Does a man and woman have to talk on the telephone,email, or even text everyday?

Question

If they are in the earily stage of getting to know each other (the couple has been out on dates and intimate)

Answer 1

If you haven't had sex with her yet, then it is a good idea to limit your talking on the telephone and not to email or text at all. You don't mean anything to her emotionally until after you have had sex with her, at least once and doing this sort of thing bleeds off the emotional excitement that is likely to lead to becoming her lover.

However, if you HAVE had sex with her, at least once, then things change dramatically. She has opened the door to becoming emotionally invested in you. Women want two things from a man. They want the man to be strong and they want the man to love them.

Strong means that they are focussed and calm, especially when things go wrong and they are used to effecting the world instead of being at the mercy of random events. They don't have phobias or bad habits and they don't accept bad behavior from themselves or others. They know what they want and don't care what others think about it. If you have shown her these qualities, likely she is highly attracted to you and has decided to have sex with you.

Love means you genuinely care about her and her well being and are focussed on a long term relationship with her. You care about her feelings and want to bond with her. It's this quality that gets a woman to stay with you.

The telephone and other contact is part of that process. However, it is very important that it doesn't replace intimate time alone with her. The more time you spend with her, the better. But, when you can't be with her, talking on the phone is the next best thing. Email and texting are to be avoided as a way of communication because they are devoid of intimacy (which actual voice can carry but not as well as being there in person).

However, texting, in particular is an effective way of fostering this quality but NOT as an interactive event, and NOT as a day to day conversation. Instead, write her little romantic notes and text them to her or email them to her cell. Keep it to one a day and make them special and goal focussed. As in you are writing them to make her feel a certain way.

Understand something. Women are terrified of being alone and of being abandoned by their husband/boyfriend. They will constantly fish for reassurance that you love them, if you aren't giving them enough. This is hard to do if you don't live together, so you get the constant calls on the phone, emails, texts, whatever. You need to put limits on this, not because you want to keep her from getting the reassurance she craves but because you want to control the QUALITY of your interactions with her so as to not inadvertently screw it up. Because after the hundredth hour on the phone, you are going to get exasperated and snap at her. She won't say anything, but she'll go off and feel bad. You don't want that.

Answer 2

depending on how you veiw this realtionship,when my husband and I first started seeing each other we did talk everyday and even after a little over a year we still talk on the phone everyday. He is a truck driver so thats our communcation line to each other.But if you do see a future between youself and that other person then I wouldn't worry about it,but if you think it's going somewhere then picking up the phone for just a minute to let them know you are thinking about them..is a great way to keep things going...

Answer 3

You don't have to but why wouldn't you want to. If you are close enough to this person that you have been intimate don't you want to hear his/her voice and talk to him/her and share your day and your thoughts? The biggest part of being intimate is sharing your life so I think you would want to and that you would feel like something was missing if you did not talk or communicate in some way. Absence may make the heart grow fonder but it can also make the heart wander.

Answer 4

Great Question

Ive often asked myself the same thing. It depends on how far and what this relationship means to both parties.

If its just physical, then I'd say , keep conversations minimal, however, if the relationship is going towards something serious, id say give it a shot.

Answer 5

all of the answers i see befor mine are all right. the problem there is, they are all wrong too...

Each and every relationship is different, it is up to the couple to make the decision on how often they talk to each other...

in my fairly new relationship, we both seem to want to talk to each other all the time:) I'm talking to her on the phone until 4 in the morning some times, and then getting up for work at 6;)

it all depends...

Answer 6

It depends on the people and what exactly they are comfortable with. I think that once you decide to be exclusive, then communicating every day is normal and healthy, but if either party is still dating around, then it seems silly to talk every day. Still, it's whatever that man and woman decide.

Answer 7

No, you don't HAVE to. There is no "rules" about the frequency. If the two of you feel like talking / e-mailing everyday, then do it! My b/f and I e-mail each other constantly throughout the day. We talk on the phone twice a day (morning & night).

Answer 8

No, of course not. They should talk whenever they feel like talking. I wouldn't talk to a guy unless I really needed to. I have a life to live, you know.

Answer 9

Possible.
It depends upon their agreements and the need to get in touch with each other.

Answer 10

No Not at all...

Absense makes the heart grow fonder.

having the space even in eary days gives you cahnce to decied if it is for you, and let you head settle ;-)