Give a detailed answer and if possible, relate it to your own experience. What are the downfalls, if any, of such encounters?
2006-10-25 03:54:34 · 24 answers · asked by Jo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At this point there are 11 responses, mostly in favour of one night stands. I wonder how representative these views are of the general population. Actually, the responses make me a little sad.
2006-10-25 04:04:06 · update #1
Other than there is no emotional connection, no commitment, just pure fling it's a fine idea IF you accept the facts:
1) STDs are running rampant and you could get one
2) you could get pregnant (there is NO SAFE SEX PERIOD)
3) you could end up with a highly abusive partner
4) the potential guilt is ridiculous
5)it's STUPID
6) it's IRRESPONSIBLE
. . . shall I go on?
One night stands are THE dumbest thing you could do.
2006-10-25 04:05:15 · answer #1 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had a few one nighters. Usually happened when I had been drinking. First of all I was always worried about and STD. Luckily I never got one but the next morning it always scared the crap out of me. Second I felt used. I felt like they didnt care who I was as long as they got a nut. Also I was beaten up real bad once. That was the last time I had a one nighter. We met and hit it off real good. then we went to the club together and as we met a couple of my friends at IHOP he started to get angry because there were more peps around. We left early and went back to his house. We had sex and then when I got up to leave he turned around and just started beating the crap out of me. I guess what Im saying is now a days you need to know the person you are getting involved with otherwise it may turn into a deadly situation
2006-10-25 04:05:13 · answer #2 · answered by Teri M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think in theory it is a great idea but in my reality I can't separate sex and feelings. I think most women are the same. I think no matter how hard I would feel some connection with that person and expect more. After all I married both men I had sex with. The first for 14 years, been with 2nd for 11 years. I really connect.
2006-10-25 04:02:55 · answer #3 · answered by dixiedarling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there is a mutual understanding of what both sides want they can be great...very educational! Tell you what you like and what you don't like. but it is important to be secure with yourself and be a little selfish about it. Realize that you just wanted some physical and so did he. If you feel like you were used...then it sucks...but if you feel like you used eachother...no problem.
However, if one side thinks it means more than the other, it never turns out good. Some people think sex, makes a relationship secure or bonded. But if the otherside is just lookng for some action, then feelings get hurt. It is also important to be discrete. Don't hook up with someone in your circle or is friends with someone in your circle. They need to show that they have the ability to keep their mouth shut...Whether you are a sexually independent woman...or a ****...there is a very fine line and it has little to do with you. I has a lot to do with who your one-nighters are.
2006-10-25 04:02:14 · answer #4 · answered by tightlies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well as a mature professional female that is single....I prefer to have a friend with benefits instead of a one night stand...One night stands are okay but you really dont know the person and I dont try to either ....With everyone always mentioning STDs/ AIDS as a single female in this world I know how to protect myself and do realize that this is something I need to be aware of...Damn though I am single not dead!...I need some fun too...my toy and I can only do so much!...LOL..
2006-10-25 04:03:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The downfall is that... men work mostly the same. If you can get one off, you can get them all off.
It gets easier to pleasure a woman with some experience with her body. So its a little for a woman to really find great one-nighter sex. And if you find somebody that can hit it right... and you only get it once, that's kinda a waste.
On the other hand, it's a lot of fun. Especially if you manage to find a guy who knows his sh*t.
2006-10-25 04:04:28 · answer #6 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are a fantastic way of enjoying no hang up sex and experimenting. If you are in a relationship just be very discrete. Use these encounters to leaarn what turns you on. Have fun, and take precautions...and ignore the puritan losers and nutter who post on here xx have a ball (or two!)
2006-10-25 03:58:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a dangerous thing to do. Even using a condom isn't 100% safe. That's one big downfall to it. AIDS scares the hell out of me. But it is exciting at the same time, to have sex with an anonymous person.
I did this once. I was 21 yrs old at the time. If I was single now, I would never do it again. Looking back it was soooo stupid, but when you're young..........you think nothing bad will happen to you.................................
2006-10-25 04:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One night stands are only good for one thing, a quickie. When you wake up next to that person you don't know what they look like or you don't remember them because either of you guys were tooo drunk to even remember. A story that I have to share is one night this girl was telling me that she met a cute guy that night and she wanted to have a one night stand with him so she had sex with him that night and when she woke up, he was a hairy middle aged guy that was balding. Because the alcohol impared her judgement, she turned out going out with a cute guy but, an old guy. Other stories have to do with people haveing a one night stand and then they wake up with a sexually transmitted dieseases yiikes!
2006-10-25 04:03:00 · answer #9 · answered by Careatha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you dont care for the person at all...
which was the case for me, but not the girl I was with, see we were friends and used to be for a while, but one night it got a lil heavy and she made a move and we had a good time, but she wanted to date me and that just wasn't cool, cause she kept saying she loved me, and I was like well I like you but not in that way... cant we just leave it at that, I was young and in college and wasn't looking for a relationship... just having fun, and we still dont talk, so as long as you dont know the person, and dont care much about them and are just looking for fun its completely a good idea, but if emotions get in the way stop and start over with the person... see what their intentions are, and at that poin t any guy will go to the length of dropping the L bomb to get laid so do what you like have fun when your young but if your grown dont do it, its tacky(no ****)
2006-10-25 04:02:13 · answer #10 · answered by J from O 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋