My son is 10 months old and I am already wondering what type of parent I will be when he hits his Teens. I don't want to be one of those mothers who becomes his best friend. I want to be able to give him a structured and semi strict enviroment, while still being his friend and maintaining a good relationship with him.
Has anyone ever been able to attain this middle ground of parenting? And if so can you please give me some advice!
Thanks!
2006-10-25 02:36:14 · 8 answers · asked by I Ain't Your Momma 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
His father is in the picture and we are very much in love! :o)
2006-10-25 02:57:45 · update #1
No I don't snowboard... lol. I live in Florida right now! Sure wish it snowed here though!
2006-10-25 06:43:47 · update #2
I raised my son alone. He grew to be a great young man. When he was a teen, it was the most difficult time. I was his "mother"..who loved and did things with and for him, but I didn't let him get away with too much. lol He always says I was the strictest mom in the neighborhood. He and his friends used to call me "The badge". lol I always encouraged his interests and enrolled him in classes and activities that were of interest to him to keep him busy. He was involved in sports from a very young age as well, and I was always involved in all of that with him. So when he was a teenager his football, wrestling and other activities he was involved in were what kept him most occupied. He turned out great. I'm sure you are and will always be a great mom. Good luck! (and enjoy)
2006-10-25 02:47:23 · answer #1 · answered by svmainus 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can agree with you on that because I am a mother of 3 boys ages 6,4, and 2 1/2. I know that I want to be a friend but I also want him to respect and listen to me when they are teenagers. Thier father is in their life and her helps a great deal when it comes to talking to them and leading them in the right direction. Some kids no matter how much you talk to them they are going to want to do thing and learn the hard way. Then once they have experienced it they realize that Mom and Dad were right. Sometimes a child can understand things that are wrong and not want to do it if a close member of the family is or has went through it. (Example: A family member always in trouble with the law. Children see the consequences that the family member is going through only from a single mistake may change them.)
I can just say pray, and no matter what never give up and stop talking to your child no matter what they do. I can't say I have any advice because I have young children too and kinda worried about when the teenage years come. Good Luck to you and their father
2006-10-25 12:30:03 · answer #2 · answered by Atlanta's Finest 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also have a son. He is 6 months old and I have the same concerns as you. I read the book "Bringing up Boys" by Dr. James Dobson. Some of the stuff I didn't agree with, but he makes very good points about raising teens. Research was done and it states that children who eat dinner with their parents at least 5 times a week are less likely to commit crimes and suicide. Also, being home when your child gets home from school will less likely make them rebel. Most children get into trouble in the hours following school. Another thing he said to help your boy is to spend quality time with his dad if that is possible. (quality time is not watching a football game while helping with his homework) Hope this helps!
2006-10-25 09:55:52 · answer #3 · answered by Beach bum 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders. Do not concern yourself with being his friend, that will come later in life. You are his parent, and there are times your son will not like you, but he will develop respect for you.
It's not possible for your child to like you every minute of every day, while doing your job as a parent your kid is not going to like you when you say no. Parents who try and be their children's best friend are insecure and raise kids who are spoiled, insure, and have no boundaries.
Give him a structured and semi strict environment while being his PARENT, and as your son grows up, friendship will ensue.
I wish you only the very best with your beautiful baby.
2006-10-25 10:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Ceajae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can tell you is that every child is different, so what worked for someone else may not work for you. You just need to respect your childs likes and dislikes also let them know right from wrong...... and shower them with lots and lots of love and understanding
2006-10-25 09:40:26 · answer #5 · answered by HH72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey do you ski or snowboard?
Where at?
And about your son..
There are no schools that teach you how to be a good parent.
Do what you think is right and give them options.
2006-10-25 13:30:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's hard, but their is a book on amazon.com that can help you far more than anyone can. It's called how to raise a boy, check it out
2006-10-25 10:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Heather.
2006-10-25 09:44:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋