Last night we were talking about cheating and what defines cheating. But my boyfriend thinks it's ok that if two strangers come up to him and say "hey were gonna get it on, do you wanna watch"? He said heck yea he would watch. I know the odds of that happening are not in his favor but just to think he thinks it's ok is driving me crazy. We have been together for 6 months. Please let me know what you think.
2006-10-25 01:19:44 · 16 answers · asked by Vanessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh don't pay any attention to that my boy friend has said something smilier to me and i also think it may be a turn on but, i would never do it and neither would he its talk only.
2006-10-25 01:25:22 · answer #1 · answered by sammy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be every man's fantasy---keep it at that----don't let him talk you into anything you don't think is right. You don't need the guilt feelings associated with doing something you really didn't want to do. As for him---he's allowed to have these fantasies. But if he acts on them to make them a reality, without your permission, then I would have doubts about him ever becoming a good sincere and faithful mate for the future.
2006-10-25 01:34:34 · answer #2 · answered by babeboomer 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't see your 12 month anniversary, for sure. If he thinks it's okay to watch 2 women, find women somewhere in the 60's or 70's who have a sense of humor, go to his house and tell him you wanted to fulfill his fantasy. Why do the empty headed, worthless idiots turn out to be the one's that drive immature females to distraction is beyond me.
2006-10-25 01:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by older, not wiser 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awwww cmon, you mean to tell us that you have never looked at a hot guy you have seen in a magazine or a movie star and thought to yourself, "oh, I want him" of course you have and if you say you haven't then you are lying. So whats the difference? None that's what. watching porno, reading magazines is not cheating in the least. Physical contact and sexual connection within the context of the act itself is cheating. Grow up and get over it.
2006-10-25 01:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by MrNiceGuy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a fairly common fantasy, and pretty harmless as long as the guy doesn't act on it. You can dump the guy if you want, but your next BF will very possibly harbor the same kinds of fantasies.
Your responsibility is to make it clear to the guy that he's welcome to his fantasies, but that acting on this particular fantasy is a deal breaker for you.
These fantasies never play out in real life the way guys imagine them, so I doubt he'd rreally ever manage to pull such an encounter together.
2006-10-25 01:30:02 · answer #5 · answered by chocolahoma 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm if he said no he wouldnt watch i would think he was weird. He is of course a man. as long as he wouldnt try to be with another women, stranger or not, i would just let it go. If women stop letting there men be men then why be with a man go get another chick cause thats what your going to have. **** I'm not a lesbian but if my man wanted to watch I would watch with him then turn around and jump on him....
2006-10-25 01:33:07 · answer #6 · answered by Laprincessa1182 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl,wake up and smell the coffee most men would entertain the thought and join in if allowed.It's a man fantasy to have two woman.Men seem to accept gay woman and hate gay men.It's a man thing.
2006-10-25 01:31:36 · answer #7 · answered by Nai Nai 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most men have this fantasy at some time or another. If one of the women involved is not you, then it IS cheating!
2006-10-25 01:26:47 · answer #8 · answered by rebecca_sld 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly watch, but only if my wife said it was OK.
There is a difference between entertainment and hurting your significant other's feelings !
If she said no or was uncomfortable with it, I wouldn't give it a second thought.
2006-10-25 01:32:08 · answer #9 · answered by jarhed 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think most men would watch.
2006-10-25 01:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by SheRa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋