I like this guy a lot and he too likes me. But last night he told me that because his belief is so strong and I dont practice any religion, he wouldnt be able to go on. I told him that since I am not opposed to his belief nor I am affiliated with other religion, I would love to go to church with him and learn. but it seems like he is afraid that if we get serious, we will be hurt in future because of our difference and wouldnt even give a try. I really dont know what to do right now but I just emailed him to give me a chance. Do you guys have any advice as to what I should do?
2006-10-25 02:38:06 · 7 answers · asked by lalala 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
yes, steph W is right. he did have a sad experience with a girl who did not share his belief before. i think thats why he is scared. but i told him that im not her and also he could give me a chance.
2006-10-25 02:48:28 · update #1
find a new man
2006-10-25 02:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just can't accept the idea of changing their life plan. If he always thought he would marry a religious girl, he may not like you enough to change his whole perception of life. Doesn't mean you should give up though. However, if you've said you want to get involved and learn about his religion, it sounds a bit like he isn't interested in letting you become a part of his life.
2006-10-25 09:42:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as if this guy was confused himself, otherwise he wouldn't have started something with you. Be grateful he was honest with you before anything deeper happened with the two of you. Atleast you now know where he's coming from. Don't beg him or force him to stay with you because you don't want to be carried along by his shifting waves. Now, as for getting to know his religion, I'd go and try to find God for yourself and not because you want to keep a man. You are worth it and you owe it to yourself to protect yourself from wishy washy men. Read the book of John in a bible and fall in love with God instead.
2006-10-25 09:43:22 · answer #3 · answered by Crazy Church Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably been hurt in the past due to religious differences and is only being cautious. I'm like that. All my past boyfriends were pagan (I'm Christian) and I've been hurt over and over again. Even though they say they respect my beliefs, they always wind up mocking me, my faith and my family. I am hesitant to date outside of my religion now. Talk to him about it, and see if you two can't work things out.
2006-10-25 09:41:52 · answer #4 · answered by sister steph 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be patient. if he is willing then continue but if he isn't willing there is nothing you can do. I told my Lady She could choose the religious belief system we were to follow as the only real differences in any religion are the NAME one refers to GOD as and the Rituals and Ceremonies which are used to honor, glorify, worship, adore, thank, petition, etc. the main thing is we would do these together.
2006-10-25 09:55:44 · answer #5 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in the Bible we are told to not be unequally yoked. its great that you are willing to learn about God. if he doesn't try with you, please learn anyways. who knows you might find an even better guy.
2006-10-25 09:45:50 · answer #6 · answered by norm s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you like him or love him? big difference! Are you talking about life long commitment...?If yes.... find another one
2006-10-25 09:43:36 · answer #7 · answered by Curio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋