I ask this because I've read where threesomes have the potential to ruin relationships - and the two people closest to my girlfriend (me, her boyfriend, and also her best friend) will be involved. Everybody seems cool with the idea right now and I am looking forward to it, but I don't want anything bad to come out of this.
Should I be concerned?
2006-10-25 02:08:46 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
stratis c - shouldn't you be in school right now?
2006-10-25 02:11:38 · update #1
FYI - my girlfriend's best friend is another girl (just to avoid confusion)
2006-10-25 03:17:06 · update #2
Make sure you spend most of you time with YOUR gf and not the other girl....this will stop all concern......
Have fun.
2006-10-25 02:10:34 · answer #1 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you really have to ask if this is a bad idea??? Look, if it doesn't bite you on the butt immediately, it is going to do it eventually. No sensible woman wants to see her guy have sex with another woman if she cares about the relationship. If she is in favor of this and was the one who brought it up; then consider that she might not be that into you longterm. And if it was you who suggested it...........no, just accept that it is not a great idea.
Trust me, even if she agrees with your little idea, she will bring it back to haunt you painfully some day. Do not do it. Don't do it if you want to...and don't do it if it was her brilliant idea.
You cannot nurture a true relationship based on a rocky foundation. And this would make the foundation non-existent completely.
2006-10-25 02:20:02 · answer #2 · answered by the witch 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on your girlfriend and what issues you have with having intercourse with another person. You have to be sure you are ok with such intimacy, and if you think your girlfriend will be. Remember that just because she suggests it, doesn't mean she deep down wants to do it. So it's all a matter of how well you know your girlfriend, and how much guilt, if any, you think the threesome might cause.
Perhaps I can't read very well, but I could have sworn the asker indicated that this is not his original idea, so why some people are telling him this is a bad idea of his, I don't know.
2006-10-25 02:12:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course things are going to change when you engage in this. You may very well fall for someone else in the group or you may become disgusted of it and the others that you will become distant. Exploring is natural I am told but yes there will be definite changes. I suggest you take this question up with the others and see where they are at. I saw on a talk show last week where a couple (women) and a guy live this lifestyle. They said they do sometimes get gelous of one another but they also speak their feelings. Be as open with your feelings as you possibly can and understand that things will be different but maybe for the better, good luck!
2006-10-25 02:17:20 · answer #4 · answered by Casper 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is no way you will ever be able to get the image of your girlfriend having sex with another guy out of your head. Ever. Make sure that this is the kind of relationship where sex is the primary focus and you're not going to take it any farther. Because if you do plan on being more than just sexual, or if this is a long-term relationship (or one with that kind of potential) you will ruin it.
2006-10-25 02:56:09 · answer #5 · answered by irish1269 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually bro, threesomes could only ruin a relationship if each or just one of the parties involve is weak enough not to control his/her feelings...
I guess you know what I mean.. everything will just depend on the three of you.. if the bestfriend of your girlfriend is really just a friend for you, I mean, you're not hiding any feeling or attraction to her either, then it's no big deal! As long as she knows you're the boyfriend of her bestfriend, and you've got the full trust of your girl, and in return your loyalty to her, then I really think everything will just run smoothly.. no trouble at all..
2006-10-25 02:21:30 · answer #6 · answered by jann kyle_upvcc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm yes and no.
It has the potential to be a good time but it could also make things akward between you all. Also some girls get jealous, because she might think you are paying more attention to her friend now that this has happened and little stuff like that. I mean it just depends on how laid back your girlfriend is, if she is comfortable with it i would go for it. ^_^
Best wishes
2006-10-25 02:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by Amanda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I had a threesome with her best friend, and it actually helped us get closer. Make sure you give your girlfriend the lions share of attention, and take the lead, be the one who sets the pace, and set it as slow as you can stand it. Don't push for anything. Relax and enjoy, and remember, kissing is key. The more kissing there is, the better the threesome is for everyone.
2006-10-25 07:15:34 · answer #8 · answered by Sean J 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is something that you will regret in the long run. Simply because you are questioning the idea of this, means that you have some doubt. Listen to that voice inside of you, it's a warning to take the higher road. If you do this, the relationships you have will be forever changed. You won't get them back the way they were. What seems like a good idea at the moment, may take someone, like yourself, to set an example of discipline. Believe me, you will respect yourself more, if you do.
2006-10-25 02:16:43 · answer #9 · answered by Linda S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Usually if you really want to have a threesome it is better for the third person to be someone neither of you care about. It may seem like a good idea right now but after it is done the odds are there will be some hurt feelings. Good luck.
2006-10-25 02:11:52 · answer #10 · answered by elainecynthia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
II don;t think anything bad will come out of it in the words of all things rap music "leave them haters alone"!
People often think that if a person questions somthing they are about to do they have doubts. I questioned myself a million times before I bought my car because I had doubts about the purchase did not mean that it was wrong or I should not do it it just means that I don;t take or make decisions lightly.
I believe from what you have said and having seen your question before that you are ready for the best experience of your life.
Enjoy
2006-10-25 02:16:44 · answer #11 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋