My brother is 16 and his girlfriend is only 14 years old. she think we are family since she goes out with my brother. she thowing a birthday party for my dad this friday. i dont like the way she talks to people and the way thats she acts round people. do u think i should get to know the girl or just leave it alone. The weekend is the only time i get to see my brother because he lives with our aunt and i live with my mom and we both goes to diffent school
2006-10-25 03:28:11 · 24 answers · asked by desi07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You mean she's only 14 and she already knows how to throw a party for your dad...looks like she knows exactly how to capture someone's heart.
I know exactly how you feel about this. You detect something wrong with her and you just wana tell everyone about it but you cant coz shes your bro's girlfriend.
If shes really that bad,Im sure your brother will notice it in time and spill it to you. That would be the best time for you to tell him how youve thought of their relationship then ;)
If you worry about the amount of attention she might get from your family,save it. Rest assured that you will always be part of the family coz you are the family.
2006-10-25 04:05:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I made the mistake of telling my brother I don't like his girl! Dont' go that way! Try to get to know her. Just cause she's dating your brother doesn't mean you have to become best buds! If she steps out of line, tell her. A 14 yr old shouldn't be throwing a party for her boyfriends father. That's what family is for. Probably too late now, but you should've said thanks for the thought, but no thanks. Be smart about how you handle her. Don't let her sit on your head, make sure she knows where she stands with you. Whatever you do, don't mention your dislike of her to your brother. When ur in love you don't think logically! Also, make time to spend more time with your brother alone. Try and find out what he likes about her, get to know him a better! Good luck!
2006-10-25 10:39:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are difficult. There are no easy answers and you have to be comfortable living with what ever decision you make. Most likely your brother and his new girlfriend will break up without any help or involvement from you. You may consider talking to your brother about his relationships and how they effect your family dynamic. The only real advice I can give you is to look deep within your own heart before you make any decision about what to do.
2006-10-25 10:34:07 · answer #3 · answered by samlevine05667 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well give the girl a chance, and try to get along with her for your brothers sake. Also in the mean time, let her know you are not overly crazy about her ways of trying to be a big part of the family. After girls/guys come and go at that age. So I would lay low and yet get your point across to her when bro isn't around. get my drift.. :) good luck..
2006-10-25 10:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, your brother's life is your brother's life...it's not for you to do anything about it...he chooses who he wants to date. At 16 and her at 14 - I wouldn't fret it anyway - they will both have a lot more girlfriends/boyfriends in their future....That's not the girl he's going to spend the rest of his life with if she is only 14 right now...lol...so why worry about it much? Just hang in there - maybe his next girlfriend or the one after that you will like better. BUT - at 16, though he loves his sister I'm sure, know that he is going to have a busy and active social life and siblings and spending time with them falls by the way-side at that age - that is just natural.
2006-10-25 10:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you're just a little jealous, that's all...it's normal. I don't think this relationship will last. Mind your own business and just ignore it, maybe go out of your way to say how WONDERFUL the girl is. Kill her with kindness. You don't have to like every girl your brother dates. I do think giving your Dad a party is a little nervy, but hey...why not volunteer to help her out and then take the credit!!!??? That would really pis*s her off, wouldn't it??? LOL godloveya.
2006-10-25 11:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should get to know her, especially if you and your brother are close and you don't see him that often anyway. If they are together and serious, than she is going to be taking up alot of his time and becoming a big part of his life. If you don't like her and don't want to get to know her, that's going to limit the amount of time you and your bother can see each other, without her being around and you and or her feeling uncomfortable.
2006-10-25 10:36:11 · answer #7 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to believe it yet, but you just jealous that she is spending time with a man you love, your Brother.
Give her a chance to prove herself! Maybe you will like her!
If you dont get along then, .........
Just Live with it, And share the man!
2006-10-25 10:32:15 · answer #8 · answered by Geolove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would make the best of the weekend.However,I would let the girlfrien know that you dont approve of the way she talks to people and the way she carries herself is not becoming of a young woman.Its better to let it out then to hold it in.
2006-10-25 10:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by mzk 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just leave it alone. If you family and other friends are being positively influenced by her [meaning that they aren't against her actions], its best to leave it alone so that you'll satisfy more people's interests. It's an unselfish thing to do then.
2006-10-25 10:30:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋