What do I do - To gain his trust back after lying to him?

Question

we have been together now for almost a year the problem is that he used to love chatting on the net and I started doing it aswell but now we have both stopped, the thing with him is that he wanted to know exactly who I was chatting to and also used to check my emails but I was never aloud to see his chats or even look at his phone so I just mereley had to except the fact that it was all clean chats but how do I do that if he prevents me from checking, to me its like he is hiding something..........but anyways he caught me quite a few times lying about chatting and sending emails and no no its was all clean chats and emails but now he is finding it very hard to trust me and to believe in me because of me lying to him saying was not chatting and also deleting all evidence. So yes he has all right to not trust me , but how do i gain his trust back, i love him so much and want things to work and understand he needs time but are we both in the wrong or just me. I do hope we wil make it

Answer 1

Trust issues are a hard thing to deal with in relationships. But it's possible. Both people have to be willing and want it though. I've kind of been in your situation. It's hard but it is going to take time. But you are just going to have to go out of your way to prove to him that you can be trusted and let him see for himself that you are not lying to him. Thats what is going to take time--him seeing it...it's different for everyone. He might need to see it 7 times or 20 times! Just be patient. And DO NOT lie any more. And IF he never trust you again and you think it's been enought time....then call it quits. Because he then has issues that he can't let go of and it's not going to get any better. Somethings you have to let go of and start fresh with. And you can't make a relationship work if there is no trust--you will never be at ease and be happy.

And as far as him not letting you go through or see any of his things (that's part of him proving to you that he is being honest) that's just something that has to be worked on also. Not that you don't trust him, he just won't be helping put your mind at ease and proving himself. He has to help with the process too. He should want to prove to you that he can be honest and that be his way of saying that's what he'd like for you to do as well. Kind of like the saying goes--live by example! You have just as much right as he does. But don't push it. Everyone likes their privacy. You just have to be honest and faithful with that privacy.

Good luck it's a tough situation.

Answer 2

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What do I do - To gain his trust back after lying to him?
we have been together now for almost a year the problem is that he used to love chatting on the net and I started doing it aswell but now we have both stopped, the thing with him is that he wanted to know exactly who I was chatting to and also used to check my emails but I was never aloud to see...

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Answer 9

ok first off if you think he has a right to not trust you, then you have every right to not trust him. He's being hipocritical and controling. He demands that you tell him who you talk to, and he reads your emails...but you can't get the same from him. Thats a load of bull...if he's going to demand that you are so open with him with who you chat to or email then he should do the same for you. Talk to him. Tell him that you know he doesn't feel he can trust you, but also tell him that its not fair to you that he has to know everything about your chatting, but he can keep what he does a secret. To me that sends up some HUGE red flags that he is doing something he shouldn't be doing.

Answer 10

It is REALLY hard to regain trust in someone after you find that they have lied to you. Maybe he was keeping something from you, maybe he wasn't. Point is - YOU knew you were keeping something from him. (and did it anyway). I am kinda currently going thru the same thing......... it sucks.

If you feel things are really 'worth it' then work things out and make them right.

Good luck !

Answer 11

look u need to talk to hima nd tell him how much u love him and ull do watever he needs to gain his trust back yes trust do get broken but over timme all wounds mend