Im dating this guy he is marriage, however they were only for one year, they seperated 3 mths ago and have now sold there house. Hes moving out the marital at the end of this month, there are no kids involved and she is staying with her new man. Ive dated him on 3 occassions and have known him for 6-8 wks, I really like him, but I have no baggage so wanting to know your views. Do you think he could be on rebound, how should I handle this? I havent had sex with him and I wont until I know hes really into me.
2006-10-25 02:45:11 · 45 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The marriage is over so it's not like your having an affair with him. Also she has someone new so she shouldn't be that bothered. Your doing the right thing by not rushing into things. He might be on the rebound but some guys also like to play the field a bit when they come out of a relationship. But it is only you that knows him. Have fun and i hope everything works out OK.
2006-10-25 02:53:04 · answer #1 · answered by Jo 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You didn't mention whether it was he, his wife, or a mutual decision to end their marriage. Looking at the pace in which the soon to be ex wife is moving, it would seem as if she was the driving force behind ending the marriage. If his wife is already staying with another guy, she has moved on ahead of her soon to be ex. You don't owe either one of them anything. In fact, their marriage isn't even your situation to be concerned with.
I don't know your guy to pass judgment. But if I were in your position, I would wonder why he would be so quick to jump into another relationship while he's in the mist of one that is dissolving. It may be best to just be friends right now. Having sex is somewhat irrelevant because you can have a sexual relationship without any committment. You don't have to hold out like you're in high school. If your moral is loose enough to date a married man so newly separated, you probably aren't above sex without committment. Let him work out his issues before getting into a committed relationship but be there for him for support. Don't get your heart so involved were you lose sight of the fact that he could very well be too unstable for a relationship.
2006-10-25 03:09:07 · answer #2 · answered by Honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh sure....married men are great to date. They lie to you..they have already lied to someone they vowed to stay with. They have issues with everything. They are lots of fun. The reason they couldn't cut it as a husband are going to be the same reasons they won't cut it as your new boyfriend. They are usually flawed. Otherwise, they would be married happily. Don't tell me it was her fault. Have you talked to the future MRS. EX-GREAT GUY? There is more to this story than his side. If you continue with this prize, you will eventually find out he has some really bad habits, control issues, anger issues, drugs, could be a bunch of stuff wrong with this little star. Don't bother. If you want a guy, get one that isn't attached to a wife, even a future ex wife.Oh, and he is into you??? Hon, damn right he is into you. He would be into anything warm and breathing right now, cause the one he already was into knows him wayyyyy too well.
2006-10-25 02:52:01 · answer #3 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I normally say no it's not okay to date a married man, but if they are both moving on and no kids are involved, just dating is fine. I am glad to hear you are waiting on the sex part though, very smart thing to do in this situation. Good luck and just enjoy dating him, who knows it might not get past the dating stage, but you can enjoy some movies and dinners and at least get to know the guy a little better!
2006-10-25 02:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yahoo Answers has officially turned into the electronic version of the Jerry Springer Show.
You guys sound like a match made in Heaven.
Some people would consider this type of thing as being a HOME WRECKER. ...
Just do me a favor and NEVER, EVER have any kids.
2006-10-25 02:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by ValleyR 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably rebounding.
Why do you women pick the worst times to want a relationship.
The guy just got out of a marriage. Be his friend, give him some trim and see what happens. Don't be so demanding.
2006-10-25 02:51:12 · answer #6 · answered by Offended? Aww Have a Cookie! 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's risky to date this man. He is not divorced and could end up back with his wife. And as long as he's married still it's adultery, even though he isn't with his wife. I don't see it as adultery but, legally it is. His wife could use it against you. Depends on how much you like this guy. If you are in love with him then... go ahead.
2006-10-25 02:51:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, if you are attractive he will never leave until he boinks you! It's a conquest thing. No he is likely not on a rebound and was likely a cheater during his marriage anyway.
2006-10-25 02:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is not really married from the description you give. He is in the process of divorcing so dating is OK but you may very well want to wait until all is said and done before you give your heart or anything else to this man.
2006-10-25 02:47:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just take your time and see how it develops.
he might be on the rebound but that does not mean he does not genuinely care about you.
Enjoy your new love and Be happy
Jeff
2006-10-25 02:50:41 · answer #10 · answered by JEFF K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋