My man goes to his friends almost every night and gets high and drunk. He then comes home and usually starts an argument or says really mean things to me. The next morning he usually doesnt remember the things he said. During the day he is just fine. Even if we get high together he is still mean. I have asked him to cut down but he doesnt. What do I do?
2006-10-25 03:56:02 · 25 answers · asked by Teri M 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If i were u i would tell him that if he doesnt cut down on his smoking and drinking then you will leave him. i know it would be hard to leave your man but if he disrespects you when he is messed up then why be with him at all. Also if he doesnt respect you asking him to cut down they why would you want to be with him anyways. In a relationship you have to compromise and it dont seem like he is doing that. He is just walking all over you and you dont deserve that. Tell him how you feel and if he dont listen, then its time to move on he isnt worth your time and effort. It dont seem like he is even trying to keep this relationship stable and it takes 2 to do so. Give him the boot u will find another man trust me!
2006-10-25 04:03:16 · answer #1 · answered by ricoville 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. I used to have that problem w/ an old roommate. Getting high makes people become nasty. Tell him you can't stand his actions anymore. If he really cares about you he will cut down on the high. he's your husband need to be more responsible. or else further down the path things are just gonna get worst .
OR JUST S.T.O.P. some people are chilled and dont get aggravated. if he aint' that type. dont get high at all. just get drunk and chilll ~~ why need to get high?
The key is : if he cares about you he would stop. if not...then you put away your emotions and make a decisive sound decision.
Goodluck.
2006-10-25 11:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by bobby b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the pot- it's the booze making him ornery. I have friends that get high all the time and they are fine but if they add alcohol they get real belligerent. Try to get your man to stop drinking so much that he blanks on events.... or record him in this condition and show or play it for him when he's sober. He may be surprised that it's even himself acting like that. Most people, more or less, slip into this condition without realizing the effects it has on their behavior.
Good luck and hope things work out for you.
2006-10-25 11:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Coo coo achoo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume you're not married since you call him your "man". He sounds more like a boy to me. Why do you stay with this person who is mean to you?? And why on earth do you get high with him??? You are just as wrong as he is. What should you do? Well....what do you want your life to be like??? Do you want better for yourself? If so, don't walk, RUN away from this person and don't look back!!
2006-10-25 11:01:23 · answer #4 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way should you put up with the answers already posted! thewy will not have to live alone and depressed when he is gone..stop whining and do more for him sexually xx Ask yourself these questions:
Do you give him what he wants and needs sexually?
Oral to completion
Anal
Outdoor fun
BDSM
Group fun
Are you watching the weight?
Whining and moaning all the time?
Give him whatever he wants whenenver he wants wherever he wants and with whoever he wants or end up fat lonely depressed and with this happening again and again in your life......and ignore the puritans, the losers, the religious and the bitter dumped souls who post here xxx
2006-10-25 11:00:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this dependance on drugs is becoming innappropriate and is hurting you and your relationship you need to make him talk about it. If he refuses, explain that you don't think it's fair for him to put you in this position to be hurt by him all the time, and that if he want's this to work then he needs to think about the bigger picture.
If he still refuses to cut back and continues the innappropriate behaviour you may have to leave him for your own sake. You don't need to live your life that way.
2006-10-25 10:59:53 · answer #6 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave. Your in a NO win situation. He has chosen his own path of destruction and now he is leading you down the same path. Get out while you can. I guarantee that you will find someone who will treat you better and you will have a better life as soon as you get out of this relationship. Good luck.
2006-10-25 11:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by loser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should just sit there and take it. You don't deserve any better, be happy with what you've got. He is the only man in the whole world that will want you, so don't complain. Being alone won't be any better, so don't screw things up with him!
2006-10-25 11:00:10 · answer #8 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find another man! He will never stop being mean to you and he doesn't want to give up the dringing and drugs. He has choesn them over you.
2006-10-25 10:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by MotherB 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well who knows what you do while he is high to get him angry, but I'll tell you this from experience Ive never met a moody pothead... unless he is on more than that, you said he drinks too... sounds like a lil boy rather than a man, sh it grow up
2006-10-25 11:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋