Is it wrong to not want kids? I love kids, don't get me wrong but I'd rather not have any.
2006-10-25 05:26:20 · 50 answers · asked by anklebiter 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Bringing children into the world should never depend on social acceptability - it should depend on logic. While that may seem cold hearted, consider the world in which your child or children will have to live - it will be radically different from the world in which you live today - and probably not in a positive way.
2006-10-25 05:32:56 · answer #1 · answered by Usher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Socially acceptable" shouldn't be a factor in your thinking on this. Social standards change with time -- people are trending toward not having as many kids or not having kids period these days.
What's important is what YOU want -- if you don't want kids, don't have them. There's nothing wrong with that at all. And phooey on the people who posted "you'll regret your decision when you're old and lonely." Baloney. I have a friend who is in her late 50s, been married about 30 years, never had children, and she and her husband are perfectly h appy. They have all the freedom in the world to do whatever they want, whenever they want, and they have tons of disposable cash to do it with.
I'm 35 and have no children -- don't want any either. I love kids, and I think I'd be a great mom if I was one, but I don't want to be a mom. I love my freedom -- I come and go as I please, and the only other "person" I have to consider is my dog =)
I admit I have wondered if I would regret my decision when I'm 60 and my parents are gone. I wonder if I'll end up alone.
BUT, I also think about poopy diapers, spit-up, middle-of-the-night earaches, vomiting kids in the car, explaining sex to your own child, first day of school, first date, teaching them how to drive, teaching about life and death and the meaning of each, teaching about religion and spirituality -- whew! It's an awesome responsibility.
I respect parents who do their job of raising children well. It's just not for me.
I respect you for your decision and your choice to stick to it regardless of what others may think.
2006-10-25 05:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it smarter than having kids and hating them for taking your time, money and energy but I don't think it's socially acceptable. I'm 25 and everytime I meet someone new the first thing they ask is am I married. When I say say yes for 6 years, the second question will have to do with kids. How many kids? Do I have any kids? Will I ever have kids? kids, kids, kids
I think it's because everyone else in the world is consumed with getting married and having kids and if's your not like them, there must be something wrong with you
2006-10-25 05:52:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of two who also don't want any children or to even get married about your age so it is acceptable but on the other hand don't you think it is unfair not to give your parents the chance to be grandparents? OK I maybe a tad crazy here but I for one think you should talk to your family in regards to this because we are strangers here and your decision effects a whole family in the long run not just one person. My daughter would be a great mother but she is scared of commitment and I know if she ever has a child I would love it and so would she and her boyfriend who has been with her for what 12 yrs now lol. good luck--- Oh YEa and it takes one person to have the child and a village to help raise it !!!!
2006-10-25 05:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by yahoo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that whether it's socially acceptable or not is irrelevant.
Social pressure has veered from one end of the spectrum to the other, and back again, on so many issues.
If you don't believe that having children is right for you, and you have some, what kind of message will those children receive? Granted, it's entirely possible, and even likely, that your heart would change and you'd love and embrace them, but starting out with the attitude seems infinitely preferable.
2006-10-25 05:33:43 · answer #5 · answered by WindWalker10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, First I have to ask have you ever been around babies, toddlers, Kids at all. Their amazing, everything they do is such a gift from God. Some people don't won't kids and that freaks me out b/c all I ever wanted to do is be a mom and love my kids with all of my heart and soul and to make every moment in their lifetime a wonderful experience. But that's me but before you decide that you don't ever what kids you need to think about you never getting to experience the joys of you child taking their first steps, first words, first day of school, graduation day, wedding day, and the wonderful day that they get to experience the joy of having their own children and you becoming a grandma. And after consider all that if you still don't want a child then that is a personal decision that you must make.
Please think about it a very big deal
2006-10-25 09:10:11 · answer #6 · answered by sweetie 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people think everybody should have kids, and some people don't think anyone should have any. You really just can't worry about what other people think, and do what's best for you. The *wrong* think would be if you had kids without really wanting them. Every child should come into this world totally wanted and loved.
2006-10-25 06:18:31 · answer #7 · answered by blueviolet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Whether you have children or not is entirely up to you.... the world is so diverse these days and many women are choosing career over motherhood that it's become quite socially acceptable... I too have no desire at the moment to have children (fat ankles and vomiting for 9 months really doesn't appeal) either but I wouldn't mind if my other half wanted them... so long as she carried them!! LOL
Don't stress about what other people think... t'was the dark ages when women were treated like baby factories!
It's your body.... so it's your choice!
Good Luck
2006-10-25 05:32:44 · answer #8 · answered by greenbloomers 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, socially, it seems like a lot of people would not accept that, but I think as each generation passes, a lot of the "traditional" way of thinking is changing.
I'm only 22...still young to think about kids, but I plan on never having kids myself. If anything I would adopt...but that's not too likely either.
2006-10-25 05:29:04 · answer #9 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 38 and never had kids. My friends always invite me to things and say they don't have to worry about my kids and laugh. I thought I might adopt some day, but due to my current (failing) marriage, I chose not to have kids involved in that. I come from a divorced family and just didn't want to put any kids through it. So now when I want to be with kids, I borrow my friends and we both seem to benefit from that. And the kids think I am cool.
2006-10-25 05:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋