I asked this in the friends section last night, but I would like you guys over here's opinions too...
What do you do if you have a friend that will make plans but never show. And have email conversations, but leave you hanging and stop replying. When you call him out on it and say "What is up with you leaving me hanging?" and he yells at you saying that he has more important stuff going on besides you and he doesn't have to answer TO you anyway. And he also says that you are behaving like you are more than friends.
We were once friends with benefits, but we aren't any longer. I am dating someone different now, and he knows that.
Obviously, he has anger issues. But why would I become his punching bag? And how do I deal with that? This is the second time this has happened.
2006-10-25 02:14:37 · 21 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said it yourself, you were once friends with benefits. Why did it end? I'll tell you, YOU had more feelings and intentions than he did. So when he reacts like that, it's because he feels you still have feelings for him and you act clingy. So he responds in that manner, so you get his point. It's not anger issues, it's just that he's not interested in you and when you act like that, he thinks you do and will push you as far away as he can. A little bit of advice, i've been there done that, leave him alone. He will continue to act like that b/c to him, you still have feelings and he never did. If you leave him alone and everytime you see him, you act extremely happy, he will try to hang with you or try to kick it to you. It's odd but if you show any type of feelings he will NOT want to see, speak, or hang with you. So act like nothing is wrong and you don't care, and you'll be better off. You will never get your friendship back to the way it was before you two hooked up. So you need to realize that whether you have a boyfriend or not, it will never be the same.
2006-10-25 02:25:11 · answer #1 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be trying to prove that he only considers you a friend and nothing more - prove it to himself, not to you. I think he may have unresolved feelings for you, and this is his way of dealing with it. Not very healthy, but a lot of guys will take out their anger on other people instead of trying to discover why they're really angry. If he's treating you like a punching bag, try ignoring him for a while, and let him resolve his feelings. If you like him too, break up with the other guy, let this one know you're free to accept attention from other guys, and then just give it a bit of time. If you're really not interested in this 'friend', I would stop talking to him, online and in real life. You don't need to be treated badly just because he can't figure out he likes you. Good luck!
2006-10-25 02:20:24 · answer #2 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You REALLY need to stop talking to him. I've seen this happen to friend before and it means that hes either resentful that you're in a relationship with someone and now he cant get any. or He's a total *** and feels that now that you're in a relationship there is no use for you anymore( i know it sounds harsh but that's how guys can be.) My friend went through the same thing and I'm telling you what i told her STOP ALL CONTACT with him because at the end of the day you'll be the one that feels like ****!
2006-10-25 02:24:39 · answer #3 · answered by ponypuffgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, this guy is bad news on lots of levels. He is abusive to someone he considers a friend. What kind of boyfriend would this guy make to some poor woman? He is not worth your time as a friend. Start moving away from him. Eventually he will be a passing aquaintance; which is much better than having to perhaps duck his hand as it comes close to striking your body. Unless he learns to be a decent person, he doesn't deserve caring friends at all. He might learn to be better with a little distance from people he calls friends.
2006-10-25 02:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by the witch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have experience the same situation, he's telling you in a nice nasty way that you need to go your own way. The friendship is pretty much over with, just stick with the person you are seeing now. If he want to talk back to you friends, or even more, trust me , he will give you a call and make it seem that you are the one leaving him hanging!
2006-10-25 02:23:14 · answer #5 · answered by Step 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girlfriend let me enlighten your senses. Heeeelllllooooo he's basically letting you know he don't give a s--- about you.Did you catch feelings while you were reaping benefits? maybe he thinks your sweating him, so don't call him or e-mail his a-- anymore that way he'll have time to miss you.And if he doesn't oh well that's what you got a new friend with benefits for. Do you and forget him!!!! life goes on.
2006-10-25 02:28:05 · answer #6 · answered by free2lovebadboyz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you really need to let him go. If he has anger issues with things that are as small as this I would hope that it would not get worse if you know what I mean. You should cut him off now.
2006-10-25 03:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by stackman71 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to be this guys punching bag? He wants friendship only if and when it is convenient for him, and this has happened before, which is what you can expect if you remain friends with him.
2006-10-25 02:21:35 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd drop him like a bad habit! This "man" is an idiot. It doesn't matter if you had "relations" before. You NEVER treat another human being like that ... NEVER. It's a respect thing.
My advice - don't be available. Stop writing him and talking to him. Act like he doesn't exist. :)
2006-10-25 02:21:16 · answer #9 · answered by singlebravesfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to go on with your life he sounds like a jerk sorry to say and likes to play games with people feeling.... He isn't worth the time and space in your life for that crap
2006-10-25 06:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋