Becoming a parent?

Question

I am going to become a dad soon and i was wondering what it feels like to become a parent and does it put a strain on your relationship with your partner?

Answer 1

A new Mom will rather have a plate of pasta or a nap than have sex with her partner for a little while. She will be totally devoted to her child. She will be very tired.
The hardest thing for a DAD is to take a step back and become priority N2.
Otherwise it is a great thing for both.
Congratulations!!!

Answer 2

Congratulations! Yes, becoming a parent will probably put a strain on your relationship. Your wife might unintentionally give you less attention because she has another life who will be the center of her world (no offense, but that's how a lot of mothers see it). She will be cranky because more than likely SHE will be the one getting less sleep, taking care of the baby, changing diapers, dealing with crying. The housework, dinner and errands will become secondary, not intentionally, but by default so please try not to complain. Just try to help her out more because no matter how much she tries, she probably won't find the time to do it. There might be financial strain, but that's normal. Just be understanding in every way possible and don't take things personally if she makes sudden outbursts at you. New mothers are full of hormones :) Becoming a mother and a father is stressful on everyone but you will get through it. Just try to be understanding :) That's all us mothers ask for :)

Answer 3

I know everyone says it puts a strain on relationships and such but I can't say that has happened to me. In fact ever since my son was born my fiance and I have never been closer!! Being a parent is awesome and as long as the 2 of you work together then everything should be fine. Just take it one day at a time.

I think becoming a parent was the best thing me and fiance could have done. Life is awesome now with our son!

Remember its all in how you make it to be. Nothing comes easy...you have to work and strive for good.

congrats on becoming a daddy!!

Answer 4

As others have said, there are strains and stresses that go along with parenthood. You can deal with them and become a better person, not just as a parent and partner, but in all the roles in your life. It's a capacity in almost all of us. The important thing is to see the big picture and not let temporary problems trip you up. Congratulations, and good luck!

Answer 5

Yes..it does put a strain on the relationship. It's just not the 2 of you anymore..it's the 3 of you now and that 3rd little person will be very demanding. Most parents get through it though.

Answer 6

Of course it puts a strain. Suddenly there's someone else alot more important that you are.

Your wife will be exhausted, cranky and will have a tremendous responsibility, plus it will take a while for her body to even out and return to normal after the birth. Add that to her getting on average about 3-5 hours of sleep a night, plus whatever naps she can work in, and it's just a rough thing.

After about 6 months things will even out and you will have developed a routine.

Answer 7

It will. But the fact that you are considerate enough to ask this makes me think that you and your partner are going to be just fine.
There will be times when you both want to yell and shout at each other, especially when her hormones are still doing strange wacky things to her, but remember, in the grand scheme of things, it is but one moment in time, and by talking, and cuddling, you can get through the rough spots.
Be patient, find out what you can do for her, and be prepared to get yelled at for things beyond your control.
Recognise each emotion that you and your partner have, don't bottle things up inside of one another, and if you are up to it, try to get up with her during the night so that she doesn't have to do the night feeds/nappy changes alone.

All the best for parenthood!

Answer 8

There really is no way to describe being a dad. It is different for each person. It really depends on how much you want this little one in your life. There is always strain on a marriage when you bring a littel one into the house. Things are very different. Your wife will be tired for a long time. She does not have the freedom to do what she wants anymore.The little one takes precident over everything. The baby's needs are by far the most important needs of the house hold. So if the baby is fussing and needs comforting or changing or feeding this comes before dinner for everyone else. Your bathing has to be put on hold if the baby is fussy and you are in charge. This is very hard for some men to understand some woman too. My husband got jealous of the baby when we had our first son. He loved him but felt I spent way too much time with him and he felt like he took the back seat to everything else. Well, you need tounderstan that you are a grown man and can feed and cloth and tend to your needs all by yourself without the help of your wife. The new baby cannot. It was very hard on my husband I di not ignore him but he did not liek having to wait for his supper because i was busy with the baby. Babies are unpredictable. They cry when they want something. They mess their clothes at the drop of a hat. You cannot leave him to sit in his poo just because you want something. The main things is you have to ask yourself what kind of Dad do I want to be. a loving helpful very involved in my child's life Dad or the Dad that your child comes to only when he needs something. You decide what kind of Dad you want to be. It must start from Day one. My husband does not understand why our children never come to him for advice or never tell him when they have problems or call just to talk. It is because when they were young and in the house he did not want to listen to their silly stories or help them when they cried or hug them when they had a bad day at school. He wanted to watch his tv shows and read his book and do what he wanted to do. SO he in fact created the relationship he has with his children. Our children call me almost everyday. Just long enough to say HI what you doing? Not because I am the mom but because I cared enough to be with them and do for them above doing for myself. I'm no saint and I had times when I did not want to listen to the story they were writing or watch the movie they wanted to watch or take them to a freinds house or help them with their homework. When you have worked an 8 hour day at work coming home to four children and everyone wanting to talk to you is overwhelming. But you remember that you chose to have these precious jewels in your life and now you need to do what is right. Hope this help some. Just realize this is a glorious gift that not everyone has the oportunity to have. Choose to be the right kind of Dad. Above everything else remember this is a joint responsibility and needs to be shared equally.

Answer 9

What a blessing from God you are about to have in your home. Just keep repeating this over and over, your child is a blessing from God. You and your partner will learn to adjust, the most important thing in your lives will be your blessing. You will learn a little later down the road how to make time for everything and everyone, don't rush things, just enjoy.....

Answer 10

When my son calls me dad I still marvel at it. My son is 18 years old. It will change your relationship with you're wife. There will be difficult times. But remember they will pass.