I've been in a relationship with this girl for 8 years.. we don't live together since we're both still kinda young and not married (21). Anyway we have a 4 year old together, and I just recently got a job offer about 6 hours away.. I am not sure if I am ok with the fact that I would be leaving them however of course I need to work. Sometimes she says she will be supportive and go with me, other times she says she wants to finish her school here and all and wants me to get "adjusted" before she moves up with me. It's a new place and she says she will be scared at first. Just wondering, do I not take the job for the sake of family and look closer around here, or do I take the job and she'll eventually come with me? Been applying for this job for over a year however as things get closer I am unsure what to do?
2006-10-25 04:55:56 · 7 answers · asked by mike 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's a heavy duty question. You have a child together and the childs well being must be considered first. If this job will allow you to provide a better life for your child, you should take it, she should look at the opportunities to go to a school where the job is, but she is right that you should get a place and get settled before you uproot everyone. Good Luck!!!
2006-10-25 05:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best that you take the job and get your life adjusted. appears maybe she is not sure of what she wants in life.
you know you always can go back on time off and see the child.
You need to hve a job to give support to the child more than being together right now. I say take the job dont let it pass you by.
2006-10-25 12:04:24 · answer #2 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the job. It's called taking chances in life.
Let her finish school. Her education and future is as important as yours.
Take the job, get settled, allow her to finish or give her time to make a transfere.
She'll have to realize it will be a life experience for her too to try another part of the country. It can be scarry, but it can also change your life for the better.
2006-10-25 12:02:37 · answer #3 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not take the job for the sake of your family because family is more important then a job. You can find another job around the area.
2006-10-25 12:01:57 · answer #4 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God bless ya. . you're trying to be the man by stepping up the plate . you have a family to take care of and that's FIRST AND FOREMOST. Take the job. If she comes later, fine, if she goes with you now, fine . .but don't blow an opportunity because you're not sure about her. . being unsure about her isn't going to help you take care of your responsibilities. She should be supportive of you . .God knows there are a lot of men who don't take care of their families --If she loves you and wants to be commited to this relationship, she'll jump onboard.
2006-10-25 12:04:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her to the new town to see it. make sure she knows that her friends are welcome to come stay the weekends. Try to get her comfortable with the idea of moving. If she won't go, I'd stay nearer to my kid, and find another job. Even if it was flippin burgers, I'd be there for my kid.
2006-10-25 12:10:39 · answer #6 · answered by michaelsmaniacal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to do what's best for you and your child, and if you really want to be with her ask her to marry you
2006-10-25 12:03:29 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋