Recon you are ready now.
2006-10-25 02:42:13
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answer #1
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answered by Anonymous
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There is no right time.
Depending upon the person and your relationship it could be the first night or 12 months or more.
3 dates isn't that many, but 2 months is quite a long term to resist. Just do it when you feel its right for you.
By the way you should know if he's a respectful person already by now, I'm sorry but this idea of waiting until he respects you just does not add up in my book.
He either respects people or he doesn't and you won't change him by holding out. Ways to tell are trying to figure out how honest he is, looking at how he treats others etc.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-25 03:03:32
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answer #2
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answered by lifeontrack2006 4
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You have to address if he IS going to be your bf or not.
I believe people start disrespecting the other if one sleeps during they are still in their dating stage.
And be sure you are not the one who mention. Let him say that he wants you to be his girl. (of course you have to show some sign that you are interested in that)
My rule is, no matter how long you guys know each other, meet him more than 3 times in a date, and up to the 7th time, if you don't get any sign from him that he likes to be with you, you should start finding someone else. Definately, if he likes you, he will want to see you. If he wants to sleep with you, he will say it.
It's so important that you, girl, don't start the action. That is what leads to disrespection.
I think sleeping in the same bed, even not having a sex, is a bit risky if you want further relationship to go on.
2006-10-25 02:47:02
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answer #3
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answered by Anonymous
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Looking for that respect is going to be the downfall. When a chick makes me wait so long for some naughty action. After I finally get it I don't have 2 words to say to her. When it comes natural and I feel she wasn't punishing me by holding out I want to actually be with her more.
2006-10-25 02:43:01
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answer #4
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answered by Anonymous
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If it's a relationship you want, wait for your own sake, if he thinks anything for you keeping it in his pants will not be an issue. If he cares for you and enjoys your company then he will wait as long as it takes for you to be certain that you want to take it further. Sleeping with him for fear of losing him is a really illogical way to behave. If he does lose interest because you will not climb into his bed then you have lost nothing as far as I can see.
What you have to ask yourself is, do you really know him well enough to make it worth your while? if you want a relationship and you have sex with him now it could be a big mistake and if you really do care for him then why rush it and take the risk of screwing up?
you will send a messege to him that you are not that fussy about yourself and you will sleep with somebody pretty easily. Would YOU really want to be with somebody who had so little respect for themselves that it would seem okay to them to sleep with somebody this desparate?
Arrangements of this nature are fine for sex and sex alone if this is what you want. However, most men do not want a girlfriend who is this unfussy. Men like all other people like to feel special in bed, not one of a large chain. If all he wants is sex and also that is all you want this is fine. If this is not the case sleeping with him is dangerous, never EVER use sex to attain love and respect. This is a dishonest way to go about things and it will rot your self respect. Do not assume that having sex with this man will initiate him into the idea of a relationship with you. The opposite will probably happen. Even if a relationship does develop, if you use sex to get love your relationship is built upon a foundation of deception on your part as much as his. relationships built upon emotional deception do not end in anything other than destruction.
The best thing to do would be to continue dating, be friends and companions, enjoy the moment enjoy this time, get to know him well. Once this bond is forged there is no danger at all that he will lose interest. All people want a companion, a friend...as well as a lover...this is what true love is. Why would you feel inclined to settle for anything less for yourself? that is the question.
It always amazes me that some people i have known take more time when the choose a new pair of shoes than they do when they decide to sleep with somebody. Please do not be one of those for your own sake.
Good relationships thrive on communication and honesty, If you are even considering sleeping with him you should at the very least feel comfortable enough in his company to be able to talk to him openly about these matters. Discuss your concerns with him plainly
and what ever you choose to do, play safely and take care my dear
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2006-10-25 03:01:02
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answer #5
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answered by Anonymous
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You can in no way assure respect from any man. You must feel comfortable and ready and make sure that you will respect yourself the morning after. There are no hard and fast rules here. Every person is different and it is up to you as a couple to know when you are ready. I wish you luck
2006-10-25 02:43:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Just go with the flow. When the time is right you'll know, just don't overthink it.
BTW, my gf and I slept on the first night and I still respect her and we're full on for a long-term relationship, maybe you're past experiences are clouding (and even dominating) your actions now.
2006-10-25 12:56:24
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answered by spear_1021 3
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I think u WANT to sleep with this guy but something's holding you back. Maybe you want a a real relationship with this guy. You really want his respect. Well here comes the cliche: respect is earned. Sleep with him when u know it's right. And you know when a guy is in love. If u want a shag then just shag him Doesn't matter to you either way right?
2006-10-25 02:50:09
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answered by Anonymous
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you should probably go with that voice in your head's answer.
You and only you can best answer this. I have a funny feeling you want to, but you dont want to lose this guy. Talk to him, inform him of your intentions. Ask him if its just sex. Ifso, youll know how he feels. Most of us, are trying to have sex, but theyre is the rare good guyu who will be honest enough to tel you if this is going somewhere or not.
Youve slept with him, (and im sure you guys had "fun ")and nothing happened. if he's still around after that, then its a bet that he'll be around after the act.
2006-10-25 02:45:49
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answered by ijustcamehere4freefood 3
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2 months is too long you might loss him as a boy friend or husband in future.
find the next occasion like birthday or the memory of your first time you meet each other and give him reward but not to much and don't be easy all time and let him think of you as a pleasure sources not as partner and not with a commitment of engagement
2006-10-25 09:43:56
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answered by HAS 2
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You shouldn't put a certain amount of dates, or a time on when is a good time to have sex with someone. It has to feel right, you have to know he's the one you want to have sex with. You can be with someone 2 years but don't feel the spark that makes you want to give that person your body. When the time is right you'll know, but just don't rush it. Let it happen and when it does, make sure you want it to and it feels right to you.
2006-10-25 02:43:15
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answer #11
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answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3
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