We tried talking to her about it, telling her about appropriate times to do the same, time out at school/home, taking away favorite toys and scolding her....what next? Why am I embarassed? She does not exhibit this behavior at home, so I don't get it.
2006-10-25 04:47:56 · 5 answers · asked by Kimmy 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
The best thing that I can think of is to put her in overalls that she can't get off. They make some of the most adorable dress overalls as well as pants. with the dress, she could still get panties off, but it would be much less noticable. good luck.
2006-10-28 17:49:28 · answer #1 · answered by cds21681 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say she doesn't do this at home, so that eliminates my first impulse- that the clothing is bothering her body somehow. Some children are hypersensitive to the feeling of certain articles of clothing. Is she getting a reaction from teachers at school? What do they do about it? Is there a certain time of day when it is happening? Does she have to go potty so badly she can't wait? It is hard to give advice without the chance to observe the situation. Are there other children nearby or involved? Teachers need to be monitoring her carefully... she should not be out of eyesight long enough that she has a chance to get her pants and panties off of her. Suggest that a teacher should "shadow" her... follow her closely (without inhibiting her play) to see if there are any situations that preceed her little strip show. At her age, delayed punishments (time outs, etc) won't mean anything.... she's got no concept of a punishment so far after the fact. The teacher needs to be the one to use her discipline strategies at the time of the incident (one to which you have agreed on together). You can continue to say things at home, such as "Remember, we only take of our pants and panties when we have to go potty, in the bathroom". But the main "discipline" on the issue has to lie in the "here and now" that preschoolers live in. Talk to the teacher and come up with a plan for observing your child and discipline ideas you and the teacher will use.
2006-10-26 08:20:30 · answer #2 · answered by dolphin mama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with a professional for help in this area. I blame the teacher for not scolding the behavior. The corner time or locked away from social events if she acts out like this. Some say children are born with dealings that need to be beat out of them but beatings are not the way to go. I would tell her clothes are for the weather and let her feel not a thing on her in her room for a while. She will be begging for clothes and keep them on. I felt it was OK as long as I was in my room but on a Nap I wanted to go bare and I got a beating at 4 years old an I feel I did not do anything wrong. I had not forbia about the body or clothes... So at a young age you do not feel it is wrong but you are forced to wear clothing because your parents say the body is not beautiful and ugly and yucky an put a fassy wassy on any exit you make to be bare. Children are like sponges and soak up all that is presented to them. You have to be clothed also. Mom or Dad with not clothes on is not cool. Live by example... I would like to try for Jerry Beads Secretly but the thought of /What would the Church think If they saw the show...Do not make a bit of a big issue out of this and maybe in time by example it will go away and if not get professional opinion... Sometimes I wish I was ok with the body issue but not to be noticed by boys I porked up add and kept porking it up to be hidden from view but watch out just for me I want the chance to get in shape for myself and Watch Out I may not care what people think O "Some Day"
2006-10-25 05:04:54 · answer #3 · answered by Nina 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe you're making too big of a deal about it. I know it's embarrassing and it's not appropriate, but maybe she's enjoying the attention she's getting even though it is negative. I'd try just making her put them back on and putting her in time out, but other than than not react too strongly about it. She will grow out of it. Both of my kids did that too, but they mostly did it at home not out in public. It may be though that if everyone acts all shocked and makes a big deal about it she thinks that's funny and that's why she keeps doing it.
2006-10-25 04:53:43 · answer #4 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she grows up, she'll most likely be a stripper
2006-10-25 04:50:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋