He told me he likes me a lot but hes not ready for a relationship because he just out of a very bad,controlling relationship but now he wont answer his phone or answer the text messages i send him.And he is also keeping things from me.I have known for quite a while now that he has a kid and he still has yet to tell me about it.
2006-10-25 03:12:11 · 23 answers · asked by xxrlhoodratxx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be happy the guy is mature enough to not jump from one bad relationship to another as he doesn't know how the next one will turn out either. He asked for time so why are you crowding him. He likes you enough to know that he may hurt you as he's been hurt it is very hard when you co me from one bad relationship to start another and it work out until some time has passed. too many people just go from 1 "serious" relationship to another and then wonder why they don't work out. Maybe he's taking time to reflect on what when wrong so it doesn't happen again. Maybe he doesn't know how you will accept him having a child and it seems he's right on waiting for a relationship with you as he's not getting the respect from you right from the start think about this and let the man breathe and then if it's meant to be then it shall be good luck
2006-10-25 03:19:20 · answer #1 · answered by katlady927 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For all the folks that were so quick to pass the guy off as a jerk, or using you.....did you read the part of JUST GOT OUT OF A BAD CONTROLLING RELATIONSHIP? Have you ever been in one? Not fun, and here is a tiny insight that you will probably ignore, but that controlling girl was PROBABLY NICE TO HIM AT ONE POINT. That means the poster, who is being nice, could in his mind, become an evil controlling jerk at any point. Best is just to take it slow and see where it goes. If he starts to trust you, then he will get into a relationship with you. If he doesn't (and that last woman may have scarred him a bit) then he wont get into a relationship. Asking point blank and being honest can sometimes reveal a lot more than stupid **** like beating around the bush and assuming. As for the kid, maybe he thinks you won't take him seriously because he has a child. Maybe he thinks you won't like him if you know he has a child. You can say it's messed up of him not telling you, but the only thing that really is messed up is if he starts asking you for money for the kid...and in the event that he wants to hang out with both you and the kid at the same time (talking down the road), that may mean he thinks you are someone he can build a life/future with. Ignore all the haters on here, they are just sour that they don't have someone they care about and cares about them back. They just want to spread their misery.
2006-10-25 03:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
very important to read all of this--I don't know your ages, but this is immature, disrespectful behavior--and you allow it to continue. So get this guy and sit him down---take control of this whole conversation--and do not allow him to speak---tell him he must listen !! What you do or don't do and who you see or hang with is none of his business. The notes and questions are no lomger cute of funny, they are harrassing and almost stalking in the perceived threatening content. He can either talk nice, or stop being concerned with your life. If he has no further questions, allow him to go--no apology accepted--just GO. I suspect this immature boy feels scorned and it is overpowering him--he needs a shock to stop it. Now do NOT read or answer anything on the sites from him---Delete them--what could he say that is so important?? He is headed for a bad life of abusing females if he knows his actions go unstopped--so STOP them. he has no idea how to initiate a relationship or even be in one--so that is how all this idiotic behavior starts and grows--IT IS DANGEROUS_--make it firmly known that you will not tolerate it. His type craves attention from silly childish actions---and the do not like strong, self confident women---so get a grip and do it.
2016-05-22 12:42:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't want to be with you.. Maybe he knows you want more then him so that's why he's ignoring you ...He might also think that you wouldn't want anything to do with him if he tells you he has a kid.. I would stop trying to contact him and then if he gets ahold of you it will be a nice surprise.. Besides you wouldn't want to be with a guy that just got out of a relationship ...He wouldn't be over her..
2006-10-25 03:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by xcura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Liking would not really mean he wants a relationship. Tell him what you also want. If you want him much, consider his side and understand what he has to say about the both of you. Ask him yourself what should you expect or what is it that he really means...
2006-10-25 03:16:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with someone who won't answer your calls, texts, and can't even MAN UP and tell you he has a child? This smells a little like Jerry Springer to me.
GET RID OF HIM, girl!
2006-10-25 03:14:54 · answer #6 · answered by Mimi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking why he does that,and try talking to him what happen in his other relationship that made him act this way.And if hes just playing around with you dump him.
2006-10-25 03:16:43 · answer #7 · answered by Xochitl C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He means he would like to have sex with you and have you as a kind of girlfriend for when ever he wants but he doesn't truly like you just leave him alone.
2006-10-25 03:14:24 · answer #8 · answered by Rachel Bitchface 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though he likes you he is not ready to make that kind of commitment yet.
2006-10-25 03:14:27 · answer #9 · answered by RACHAEL R 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he's either A) saying that in hopes of having sex w/you B) has been hurt really badly and is afraid or C) saying that to cop out Nicely
2006-10-25 03:16:40 · answer #10 · answered by ponypuffgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋