I am a stay at home mom and I dont desire to put the babies in daycare. But if I did put them in daycare would it be wise to go to school or to get a job until they go to school. I like to stay home with them but it will help if I did bring a little something in. We are not struggling at all.
2006-10-25 04:22:13 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Do you think my family would suffer if I took a night job. My husband works during the day.
2006-10-25 04:27:03 · update #1
I hope my experience helps.
I have 4 kids. We both worked while the eldest two were little - often working different shifts. When he younger two came along mum stayed at home as by then we could just about afford for one of us to give up work
We have 4 great kids... the love of their parents that's important. Letting kids mix with others in a secure, loving environment is what is important. Day care, properly chosen can be a positive thing as it teaches children to interact with others and gets them ready for school.
If you do the "stay at home" thing make sure you let your little ones mix with kids their own age.
And did I say it's the love thats important?
2006-10-25 04:34:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would sort of be counterproductive, since daycare costs so much. You'd basically be going out to work and then turinging around and handing your paycheck over to the daycare center for taking care of them. Do you have a relative who could take them instead?
You said you were comfortable financially. Is getting out of the house to go to school or work just something you want to do for yourself to stay in touch with the adult world, or is it something you want to do for the money? If money's not an issue but you still want to get out, I think school is the way to go. You can use your education to get a good-paying job once the kids are in school.
I don't think a night job is a good idea, though, because then you and your husband will never see each other again!! If you must get a night job, try to get one part-time, like maybe only 2 or 3 nights a week, so you and your family can still have quality time together.
2006-10-25 04:32:55 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you are ready to put them in daycare and you are not struggling then it would be in your and your family's best interest if you went back to school. You can do alot more with a degree than you can just going back to work as a secretary or assistant or something (not saying that is what you will be). If school is not your cup of tea then maybe even a part time job would be good for you to get you out of the house some. Good luck!!
2006-10-25 04:28:21 · answer #3 · answered by april_fay21 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can go to school or get a job without putting them in daycare. I would not put the kids in daycare. As far as whether to get a job or go to school, it depends what your long term goals are. If you can get a job related to the field that you want, job experience is more valuable than school. However, the nice thing about school is that you can take evening classes while your husband watches the kids.
2006-10-25 06:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Usagi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it depends on if you have extra money to spare on school. If you do than i would go to school. You will also most likely have more time with your children if you go to school because college isn't usually an 8 hour day. Have you thought about maybe having family or a home daycare or a nanny take care of your children while you better your self or bring in a lil extra? Good luck in whatever you decide
2006-10-25 04:29:27 · answer #5 · answered by Confused 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to school! Even if it's just part time it won't take up too much of your time and you could find other options aside from daycare if you are truly against it. Furthering your education can help you get a better job once your kids are school age but it can also give you the opportunity to learn more, meet new people and have fun.
2006-10-25 04:28:00 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was a stay at home mom until my girls turned a year old, then our financial situation got really tight, and i had to start working. i hired a good family friend to watch them at our house while i was at work. now my girls are 2, and the babysitter couldn't watch them anymore, so i've recently put them in daycare. it was a HUGE adjustment for them, but they're getting better at it every day. daycare has its good points as well as bad, they're exposed to lots of germs, and may pick up some bad behavior from the other kids, but it's also a good oportunity for them to learn how to interact socially and develop early language & literacy skills. i think the best time to put kids in daycare is after they're 2, then they're old enough that they can listen to the teachers, and it's ok if they're exposed to germs, then they can develop their immune system. part of me is a little disappointed that i don't get to be there for every little thing that happens for them, but that's just part of them growing up. if your kids are still babies, keep them at home with you, and enjoy this time while you still have it. if they're over 2, daycare would be a good option for you, and they would definetly benefit from it (and so would you). best of luck!
2006-10-25 04:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't struggling with money, don't do it. Your babies need you in the home. Plus financially, day care is SO expensive it will not make up the difference unless you have a very good paying job. Enjoy staying at home with your babies...you will have a better relationship with them for it. Later down the road, when they are teenagers...they will look to you more as a friend than a distant mother. I promise it will make a difference. Good Luck!
2006-10-25 04:29:15 · answer #8 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think being a stay at home mom is a wonderful choice....congrats!!!!
Why not just wait until they're in school, then take up something. Go to school, get a job, pick a hobby....
And, I would definitely NOT recommend doing a second shift thing....evening is the time for your family.
2006-10-25 04:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stay at home with them - at least until they start school. There is nothing more fulfilling for a mom than to be there to watch their children grow. And kids don't realize it now, but they will appreciate it later. Unless you are struggling with money issues, stay at home and be a mom.
2006-10-25 04:24:42 · answer #10 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋