My b/f and I have been together over 6 months now and we're neighbors (go figure) so we are with each other every night. I cook dinner and we watch TV together, etc. It's a routine now and tonight I'm going for drinks with my friend after work. We both agreed that we need to do other things with other people so that we're not together all the time. He asked me what time I'll be getting home and I told him I didn't know. I kind of gave him this smile b/c I thought to myself "Good, he's going to miss me and wants to know what time I'll be getting home to him." He took it as I was smiling b/c I was hiding something or being guilty about something....which I wasn't. I explained to him that I just wanted him to miss me, that's all....he didn't seem to really care. He told me that he'd be missing me when he's home eating dinner alone. And that he wasn't thinking about it at the moment. How can I make myself not be so monotonous on coming home every night and being okay with it?
2006-10-25 02:58:17 · 13 answers · asked by inlovewow 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetheart if you want your relationship to really work you and your boyfriend will need some time apart. Distance makes the heart grow fonder. How will yall ever miss each other? I once dated a guy that lived down the street from me and we worked together. I know bad idea. I was young, dumb, and in high school. What did I know?? I said that to say this: Yall already see a lot of each other so you should try to do other things with other people. Do your friends even remember what you look like? There is nothing wrong with spending good old qt with your honey but you must remember that yall have seperate lives also. Its bad enough that yall are neighbors, he shouldn't know the exact time you are coming home each day and you shouldn't know his either. I promise he will respect that. Just don't get too crazy with it, you wouldn't want him to think you are doing anything wrong. When you think about the future well being of your relationship, you should not feel bad about not coming straight home each day. Give it a try. Hope it works!
2006-10-25 03:09:24 · answer #1 · answered by KS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
With just a smile that you gave would have led me to believe you were up to no good. It's just something that can be easily taken out of context for us guys. Why? Because you're going out in the 1st place and that immediately puts most guys on guard thinking oh man some guy is gonna try to pick her up....then you smiled and he immediately thought that you looked like a cat with a canary in its mouth maybe?
2006-10-25 03:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Motorpsycho 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your behavior is perfectly normal. Wanting to be 'missed' is a healthy expression of your relationship. From what you wrote, I think your boyfriend is the one who needs an attitude adjustment to his ego. He passed up a perfect opportunity to score big points with a simple comment like, "I'm going to miss you a whole bunch, Beautiful. But have fun and I'll see you when you get home."
The rule is ... never pass up a chance to show your partner how much you care!
2006-10-25 03:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by TechnoRat60 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is totally selfish! I can understand where he's coming from, but does he have any friends? Spending all of your time with him can be negative. He needs to get a set of friends, because he doesn't need to feel that you are cheating on him, and leaving him neglected at home. Explain that he needs to get out more and enjoy life, cause in reality, you won't be there always:(
2006-10-25 03:03:51 · answer #4 · answered by *+* Miss NATION*+* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you still need to have your own lives even though you are in a relationship with one another.You need to go out with friends on your own and have time for yourself.There is nothing wrong with wanting to see each other every night,but at the same time you maybe crowding each other and it seems as you both need a little breathing room .Just be honest about what you are doing and who you are doing it with and if he really trusts you nothing will change,and if he doesn't alot will change.If he does not trust you or you him you need to break it off because with out trust you do not have anything.....GOOD LUCK
2006-10-25 03:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like hes laying a guilt trip on you. Dont ever stop hangin with friends and having activities outside the relationship its healthy to do things without your bf and encourage him to do the same. Be careful of his reactions though, he sounds like the jealous type and he might get a little possesive.
2006-10-25 03:02:58 · answer #6 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, you guys arent married you know....When you are married you dont care if you go home to that person every night, obviously you do and thats perfectly normal. This is a bad position to be in because you are screwed either way. He will either have to understand or you will have to be miserable. good luck.
2006-10-25 03:02:49 · answer #7 · answered by Bistro 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u both need time apart sometimes an to have friends, it shouldnt matter what time u come home as long as ya'll have trust...
2006-10-25 03:01:25 · answer #8 · answered by James R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go out and have fun. You guys aren't married, so quit acting like it!!
2006-10-25 03:00:46 · answer #9 · answered by Joe Somebody 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my advice...is break up with him...cool it for at least 2 weeks, and see if you all still like each other.
Don't let this stress you out!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-25 03:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by Tea_Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋