wedding is a special day and shouldn't be rushed and foresaken for a few bucks rent.
If you were going to have a nice simple wedding anyway, what are you waiting for?
2006-10-25 05:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even with 12 hour days there is still another 12 left in his day. If he hasn't made an effort in 3 weeks, I would be straight with him about your concerns and ask him to just be honest. I know it may hurt, but if the end is near there is no point in prolonging it. Ask him what his intentions are and then back WAY off. See if he comes around. If not, you've got your answer and you are free to find a new prince!
2016-03-28 07:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say figure the numbers and see which has the better chance of getting you out of this bind. Either decision has a chance to be a good decision or a bad one. But couldn't you just move in together without marriage?
2006-10-25 05:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look for a cheeper apartment. Right now, if you get married, you are doing it for the wrong reasons. Plus, if you get married now, you're doing a disservice to the guests who are waiting until next year. A cheaper apartment will help you out.
2006-10-25 05:34:21 · answer #6 · answered by sister steph 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move in together now, split the rent, you can honeymoon for a year, then decide if you want to get married. If not you saved the cost of a wedding. If you get married. you have already had your honeymoon. another savings
2006-10-25 05:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like marriage should be the least of your concerns. And your not going to find "Holy" advise in an online forum. Just search your heart and you will find the answers.
2006-10-25 05:31:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married now. Why wait? You already have kids. Pretty easy decision if you ask me.
2006-10-25 05:30:52 · answer #9 · answered by jim 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get married! Because then there's also wedding presents!
2006-10-25 05:31:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋