Ive dated this lovely guy on 3 separet occassions:
1st A few drinks
2nd Meal & drinks
3rd Cinema, Meal & drinks
I havent got my wallet out yet, do you think I should buy the drinks this Thurs when we meet? Hes coming up to where I live in a few weeks should I pay then? Or not at all???
2006-10-25 02:20:31 · 25 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think you should make a big deal out of it. As a guy, he probably expects to pay for the dates anyway. Having said that, I always find it nice when the lady _offers_ to pay. I usually end up insisting that I pay anyway, but the offer is nice.
So, on your next date, go ahead and offer to get the tab. Either way - either he insists on paying himself, or he lets you pay - it will work out fine.
No big deal.....
2006-10-25 02:24:16 · answer #1 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally this is how I feel:
If you want to pay then offer to pay if you really dont want to pay then dont offer.
If you offer to pay and he says, "No, your money's no good hear." Or something like it, then I say let him pay. It shows that he would take care of you.
If you offer to pay and he lets you pay, I say thats good to because that means he understands that you are an independent woman.
Now if the bill came and you to fuss about who should pay thats like who's got the "pants", control. So I wouldnt go back and forth about the bill.
I will add this to, a couple of things you may want to think about for your last times with him and watch this next time you are with him: How he treats your waitress. And waiter but only the difference. Here's why:
If he tips the waitress to much, I think hes one of two thing insecure or flirting. (Same if he over tips a guy, insecure.)
If he tips a waitress OK but then a waiter really well then he values a man over a woman.
If he just tips poorly over all hes probably not such a great guy.
If he tips all equally means hes a balanced man.
I know it sounds funny but I read this in an article, wrote by a man, and all I can say is that it helped me.
Plus its all about you too, if you want a guy who will take care of you or if you like to be the strong person and take care of him. Its what you like.
But I say at least offer to pay and see where it goes from there. Good luck, I hope it works out!
2006-10-25 09:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by KittyKattsMeow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to pay next time you see him its only fair. He sounds like a lovely bloke so he probably won't let you, but he'll be chuffed you made the gesture. Most guys are prepared to pay but it shouldn't just be expected! I know some girls who go out with guys and don't take ANY money with them at all!!!!! To me this is so wrong, why should the guy pay for everything? When I first started dating my boyfriend we went dutch most of the time, now we tend to take it in turns to treat each other. Hope this helps and good luck with your date!
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2006-10-25 09:40:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Offer to pay. but after dating for 3 years it should be both ways.
2006-10-25 09:44:51 · answer #4 · answered by frankie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how you feel about the guy.
If you really like him and want to see himagain , I say you pay. Here's why, when and if this becomes serious, youre going to want him to know that youre strong independent and willing to share in various aspects of the relationship.
he'll like that
2006-10-25 09:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by ijustcamehere4freefood 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its nice to offer to pay for a few drinks here and there, but i would expect him to pay for the honour of my company mostly.....
thats sexist i know, but i also expect that i will do most of the getting up with the kids in the night so i think it evens its self out!
2006-10-25 09:31:18 · answer #6 · answered by kt_sub2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pay for your drinks if you can afford them. Don't let the guy pay your share when you can do it yourself. I'm a firm believer in 50/50 dating.
2006-10-25 12:33:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him pay, but don't forget to say thank you.
And if you have a time to go for a coffee or something light, than buy him the coffee.
He will appreciate that.
2006-10-25 09:37:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too right this time you should pay for the hotel room.
4th Sex.
It's the unwritten rule - everyone knows to put out on the 4th or it's not going anywhere.
2006-10-25 09:24:44 · answer #9 · answered by mark leshark 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should at least offer to buy one drink,if he says no then let him pay for everything
2006-10-25 09:35:29 · answer #10 · answered by oldjr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋