A drug question?

Question

I used to use drugs on a recreational basis, have done on & off for significant period of time. After my hubby & I sep/div I went of rails & would get totally ruined on a weekend, when I was high nothing else mattered & the world was a nicer place.

I have a little girl & have also had problems dealing with things from my past, it got to the stage where recreational use caused problems in my normal everyday life. I never used around my daughter but the come downs started to effect me mentally, I was depressed anyway and this left me feeling suicidal.

I DONT DO anything at all now but 3 friends do, everytime we hook up I ask they dont bring anything because I know I will be tempted & have been. Last weekend I arranged a meal out with the believe that nothing of this nature would take place but within 5 mins of leaving the restaurant they were snorting in the loo and I went mad with them.

Am I wrong to be disappointed with them, they've said it's because I have new BF!

Answer 1

Please take the following words seriously, this is coming from a person (myself) who has been clean from Coke for 21 years. I started out with just recreational use and before I knew it my life was out of control. I too, had a lot of issues that were hard for me to deal with and I would use the alcohol, weed and coke to hide. The only thing is that when I became straight and my high was gone all those problems were still there and I would feel even more depressed becaused of my drug use, the money I have wasted and some of my stupid actions while under the influence or actions to get the drug. My life was so out of control. I would really get some help. It sounds like you have problem. I am not going to sugar coat anything. I see myself in you twenty one years ago. Wow, We as human beings don't deal with our emotions, hurts, life experiences right, instead of dealing with our feelings, we hide them. We use drugs, alcohol, sex, and we use it to the extreme. You need to talk to somebody about your hurt and ways you can appropriately deal with this. Especially if you have little girls. You want whats best for them. They will eventually know that Mommy is doing something. Kids are not stupid. Do it for yourself first, and then for your children. Those people you are hanging out with are not your real friends. Remember misery loves company. I had to move out of state. All my friends still wanted me to hang out with them, and they always told me "come on, one time won't hurt". I refused. They are not your true friends. Some one true to you will tell you to do the best. It is not because you have a new boyfriend. That is just a cover up. Please seek help. I did and it was the best thing that ever happened to me. I hope you listen to me, I have been there, so I hope it means more to you. I lost everything, my job, my education, my family, friends, personal belongings, and it just started out with occassional use. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 2

No you are not wrong. I know where you are coming from I used to have a serius problem and coming down is was always the hardest part. It's good that you got a new friend you just have to surround yourself with people who are not into the life. It helps change who your friends are and take up a habit like painting or writing. Tell you the truth they weren't your friends if you asked them not to bring it around you and they did anyways. Over the years I have learned how to go to partys and out with friends who do use and still remain clean, I go so just incase they need me save there lives. But these are friends i have had since elementry school and they respect me enough that when we go to lunch or out with kids to keep there bad habits out of the conversation and leave the drugs at home

Answer 3

Hello. I am 42 years old and 23 years ago I had a little girl as a single mother. I too was depressed and used drugs recreationally. And when it was over would be left feeling much more depressed then if I never did them. I didn't do drugs around my baby, but of course it affected her. I was tired and sad. This made her not have the best mother I could have been.

I stopped using drugs but the effects on my daughter are still on going today. She is depressed and she too experimented with drugs.

I think you should drop your friends and meet other single women with children who are trying to make their ways the best way they know how, but drug free. Your other friends should know better then to tempt you with drugs when you have a little baby at home.
Don't be afraid. You will make and meet such a better quality of people, and you won't be as depressed.

Answer 4

If your friends were really your freinds, they'd understand and might even take a lesson from you. If you're truly trying to help yourself, then obviously it's not about your new bf. Is he supporting of you? Your child should come first, so if your freinds aren't helping you out, then take a good long break from them and spend more time with your kid. I know it's hard to keep from going out and having fun, but think of your child. I believe that some recreational use is ok, but if you used to have a problem, you might consider quitting altogether. Be strong, you should be proud that you're trying to help yourself and better the quality of life for you and your child. Some people never get that far.

Answer 5

Drugs are just a temporary fix for any problem and are very expensive. After the effects of the drugs wear off, your problems are still there or they have become worse. If you really want to stay clean, lose those so called friends of yours and find others that you can hang with that don't do drugs. You may find that your new friends are very supportive. Friends are defined by how they feel about how you feel. If they were really your friends, they would respect your wishes to stay off drugs. I am a voice of experience. Do it for yourself and above all else......your daughter!

Answer 6

With friends like that who needs enemies? They are at the same place that you were at....they don't care how anyone else thinks as long as they get to do the drug. Find new friends. Ones that can encourage and support your new life. If you have not gone to any support groups for former drug users, I suggest you find one. Getting off and staying off drugs is hard without a great support system.Congratulations!. I hope you stay clean for your sake and your daughters.

Answer 7

You need to get rid of them. If they cant respect your request to stay away from that stuff, then they dont care much about you. It also sounds like your drug use passed the point of recreational and may have become an addiction. I give you credit for cleaning yourself up and coming clean for your daughter. You need to keep her needs above your own... and if that means dumping this group of friends.. then do it! They will only bring you down.

Answer 8

First of all, congrats on stopping your addiction.

You NEED to cease all contact with your so-called "friends". If they are still using, they could seriously care less about YOUR welfare.

It's time to move on from all that negativity(including "friends") and start your life anew. Make new friends who don't use drugs or excessively consume alcohol. The only way to stay off drugs is to completely change your lifestyle. And that starts with letting go of all that surrounded your drug days... Good luck!

Answer 9

You know it from experience that drugs screw you up - why wouldn't it screw up your friends? They probably have no ability to see what they are doing to themselves or why it would bother you. These types of people are toxic and you should avoid them. Friendship, love, relationships are not about the other person's personality, but how they make you feel when you are around them. These friends don't make you feel good, so you need to remove yourself from the relationship and find some decent friends. You should be more than disappointed with them. You should be absent from them.

Answer 10

You're not wrong and it sounds like you and those friends are addicted to drugs. You and they should seek counseling. You don't have to be one group and get it together, I'm sure there are support groups or something out there to help with this problem. If you ever are exceptionally angry at them and the drugs happen to be illegal, you could turn them into the police.