What's the use of saying til death do us part in getting married if there's devorce?

Question

if devorce at the end, probably it's better to say" it depends do us part" instead of til death do us part.

Answer 1

yes why be committed to someone you are best friends with and have grown in true love with-when you can keep it open so first disagreement you can go out and be like I was a slutty person making a new soul tie to destroy your life more-try Jesus amazing grace-and thanks

Answer 2

I think the promise is made with everlasting love on your mind at the time. No one can see what the future holds in any relationship.
If people jump into marriage as an escape or on a whim then perhaps the phase shouldn't be used.
As responsible adults going into a union, there is never the hope or wish for separation ... You have hopefully gotten to know each other very well , as friends and lovers...You couldn't even fathom the thought of being without each other.
This is the premise of the words and oath you day in a marriage ceremony...
As you say, it seems ambiguous to say something that you don't mean....

Answer 3

You're meant to be serious when you take the vows. If you really love someone then you don't contemplate ever being without them. If you already go into marriage saying that there's a chance it won't work out, it places a certain amount of doubt on how committed you are in the first place. I know the whole thing seems a bit like hypocrisy, given the lrge number of divorces, but marriage is meant to be a serious commitment. If you think about it, in most cases it's only one of the people who create the necessity for divorce, or want it. So at least one of them is being true to their vow.

Answer 4

Because that is what marriage is - and what a lot of people don't seem to realise on their wedding day - a commitment for life - not until you fall out of love or in love with another person or whatever.

But yes, I agree that it seems a little unrealistic. I shall be having a hand-fasting with my partner - we will commit for a year and a day. I think its very romantic because every year we have to decide whether or not to stay together - like being proposed to every year! And if things start to go astray we canuse that opportunity to discuss it and either go our separate ways without blame or work ot get it back on track. Sounds all too easy and new age doesn't it? But in fact it pre-dates Christian weddings by quite a bit - and the legal bit of weddings in the UK was put on the statute books as a way of men contolling women, obtaining their property and keeping with as few rights as possible.

Answer 5

Because at the time of the marriage vows, the couple really believe what they are vowing to! They try to make a go of their marriage, but a lot of times, things don't work out and then there is a divorce. Why do you think a lot of people choose just to live together instead of getting married? Marriage is not easy, you have to really work hard at it.

Answer 6

i hope this helps, its not accepted for the most part because it is easier to just give up and go on instead of working on the relation ship and following the bibles instructions.
Mat 19:3 The Pharisees also came unto him, tempting him, and saying unto him, Is it lawful for a man to put away his wife for every cause?
Mat 19:4 And he answered and said unto them, Have ye not read, that he which made them at the beginning made them male and female,
Mat 19:5 And said, For this cause shall a man leave father and mother, and shall cleave to his wife: and they twain shall be one flesh?
Mat 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.
Mat 19:7 They say unto him, Why did Moses then command to give a writing of divorcement, and to put her away?
Mat 19:8 He saith unto them, Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.
Mat 19:9 And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication (or adultry), and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
this is the only reason for divorce, breaking the marriage bond.

Answer 7

Ironic isn't it. Life is full of many contradictions, I consider this one of them. But then again a lot depends on how serious a person is willing to take their vows. For some it can be just words but for others its a commitment for a lifetime.

Answer 8

The vows should be re-written, because divorce is constantly on the increase, sad to say. There's always a "get out clause" in every contract, and it seems divorce is the one in marriage

Answer 9

I personally took those vows serious and have been married for 21 years.. However to some people those Vows are just words to them and nothing to live by , its a sad , sad , situation..

Answer 10

I somewhat agree, divorce is too easy these days and although I have been divorced, at the time I married, I did expect to stay that way...so do the majority of those that say I do.