nearly 2 years ago my mum was pregnant with twins and lost a baby and about a week she lost it i had an argument with her and i wished the hardest i could that she wasnt pregnant. so is it my fault she lost the baby????
ever scince i have felt so guilty please tell me is it my fault???
2006-10-25 04:42:08 · 23 answers · asked by mummy to 3 miracles 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
luvbuggy!...
my mum only lost 1 baby
2006-10-25 04:46:52 · update #1
i cant speak to my mum about it as she already has enough to deal with in her life like looking after my brother (the other twin) and getting over cancer and the fact that her husband might have cancer
2006-10-25 04:56:20 · update #2
Of course you didn't causei t. Just wishing something doesn't make it come true. A miscarraige is something that can happen without warning. Never ever feel it's your fault & I bet if you voiced those same concerns to your mother..if she is a good decent mother....she will tell you exactly what we have. It's not your fault it's no ones fault.
2006-10-25 04:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by mamabens 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, no, no honey. Your mother losing that baby is not your fault. I have had two miscarriages--- did everything right, NO ARGUEMENTS with anyone, no stress, nothing. I was blissfully happy about being pregnant and I still miscarried both times. Unfortunately, the vast majority of miscarriages happen typically because something was chromosomally not correct (think I spelled that wrong). It just happens and there is nothing you or your mother could have done to prevent it. Stop beating yourself up as wishing something doesn't make it happen. Also, you might want to talk to your mother about this and apologize as two years is a long time to harbor such guilt. The apology will merely make "you" feel better but I am incline to think that if you tell your mother how upset you are about this she will also agree that this was not your fault!!.. Take care, honey.
2006-10-25 12:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by nonotredamefan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your fault. If anyone could wish a pregnancy away then there would be no unwanted pregnancies. It is natural for you to feel guilty, but you need to forgive yourself. Unless you pushed your mom down the stairs or something like that, then you had nothing to do with it. Sometimes these things just happen. You might just tell your mom that you are sorry that she lost the baby, then just do whatever you can to help out with your brother, especially if your mom has been sick. Good luck.
2006-10-25 12:09:46 · answer #3 · answered by kat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no way that your thoughts made her have the miscarriage. If you are religious, God knows the difference between saying things in the heat of anger and really meaning it. And if you aren't religious, then you wouldn't think that thoughts could effect another person's body anyway.
I had a miscarriage 10 years ago at 8 weeks and my Mom thought it was her fault for the longest time because she had a file cabinet she needed moved and I moved it for her. It was a big fire cabinet and I moved it down her basement for her by myself. She swore that moving that caused the miscarriage. Fact is, we don't know why the fetus didn't grow, but it was still implanted after moving the cabinet so it had nothing to do with it. And that was a physical act, not thoughts.
2006-10-25 12:11:54 · answer #4 · answered by Dulcet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel guilty there is nothing you have done wrong. The unborne child could have had a disability or something, I can put your mind at rest that it is due to no wishes that caused the miscarraige. The placenta - is the organ that feeds the fetus from the mother pre-birth could have been faulty. Your mom could have gone into spontaneous labour too early and that could be due to a hormonal problem. There are umpteen other reasons, so relax with that it IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!
2006-10-25 11:56:21 · answer #5 · answered by tracey s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not your fault chick however arguing with your mum when she is or is not pregnant is unacceptable. What happend to the kids that respected their mums???
One day you will have a child and see how hard it is... i hope then your mum does not wish that you wernt pregnant or argues with you.
Its not your fault however you might feel better if you tell your mum the truth.
Good Luck
2006-10-25 11:52:52 · answer #6 · answered by mumzie04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how hard you wish, no matter how much you think about it. There is no way that you can cause something like that to happen. If it happened, only the man upstairs can decide such a thing.. Relax and dump the guilt it would have happened anyway.
2006-10-25 11:46:49 · answer #7 · answered by Jonny B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, she was going to lose that baby anyway, whether you argued or not. At least she was carrying twins which meant that she didn't completely miss out on having a baby with that pregnancy.
This isn't, and wsn't your fault.
2006-10-25 11:59:21 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not blame yourself for your mum losing the baby. I know it's hard not to feel guilty, but it isn't your fault at all. There are so many different medical reasons for something like that to happen, but understand that you are not responsible for it. I truly hope your mum doesn't blame you either.
2006-10-25 11:48:53 · answer #9 · answered by Julie F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not your fault. We often think and do things out of anger that we really don't mean. You shouldn't feel guilty as I am quite sure you didn't mean for her to really lose her baby.
2006-10-25 11:52:11 · answer #10 · answered by Medical and Business Information 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋