I've been going out with a really nice girl for a couple of months and so far we haven't had a single fight about anything. Eventually, I'm sure we will because every couple has a disagreement sometimes but how do you handle it whenever your bf/gf/wife/husband (or whatever) get into a heated arguement?
2006-10-25 03:04:28 · 6 answers · asked by osunumberonefan 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is the way I see it: There are rules of engagement; ways to argue constructively so that even if it gets heated it doesn't get out of hand. These rules include: 1.Never forget that you are arguing with this person because you care about them and your relationship. It helps keep your mind on whats important: conflict resolution. Never argue to upset the other person in retaliation for how they may have made you feel.
No name calling. Ever. Some things you say will hurt the other person, but they need to be said. name calling just hurts the other person with no constructive results.
It's not about being right. Its about fixing a problem. An arguement should be aimed at reaching an understanding as to how both people can be happy with a given circumstance.
2006-10-25 03:26:43 · answer #1 · answered by Chris D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TALK. Try to calm down, get a handle on your tongue & on your temper. Stick to the issue & only the issue. Do not use accusations. Get your point across without pointing fingers & TALK it out. And keep on talking. Be willing to listen to her side & be prepared to accept that she's most likely going to be coming more from an emotional point of view or standpoint. Women do see things very differently from guys & it's usually more about emotions with us. But you have to be able to communicate & it's all about give & take. If either of you stomps off in anger & then don't talk for days, nothing gets resolved. So TALK! Good luck & congrats on your love . . .
2006-10-25 03:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by pumpkin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try not to let the arguement get out of control. It takes to fools to argue so be the better person even though it is never easy and walk away and when he or she has clamed down discuss the problem together an try not to bite eachothers heads off
2006-10-25 03:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by shedevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
count to 10, calm down first, then you both sit down and talk about it, talk not shout and throw things. COMPROMISE that is a big thing in a relationship. You have to compromise. You dont always have to agree but try to come to a conclution. Never ever walk away. And never ever use ugly words.you have to respect your gf/bf. Its hard but how you handle the situation will depend on the outcome.
2006-10-25 03:10:42 · answer #4 · answered by Lady_Y 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we just sit back and talk it over if we cant reach an agreement we just accept that we see this differently .there is no right or wrong,no winner ,no loser,and no argument
2006-10-25 03:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by justmecat69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each explode, let it all out, and argue till one or the other sees they're wrong.
2006-10-25 03:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋