I've gone 2 sit next 2 her in class but i just dont know wut 2 talk 2 her about.when we do talk its mostly about schooll stuff and it lasts 4 about a min or two.All i want is 2 overcome the shyness and talk 2 her about stuff.How do i jusy start talking about other stuff if i dont know wut she likes.In other words how do i get to know her better inside the class so we dont just talk about school stuff and the conversation lasts 4 more than a min?(Dont tell me 2 just start talking 2 her;i wanna know wut i can talk about with her;dont tell me 2 ask wut she likes, i want 2 incorporate it inside the conversations so its not the only thing we talk about.
2006-10-25 02:40:40 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Remember that life is LONG and the WORST thing that can happen to you is that you'll be rejected. It seems bad, but really no big deal. Everyone is shy - she's shy too. You'll relate. And once you actually get it over with, the next time you have to make first contact it won't be nearly as challenging.
2006-10-25 02:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by texascrazyhorse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you're trying to do is get her into a conversation - if you talk about school, she'll answer about school.
Tell her instead about what you did last night, or this last weekend, or your weird dream that you just had (or make one up). You might have to blab a little bit, but the more you say, the more she will have to respond to. Do this for a few days, even for a couple weeks - if after that time she still isn't "biting", so to say, then its possible she isn't interested in you. Remember, don't assume this after one conversation.
If you feel too nervous to do this to her, warm yourself up by doing this with other strangers.
I was way too shy growing up, myself, so I know how you feel. I honestly think this advice would have helped me.
2006-10-25 02:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Knathan the Knight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her what her favorite school sport is and if she would like to go with you to a game. It is worth a shot and would give you something to talk about even if you don't ask her to go with you, you'll have a topic to talk on. Or if she is involved in an activity at school ask her about it.
2006-10-25 02:46:18 · answer #3 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel, but my problem is resolved. if she looks at you, smile. get every oppurtunity you can to talk to her, but since you are shy like me, start a conversation about stuff she likes. this conversation is likely to bloom, and you will find yourself sitting next to her and talking and smiling. good luck! and a good way to get your feelings out is to type a journal or something.
2006-10-26 15:03:31 · answer #4 · answered by L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as her how her weekend went on monday. Then I swear things will go from there. Ask her about school. Ask her about her classes then you will be on your way.
2006-10-25 02:50:19 · answer #5 · answered by brandon_fargerson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, you gotta figure out something to talk to her about that will take more than 5 minutes to talk about.
2006-10-25 02:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by holyitsacar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about starting with a "HI "? and go from there ....sitting next to her is already a start
2006-10-25 02:43:30 · answer #7 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋