Ive asked a question today and been labelled a HOME WRECKER is that me??
Ive been dating a man who is marriage, him and his wife seperated 3 mths ago they are selling there house, she moved out a while ago and has a new man. Apparently my date ended the relationship as he doesnt want to be with her anymore they are still friends and he hasnt mentioned a divorce and I dont want to pry! Hes very keen on me and I havent had sex with him we are just dating is this wrong??? He sounds as if he wants a relationship with me, hes coming to stay with me in a few weeks and has hinted about going away for Xmas.
2006-10-25 04:36:53 · 44 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignore the answers you get from those telling you that you are bad ok? They are people who have probably been on the shitty end of one of these stories. There is no black and white here. My strong advice is always to just keep away from hooked up men. For one, you don't know if you can trust them, and for another, its just too much heartache to bother! If he was already separated when you met, well then fair enough, your not doing anything wrong. After all, if he was in love with his wife, he would still be with her...end of! Furthermore, no matter how enticing you were, he would just not be interested!! So, as long as your ok with how things are, then accept his dates, after all, his ex is! Ignore these people trying to drag you down, and tell yourself everyday that you are not causing any pain here, because your not. Trust your first instincts regarding sex, and if it don't feel right, then don't do it..but you must stop hanging yourself dude!!
2006-10-25 07:29:13 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well in all honesty if he was in the relationship at the time then you should have waited. However, they've made a mutual decision ,it seems , and they're wanting to move on now. So no you're not a home wrecker, if you didn't have an affair fine, but he's single and wanting to move on. Nobody has been deceived or hurt so i think you should move on too.
Only behave in a way that won't hurt other people, if you did break the marriage up then you should think in future first before you get involved.
2006-10-25 04:53:25 · answer #2 · answered by poppy 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not label you a home wrecker. You said he and his wife are separated and she is also dating. The thing that would worry me for your sake is the fact that he has not filed for divorce. This tells me he is unsure if he really wants to end his relationship with his wife. It is possible that they both decided to take a break from their relationship for a while to see if there is really something to hold on to. I had a friend who her and her hubby did that. They ended up getting back together and hurting the people they had been dating.
I wouldn't give it up until a divorce is in the works. You should have the right to ask whether he is going to divorce her or not. If he gets mad, it's because he does not think of you as his girlfriend but his play toy.
You don't need a man with strings attached, and still being married and no divorce filled for, them are some heavy strings. Best of luck to you honey.
2006-10-25 04:48:13 · answer #3 · answered by Social_D 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't nessisarily call you a "homewrecker", but you have put yourself into a "sticky situation" two wrongs don't make a right, just because she already has a new man, doesn't mean that she can't use your relationship against him to get what she wants later in court. It may be best to just stay away fromthis situation. If he really cares about you, and you feel the same about him, you two will still feel the same why AFTER he's divorced, and everything is settled. Personally, I wouldn't be as much worried about being called a "homewrecker" as I would being called "the rebound girl". "Rebound relationships" rarely last very long. Good luck with whatever you choose!
2006-10-25 04:44:17 · answer #4 · answered by lil_rowdy1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how ur date could of ended the relationship? If they were strong enough it would not matter about you. You might however have changed his mind on how he feels about her and i agree no woman should mess around with a married man and even a newly split relationship. But if she has a new man and u haven slept with him ur not doing much wrong...ur not trying to steal him and acting more like a friend. Do as YOU want but make sure if kids are involved that there is no chance of reconcilitaion! Ur certainly no home wrecker and there are plenty of wh*res out there like that so dont worry!
2006-10-25 05:01:14 · answer #5 · answered by lost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? your not a marriage wrecker. as your not the one who was married. a marriage is between two people and if they let others come between its there problem. you've not slept with him and she's seeing another man. do all you ppl out there seriously think he should waste his time trying to patch a marriage that is clearly broken since his'wife' is seeing someone, shes moved on and so should he, if he wants to move on with you and you feel its the right thing to do then go for it, if he makes you happy and you make him happy then wheres the problem? he's been honest with you and it sounds like an amicable split so ignore the small minded ppl who say your a home wrecker because its not true. a home wrecker comes between two ppl on purpose, you havn't. hold your head high sweetie.
2006-10-25 04:54:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't exactly call you a home wrecker without knowing the whole situation but if he was in a relationship when you met him and still living with his wife you two definately shouldn't have been seeing each other. it's not fair to the wife,you, or him. If he was truely unhappy with the wife they would have been seperated before you came into the picture....Speaking from experience
2006-10-25 04:45:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only a home wrecker if you were dating him before the seperation.
But it sounds like he is jumping from one reltionship to another without taking a break to see where things went wrong. So it will not happen again.
2006-10-25 04:57:39 · answer #8 · answered by Drojan W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a home wrecker, if the marriage was broken before you came along how can you be accused of breaking it? Good luck and I hope it works out for you.
2006-10-25 05:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by mollygirl20002000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No - his marriage must have been bad anyway for him to end it so quickly, BUT for your own safety don't let him stay, don't sleep with him and don't go away for Christmas. It is far too soon for him to enter a full relationship. Keep things on a friendly basis for a while until his relationship with his wife is well and truly in the past.
2006-10-25 04:39:32 · answer #10 · answered by geegee 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋