what are your thoughts about teenage pregnancy & sex before marriage?

Question

type out all your feelings people...it's good for your health...lol

i personally am against it due to my religious beliefs. however i naturally believe it should all be planned out to prevent any damage or problems.

what do you think? tell me you views and opinions!

Answer 1

Many interesting veiws here. I always like to see how judgemental people are..
How can you be okay with sex before marriage, but not okay with the pregnancy..silly.
A lot of times they come hand in hand. I had my son when i was 16 years old. I was lost, didnt have parents, really and my boyfriend took care of me. Im not saying it was awesome, i went through a lot, i was a single mother. But i think that a lot of people have very narrow minds when it comes to this. Most girls dont run out and say i want to have sex and have a baby! I wasnt raised religiously, i was raised in a home full of drugs and different men always in and out because my aunt, that raised me didnt care that i was exposed to that. It can be damaging, and hard on parent and child.I think that the girls who get pregnant and decide to take care of those babies are honorable for doing so. But YOU are not in their shoes and so YOU cannot judge them.Does this make sense. I became a christain when i was 18 years old, was in a teen mom support group, took parenting classes, finished school, college and i am a productive person. My son is a productive person. A lot of young moms dont know how to get to the resources to help them or there just arent any in the community they live in. They know how looked down upon they are, going out into public we get the stares the questions, its hard to deal with.You may say well they shouldnt have put themselves in that position, right? well, many didnt understand that this would happen, or atleast turn out the way that it did. Teen parents have enough BS to go through and hurdles to jump. This was an issue 50 years ago, but they would just get married to make it look better, the divorce rate shows that obviously that wasnt the best plan. If more teens were educated on what could REALLY happen, i think the numbers would be lower but the reality is that schools dont want to bring up sex, its tabu.So good for everyone who has the guidance in their lives to know that it is better to wait to have sex and start families. But stop being so judgemental and do something about it. Go speak to kids, volunteer for young mothers instead of verbally stoning them. The harsh words and comments feel worse than and "damage" or "problems" believe me.

Answer 2

I believe that sex before marriage is a positive thing, you gain experience. Now, that doesn't mean I think people should be havng sex with 10 people before they marry, but 3 or 4 partners can be healthy. Why would you want to get in a relationship without having sex with the person, what if your not compatible in that way- sex can be very important in a relationship. But pregnancy although, I think should definetely be saved until after marriage. If a person isn't mature enough to practice safe sex, they shouldn't be having it at all. Why do people bring children into the world so unprepared?

Answer 3

it depends on your perspective. Many will say the Bible for instance, does not support sex before marriage. However, my personal belief is that where there is a healthy loving relationship where trust and security is recognized as vital - sex before marriage is OK. What difference does it make if the government recognizes your love for someone? I love my fiance as much as i will the day we are married. So really there is no difference between sex before and after marriage when the people love each other and plan on being together. Casual sex though, is setting people up for hurt feelings i think, as well as a lowered self-image. that is probably a bad idea for personal mental health reasons. not to mention the chances of contracting some nasty disease.

Answer 4

To be honest I am a product of a teenaged mother. I was pregnant at the age of 16, marred at 18 and 3 kids by the age of 23. Although I got myself pregnant on purpose it was because I had come from a broken home and was looking for love in return. Today, I am educated, successful, and I love my teenaged sons who are also doing great for themselves. I am also now divorced and I have raised my children alone for 8 years. Not all women who started out young turn out bad... have health problems and other damaging problems. It is the maturity and determination of that person. I think honestly some women who have children in their teens are stronger women. My mother in law started at 13 and had 4 kids by the time she was 18. Today my (ex) mother in law is successful, she worked at her same job for 39 years, she's lived in the same home since my ex was 14, and she recently purchased a new home.

I purchased my first place @ 19, and at 29 I owned 2 homes. I am not bragging trust me, I am making points.... Judge Mathis mother raised him as a young single mother... he is now very successful. I have a 8 month old grandson and I am only 37 years old. I was a gma at 36... I will probally be a great gma by 57. At least I can grow to see my family grow as well. Sometimes we benefit from minor downfalls in our lives. We learn and we also grow... Also FYI I was raised in a VERY VERY Religious family... and what I had done by gettign pregnant was a HUGE no, no however it did not change the person I was and I haven't changed.

I hope my views are understood and appreciated by most.

The grass although is not always greenner on the other side.

Answer 5

My opinion is that it should not happen. Not until you are in a stable situation. Like marriage, I just don't think that its good to be 16 or younger and having a child with no means of support and some form of health insurance. As well as having a very stable relationship with someone that is working and won't denies that the child is his and I don't thing some guy that is still in high school and living at home fits that bill.. And I don't think that placing more burdens on your parents is the right thing to do. I don't know I just think that having a child and still in high school and still living at home is not cool at all........ Yes I think that you have every right to ask you parents for help But I am not sure that its right to ask them to continue raising you and your child....... You have to be responsible for your own actions so just say no ....

Answer 6

If I had not had sex before marriage, I wouldn't have married. No, I didn't get pregnant- never have been pregnant.
I had sex on the first date with my husband- the sex was so good that I decided he was a keeper. Then again, I had a great job and a life when I first met my husband, so I was not looking for an MRS status, for a provider or for somebody to consider me a trophy because he's taken my virginity.

Answer 7

I have no problem with teenage pregnancy -- if a woman is old enough to have a baby, she's old enough to have a baby. I do think though that anyone who's able to make a baby -- of whatever age -- should only be having sex if they're prepared to care and provide for a child, as there's no form of birth control that's 100% effective.

Answer 8

You know what I believe?

Teens that become sexually active lack the education to go along with their actions. In general teens have an innocent view on love and due to their lack life experience they are easily manipulated. Combined with a SERIOUS lack of proper sexual education and a Society that tells them pregnancy is wrong, teens today face a huge hardship. Teens are exposed to all the negatives of pregnancy and STD’s and learn nothing about conception, fetal development, miscarriage, and or birth. Most view abortion is a way to “fix” their situation. To not give teens the proper information or support is hindering our society. Congrats to all the teens who choose not to be sexually active but for the one’s who are… more education and support is desperately needed.

Don't believe me? Venture over to the pregnancy portion of this site. It is nothing but teens asking questions like "Can I pee out a baby?"

Answer 9

I think teenagers should be aware of the risks and complications associated with sex. Too many teenagers today are jumping in and out of bed so fast, they end up having children, before you know it, they drop out of school to provide for a child. Babies having babies is no way to start out life. They should focus on their future, finish school, and get a decent job first. They have their whole life ahead of them to plan for sex... teenage sex should be illegal untill the age of at least 18. I personally have gone to stores shopping and see too many young girls with infants shopping for clothes, diapers, whatever... where these teenage girls are usually bringing up this child alone, teenage boys only want the minute of glory, they don't want to stick around for the responsibility associated with the results. Teenage boys need to realize this and learn to have a little respect for their female companion and themselves.

Answer 10

well i think teenage pregnacy is wrong as the girl is just not old enough. she wont have had chance to live her own life at that point. i do believe in sex before marriage though. this is because i wouldnt want to end up with someone im not sexually conpatable with for the rest of my life - but that doesnt mean i get around either. i have many morals on that.