I've been with my boyfriend for almost two years. We are for the most part happy together. My problem is last night I found this picture on an external hard drive that he has at my house. The picture was of this girl with no shirt and her pants unbuttoned. I know this happened a long time ago way before me. I've heard her name mentioned when we've been among some of his friends. I know for a fact he hasn't hung out with her or spoken to her while we've been together. Should I worry? Should I ask him about it? I dont know if this was a fling or if it was even his picture. What should I do?
2006-10-25 02:48:33 · 17 answers · asked by Bubbles 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask him abt it otherwise the uncertainty will fester and produce foul words and ruin ur relationship and u'll blow things out of proportion with ur anger. Ask him and he'll explain:'it wasn't me/it isn't mine/it's not what u think/i don't love her i love you. You know: the usual song lyrics. But YOU"VE been in a relationship with this guy for two yrs. You know him. u can tell when he's lying. But u have to ask him. It cld be innocent. I have my exs letters at home. What have u got stashed away somewhere. Men like boobs. We like sentimental letters and pressed roses from Valentines day 1997. Just let him know you know and YOU DON"T LIKE IT-nicely of course.
2006-10-25 03:01:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront him about it in a gentile manner. If you're 100% happy for the most part, that means he can be as open and truthful to you as you him. If the picture is his, maybe he forgot to kill it when he last used his drive. Maybe one of his friends barrowed the drive for a while and forgot to clean it out when he got it back. My guess is it's a flash drive. Sometimes, it's hard to know you've gotten rid of everything. They can be hard to file and keep track of things. Most likly, if you ask him about it in private, maybe he will give you the full explination in the same soft manner you asked him. If he's ammong his friends, it will be a bit more assertive and fast paced. I've been single all my life and I only know this because I watched friends in a relationship most of my life and hung around them on their so called, "dates". I don't think it was a date or I wouldn't have been invited. More like a hang out sorta. Drinking root beer, eating cheeseburgers and fries. Some of us downed a bunch of cool aid or gatoraid. God bless! Good luck. I wish you the best and strong faith.
2006-10-25 09:57:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about whether he knew that you were snooping on his hard drive. If he did and he knew that there were old pictures on there, then you could ask him why he is saving it. Probably everyone you know has pictures from the past. If he didn't know that you were looking at his hard drive (the one for the computer) then I would not mention it to him. It would only start a new level of distrust between you. If they are not involved at all now...why worry?
2006-10-25 09:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by IGH3Rat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as the picture was not recent, then I would not worry...he might have forgotten to erase it, or even remebered it was there...
Then again, if he is a guy, he might just have it because the girl has no shirt on...it isn't necessarily the girl, but the fact she is 1/2 naked. Guys are guys...and most of them like naked girls.
Depending on the age of your boyfriend (if he is young), it's probably nothing more than a guy being a guy.
2006-10-25 09:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by brianwerner1313 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely ask him about it and let him know that it makes you feel uncomfortable with that picture around. If he loves you, he will definitely get rid of that picture. If you have a concern about anything in your relationship, you always let your mate know. The key points in a relationship is:
Communication
Trust
if you dont have these main things, you guys are coming upon some bumby roads. You always let your partner know whats going on in your head, because for all you know, he may not know thats its still on the computer or not. Before you ever go to anyone else with your concerns on your relationship, you go to your partner, only he knows whats going on in his head. Keep your relationship in your relationship, because people can influence how you think and give you the wrong advice.
You and your bf should be best friends, and you should be able to talk to him about anything that you have on your mind.
2006-10-26 13:41:23 · answer #5 · answered by yagurlbubblez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, ask him about it, but don't accuse him of anything, because he honestly might not even remember having the picture on the hard drive!
2006-10-25 09:52:26 · answer #6 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy...tough one!!! Were you snooping...or working on the puter? if working on and not searching for something you can ask him to set your mind at ease. do it in a joking manner so he isn't concerned that you are a neurotic dweeb. If you are not concerned that he is seeing her or anything and the computer is shared....just ask him he minds if you delete it.
2006-10-25 10:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Searching for answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him.
If he has nothing to hide he be honest, don't be supisous with out reason, it could be something totally innocent give him the benifit of the doubt.
2006-10-25 09:54:35 · answer #8 · answered by shedevil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let the past be the past, as a woman, when something is wrong, your womanly senses will be warning you. But if you know he isn't talking to her, or seeing her. Let it go
2006-10-25 09:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't hurt anything to just ask. If he really loves you he will be honest about it.
2006-10-25 09:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by sassy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋