I read a question the other day about this lady who is having behaivoral problems with her teen boys and someone answered "thats what happens when you have kids out of wedlock". What kind of crap is that? who are these people to judge someone they dont know who is asking for advice? My kids are also out of wedlock both from the same dad we didnt married because he was abusive so I got my babies and got out. I raise them by myself, I dont get public assistance and I have a good job and attend colleg part time. My kids (2 boys ages 6 and 11) are very well behaived and make good grades, having kids out of wedlock has nothing to do with how a child acts, Im very proud of my boys, its funny though the two neihbor boys whos parents are married and they are "Christian" get into more trouble and have had the law called on them imagine that, my wedlock kids are more behaived then the christian kids down the road, who Ive had to call the cops ona couple of times. Why do people judge so much?
2006-10-25 01:48:26 · 12 answers · asked by onehotmama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
People like that are just ignorant. You are living proof of that. We can only sit and wonder the skeletons in closets of those who speak as that.
2006-10-25 02:42:22 · answer #1 · answered by classy&sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way to stand up for us single parents! I had a daughter out of wedlock, she is almost 13 and she does not have any behavioral problems. My daughter gets good grades, has a lot of friends, plays sports and I do not receive public assistance either. People judge because they are not in that situation and they don't understand. It doesn't make it right, but I hear it all the time. Working mothers get judged for working. People just don't know what they are talking about half the time! Good job trying to set them straight though!
2006-10-25 01:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by jadedgirl149 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
They are called old religious nutty idiots. I don't have any kids yet, but I intend too. I don't plan on having them until I get married, but if for some reason I did, it wouldn't mean they were any better or worse then the one I had after marriage. I see nothing wrong with kids out of wedlock. You just have to ignor some people, because they are buttholes and can point the finger at other people, but never back at themselves. Congrats on getting out of a bad situation and one your wonderful boys.
2006-10-25 04:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are really cruel. they want to blame things on everything and having a child out of wedlock according to some people is wrong. It happens and always will. I have two and they are great. having two parents makes no difference. it is in the way they are raised and brought up. children born in a good marriage or not end up the same way.
2006-10-25 04:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to validate this creeps stereotyping but what he probably should have said was that children out of wedlock or broken homes (not my definition the worlds) tend to have emotional issues. When they have a loving parent whose strong and stable like yourself they are not as likely but still it happens more. I think this place could use some advice from you like what would you say is the main reason your children are well behaved. So are mine I'm just giving you a chance at the soap box.
2006-10-25 02:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by delux_version 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people are just cruel and feel they need to judge to make themselves feel better.I also have a child out of wedlock..big deal she is almost three and her dad and I were together for 5 years.....the ring does not change the parent you are...it is the way you raise your children.If you make them feel safe and loved and discipline them when it is needed,then it will be okay int he end.If children have issues a lot of them have nothing to do with the way they are being raised just more weather or not the understand what is going on around them...Thank you for your support I take it personally ....and GOOD LUCK to you and YOURS
2006-10-25 03:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by thunder_rainclouds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you 100%. I know people who are married and have behaivoral problems with their kids. Behaivoral problems in kids have nothing to do with being born out of wedlock.
2006-10-25 01:54:58 · answer #7 · answered by Tony G 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
HAVING CHILDREN OUT OF WEDLOCK IS NOT A NEW THING! NO MATTER WHAT YOUR CIRCUMSTANCE, IF YOU RAISE YOUR KIDS RIGHT, THEY WILL USUALLY DO WELL IN LIFE...BUT FROM MY OWN EXPERIENCE, KIDS WILL OFTEN DO WHAT THEY WANT TO, NO MATTER WHO THEIR PARENTS ARE, MARRIED, DIVORCED, SINGLE, AND NO MATTER HOW THEY ARE RAISED. THAT'S LIFE... HOPEFULLY THEY GROW TO BE GOOD LOVING PEOPLE, SOME DO ,SOME DON'T. GOOD LUCK.
2006-10-25 01:58:32 · answer #8 · answered by boots 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i like the way u think I'm a single mom also i may have been married with my first child but the second one i wasn't so what is this get married to have kids thing is supped we love our kids married or not we are probable happier not being married I like your quest.
2006-10-25 01:57:22 · answer #9 · answered by mom 2boys 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IGNORANCE...Some people forget that what they throw to the wind, always comes back stronger...Good luck with your little ones....They sound super!! Good job, mom!
2006-10-25 01:53:04 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋