theres this guy in one of my classes who has been sending me text messages like saying im soo hott and that we need to hang out and go see a movie..and that i need to dump my boyfriend and all this other stuff..my boyfriend is already fed up with all these other guys that are trying to get with me..should i tell my boyfriend whats going on with this guy in my class? or should i just keep it to myself because of all the other drama thats going on?
2006-10-25 02:47:14 · 27 answers · asked by megan c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have three ideas to share, Megan.
1. Do not open texts from other guys.
2. Block them, if that is possible.
3. Check your modesty in dress.
If you are interested in other guys, maybe you are not ready for a commited relationship...for whatever reason. You are young, there is time for commitment later.
If you are not interested, options 1 and 2 should work well.
Either way, check your dress and behavior...do you dress, and behave in a way that says "i'm taken" or not? Do you dress and behave in a way your parents/grandparents would be proud of? Do you hold yourself in high enough esteem to handle your body in a discreet manner? Ultimately, that is the kind of woman a man wants.
Peace & Blessings!
2006-10-25 03:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by Annamaria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my relationship I believe honesty is the best policy. If I were in your shoes I would say something to my boyfriend. You don't have to go into all the details in a way that would make him uncomfortable.
Tell the guy in question that he's being innappropriate and you don't think of him that way. Tell him that if you didn't love your boyfriend you wouldn't be with him, but sincr you are, you do, so it's not right for him to be putting you in a position like that. Explain that by doing so he's putting strain on you, and your relationship with him as a friend in school.
Then tell your boyfriend about all of this, explaining to him that you don't want anything to come between the two of you, so you did your best to let this guy know that you were not interested and that you asked him to stop being so innappropriate.
2006-10-25 02:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by lovely 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There would be several ways to go about this.
Either A- tell the guy in the class to stop txting you, (how did he get your phone number in the 1st place) and leave you alone
B- Tell your boyfriend to tell the guy to stop
C- Dont tell your boyfriend and keep it from him in order to not cause any more drama. And totally ignore the guy in the class. Delete his number from your phone and just put it out of your mind. (When you receive a txt msg from him - itll be an odd looking number, and you wont be so inclined to respond to it)
and lastly
D- A combo of all of the above - and have your boyfriend kick this dudes ***.
2006-10-25 02:53:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you tell him what's going on it might be a good thing. At least he won't ever think that you're hiding things from him. Just make sure you let him know that the text messages are annoying you and not something you want to be recieving.
Honesty is always the best thing in a relationship
How did this guy get your phone number?....
2006-10-25 03:02:40 · answer #4 · answered by dave_0522 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont keep this from your boyfriend because then if he finds out from someone else he is going to be mad at you. Be thankful everybody wants you but dont let it go to your head. Show your guy hes the only one. Why did this guy have your number in the first place? Keep it real and honest and it will all boil over soon.
2006-10-25 02:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by arreis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would respond to the guy that's texting you, that you care about (maybe love, what ever) your current boyfriend, and that you would never even consider going out with some one that didn't have even the least amount of respect for you as to try to break up your current relationship...
Give that as a fairly standard responce to any one that get's pushy with you.
I would tell your boyfriend that it happens, but doesn't matter because you just brush them off, and that you care for (or love) him...
I know, myself, i'm a rather jelous person, but if my partner were tell tell me this, i would ask how she brushes them off, and upon seeing this, i would be fine:)
just be ready for him to become more protective of you in general if you do tell him...
2006-10-25 02:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't that big of a deal if all you are, are girl and boy friend. If you were engaged then yeah it's a bit of a problem. All he needs to know is that you have guys who are hoping you will break up and that you don't have that in mind. No need for names or numbers. I am concerned for your b/f, how this guy got your number in the first place. If you gave it to him then there really isn't a need to give this info to your b/f because you obviously wouldn't be that close.
2006-10-25 02:55:42 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care for your boyfriend and want to be with him, then don't say a word, but ALSO don't answer the text messages either. They maybe flattering, but if you want to work things out with the bf, answering them will only cause more trouble, just hit delete, possibly not even reading them if you can get out of it. Good luck!
2006-10-25 02:50:54 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there are some things left unsaid. I wouldn't start any trouble with your present boyfriend. Guys will always hit on girls, if you are happy with your boyfriend, just smile and tell them you are taken. Leave it at that. No reason to cause undo stress on your guy.
2006-10-25 02:51:58 · answer #9 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to decide if you will allow all this texting to continue. Wouldn't that make you mad if chick were texting your b/f? You need to put a stop to it and tell your b/f that you've taken care of the situation, or he will NOT TRUST YOU b/c he'll find out about it from someone else or from you later.
2006-10-25 02:50:16 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋